an 18 year old wants to take a 25 year old to a prom

[Papa Deuce]

Right now it is 23 yes, 23 no, 3 not sure...... interesting.

 

[MichelleVW]

As a parent of a 16 year old, I don't think I'd be happy with a 25 year old there as someone's prom date.....25 should be out of college not dating high school kids........(I am 8 years older than my husband, but I wouldn't have been interested in him when I was 25!!)

The 25 year old can/should be hanging out with the younger teachers, not the students....and really shouldn't be dating one of them...

flame away if you want, but I really do think there should be an age limit....

 

[robinb]

I have no problem with it. I'm sure that my high school prom date was over 21! I'm not really sure why a 25-year old wants to go to a prom, but if he does it would be OK with me.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

if a student at my kid's school wants to bring a non-student to a dance, they have to fill out forms and get approval, which includes a letter of character recommendation from a teacher or pastor etc.

Honestly, I don't think the school would approve a 25year old, just because the chaperones at the dance would have a very difficult time placing limits upon an adults behavior.

I'm also not sure how I feel about it. I guess it would depend upon that particular 25year old.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Ay yi yi.

What if a poor dear was 17, wanted to go to the prom, didn't have a date, but then her nice uncle offered to take her as her escort?

This happened a lot in the 50's and 60's and no one batted an eye.

The girl is 18 and should be able to take her own choice of prom date unless it was clearly stated there was an age limit from the get-go.

In the stated case, it is not like the girl's parents dislike the guy, too. I can see if they've determined that he is not suitable for their child, etc. Why on earth would they want her to go with someone else?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

WTH? It's no one's business how old her boyfriend is. She's 18, she's an adult. When I was 18, I was with a 23 year old. And there is no written rule, it's really not fair that she has everything paid for, and now can't go.

 

[Cass]

I voted no, but then I realized when I was 18 I dated a 28 year old

So I'd like to change my vote to Yes

 

[Rock'n Robin]

At the HS where I teach any date who is not a student at our school must fill out a permission form and have a photo ID (our students have to have photo IDs as well). Students from other schools have to have their principal sign the form. I don't know what kids out of school have to do.
I used to chaperone prom and the occasional older date was a huge joke. They are always uncomfortable because their date's friends have dates who are 18 or 19--usually one in his mid-20s is the only one that age in the room. The kids think it's hysterical. We had a boy--man?--once ask to go to his car to get something. It is our policy that everyone must be accompanied to cars to retrieve items. If someone leaves, there is no readmittance. We told him someone would walk him out and he said "I'm 26 years old, I don't need someone to walk out with me!!" The chaperones thought it was pretty funny.
We had one senior girl who was dating a man about 27(they eventually married--her dad used to teach with me) and decided to go to prom with just her girlfriends. As she said, "once you have a retirement plan, you shouldn't be going to prom!"
Robin M.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

At the high school my kids attended, the policy was well advertised that any guests had to be younger than 21 years old. I think the issue of bringing alcohol in may play a part in the decision.

 

[KristiKelly]

I don't see a problem as long as the parents are okay with it. When I was 18 my prom date was 22. We're now married with 3 kids.

 

[nsyncraider17]

I don't think there should be an age limit. If the concern is that chaperones would have a hard time controlling adult dates, maybe they could have a contract that an over-18, not from the school date would have to sign acknowledging the school's rules for the prom? I would think most people's concern would be that a 24 year old would be more likely to engage in innappropriate behavior or bring alcohol.

if a student at my kid's school wants to bring a non-student to a dance, they have to fill out forms and get approval, which includes a letter of character recommendation from a teacher or pastor etc.

Sorry, but that's ridiculous. The year after I graduated, my high school required non-student dates to get permission from the school in order to go to prom, and I think if they went to a different high school they had to get a form signed by their principal. I had been a major goody two-shoes in high school, graduated almost at the top of my class, every teacher in the school knew me and would say hi to me in the hall. I thought it was really stupid that I had to get permission to go back to my own school's prom with my boyfriend, the same person who I had gone with the year before.

 

[transparant]

No. I don't think it's okay.

 

[java]

18-25 doesn't seem like that big a deal - but high school? That is the wierd part of it. Would a 25 year old feel at ease with a bunch of high schoolers? That is the strange part I guess. But hey - they are dating and she is ok with it and he is ok with it so I guess go and have fun.
When I was 18 I dated a 35 year old guy. So maybe that is why I am a little more ok with it-but I was in college when I was 18(a sophmore actually)

 

[mylilnikita]

It is a Senior Prom, 16 year olds wouldnt' be there, unless they were a guest. I don't think anyone would be creeped out. My friend who did go to prom did take a 24 yr old Army guy who had a kid, but no one cared. If she can vote and join the military at this age, why can't she just get her prom on?

As for bringing in alcohol or whatever, students really wouldn't need an older guy/girl to bring that in. If they want to drink or do drugs, they will find a way to do it regardless, not to mention the party after the prom.

 

[Beth76]

Hmmmm, I think I'm going to have to go with no on this one. 24 isn't that bad of an age difference. But what if the guy was 45? I think a line needs to be drawn somewhere and it should be pretty low. Like maybe 20 and under. I would imagine if the school doesn't already have a policy about this, they will for next year.

 

[LuluLovesDisney]

Hmmmm, I think I'm going to have to go with no on this one. 24 isn't that bad of an age difference. But what if the guy was 45? I think a line needs to be drawn somewhere and it should be pretty low. Like maybe 20 and under. I would imagine if the school doesn't already have a policy about this, they will for next year.

Agreed. "Anything goes" leads to problems. Also, schools getting permission from non-school dates is necessary in this day and age. Taking prom attendance is a huge responsibility. If one child molestor, school shooter, etc. sneaks in or one drunk/drugged student dies or one mistake is made, the school will be the one in trouble and they will blame it on the teacher/chaperone that didn't check the forms. Now, if a student lies on a form, that would absolve the school of legal responsibilities. Most places generally say 21 is the limit.

 

[MichelleVW]

It is a Senior Prom, 16 year olds wouldnt' be there, unless they were a guest. .

I went to prom's all four years of high school..so I'm sure there will be 16 year old's there......and I don't believe that 25 year old men need to be at prom unless they are chaperoning...


I don't understand the parents either ....but it's not my kid, or not my kid's school so whatever...

 

[LisaNJ25]

I didn't realize schools would look into that kind of thing. I don't think we ever had to name our dates to our prom (or even if they went to our school or not) She's an adult, let him go. I doubt anyone would even notice or care that he was there.

same here... If so I wouldn't of been able to go to mine.. I was 17 and dh 23 at the time. I was 6 months pregnant and didnt want to go anyway

 

[4nana]

They've had a 6 mos relationship, so why not? It's not like it's a one night stand for heaven's sake. I was 17 and invited a 27yo to my senior prom. He became my DH, it's last 43 yrs and still going strong!

 

[believe]

A classmate of mine took her much older boyfriend to the prom with her. They are now happily married.