Camille~
Those are some very complex and hard questions. We have learned a lot living here--especially about being grateful for small things. Things like being back where there are sidewalks, and having our meat being cut with a clean saw and not hacked up with a dirty axe on a wooden chopping block that gets salt put on it each evening to "clean" it; knowing our hostess has used hot water and dish soap to wash her hands and cooking utensils when we ea, having consistent running water; and no one from the migration police sitting outside our house pretending to read a paper in his car.
However, hard these things are, we are going to miss that you can show up unannounced at any time to have a cup of tea with a friend; that there are people who take their faith very seriously (enough to receive threats from their own family members of their legs being broken for their belief), and that I can send my kids out to play without any fear whatsoever of being kidnapped or molested.
Typically, folks who've lived overseas in such settings as ours come back with a lot of adjustment to do. It is hard to not be cynical about the amount of waste of products- especially food. We also have a hard time with people being stressed out over the seemingly littlest things. We see people struggling to get meat even once a week and most wouldn't dream of putting Pampers on thier kids- yet, it's a major deal in the West if the cable isn't working for the big game.
Don't get me wrong. It doesn't usually take long to reassimilate into American culture, but I think we will always be different because of our time here.
My youngest really only know
this place as their home, and don't particularly want to return. I think, had we not decided to move into Dad's house on the river, it would have been even harder to help them accept moving back. The oldest kids, especially Andrew, my oldest, never really fit in here, and wants to go back.
We've taken many train trips here- all have been bad, except the last one. We tried a new train which is new and clean. They actually use a vacuum cleaner on the carpets and hose the entire bathroom down more frequently.
The capital city is over 800 miles from our city, and flying with 6 or 7 people is very expensive, whereas the train is next to nothing. HA! A classic case of "you get what you pay for".