Okay...long day at the office!!! I was in a meeting this morning in which 95% (probably more) had NOTHING to do with my job!!!!! So I pulled up the DISboard on my phone and read....Breezy shhhhh.....
Anyway I need to come to my sensible DISfriends who are Poly lovers for some unbiased, HONEST advice....
Okay...I am turning the big 40 this year and in fear that we weren't going to book another vacation to WDW I told DH that I would like to go to WDW for my 40th. The next thing I know we are also celebrating my DISbil 50th and my DNiece's 21st (insert: omg you are tooooo young to have a 21 year old niece

). Anyway, now my bday is coming up in August and feeling a little gipped....
DH had a party for his 30th and 40th [30th told me he preferred not to, but I did it and 40th decided let's have something with immediate family(one more side note DH did NOTHING for my 30th and I was pissed!!!)]. Now it is my turn and even though I'm thrilled to be going to WDW and THRILLED that everyone agreed to switch back to the Poly (at my request) instead of the WL....I still feel kind of gipped....this is just (okay never "just") another family vacation to WDW.
My DH wasn't planning anything...zip...nada...when I asked if anything was going on. I pressed a little and he said my Mom was planning something..

Okay....Now he feels guilty...I don't know what I want...and he is getting frustrated with me. We aren't going until October and personally that is really where my heart is ...Disney. However, in the real world going in August won't work with the kids needing to return to school the day after my bday.
HELP!!!!! I don't know if I want a party, I don't know if I want to go out for dinner....I just want to go to WDW and relax by the pool and have a cocktail, but that is not possible

Yes. I am whining.
This party is going to be for everyone but me (which I am not good about giving anything for just me - it's always about everyone else i.e. part of the reason I asked to go to WDW).
Few additional things that I have thought about: I don't want to go to the spa (waste of time for a shorter than usual trip); cabana would be used by everyone in my party; gift card to spend until my heart's content on Food and Wine (but I will end up paying for everyone else);
MNSSHP - okay thinking of the kids and DH instead of me; STOP WHINING and turn 40 with dignity!!!!
DIS friends - flame away!!!!!