Age limits...how strict?

[ducklite]

As I see it, it has nothing to do with Disney, it has everything to do with raising your kids to respect others.

Lying about age is just one little piece of the microcosm known as life. Children can not process the difference between lying about age and lying about who broke mommy's vase, or lying about the handgun that the older kid at school keeps in his locker.

Anne

 

[Cool-Beans]

As I see it, it has nothing to do with Disney, it has everything to do with raising your kids to respect others.

Lying about age is just one little piece of the microcosm known as life. Children can not process the difference between lying about age and lying about who broke mommy's vase, or lying about the handgun that the older kid at school keeps in his locker.

Anne

Yeah they can. They know it is OK to lie at the movie theater, but if they lie to me they're in deep doo-doo.

Children learn little by little what is OK and what isn't. Honestly, I think kids have a lot more sense than most grown-ups. How does that happen?

I'm not suggesting people do things they don't want to do because I might do them. But I'm as entitled to my opinion as anyone, right?

And I'm an OK mom. My kids have turned out pretty well so far.

 

[dalt01]

oh yeah, i forgot that one, about lying at the movie ticket line, that stinks too.

 

[ducklite]

Yeah they can. They know it is OK to lie at the movie theater, but if they lie to me they're in deep doo-doo.

Children learn little by little what is OK and what isn't. Honestly, I think kids have a lot more sense than most grown-ups. How does that happen?

I'm not suggesting people do things they don't want to do because I might do them. But I'm as entitled to my opinion as anyone, right?

And I'm an OK mom. My kids have turned out pretty well so far.

What you do'nt realize is the cognitive imbalance this puts on your childs mind. Maybe it will work out OK for them, but I'm telling you from a scientific standpoint, what you are doing to their minds could have long lasting repercussions.

As they get older things can manifest out of lessons learned in early childhood. And when their boss catches them lying and terminates them, what will you say?

I just terminated a guy for lying to me. If he had told me the truth, he would have gotten a written reprimand, but he would have remained an employee. Now he is without a job, denied u/e, and has a "No" as the answer to if he is eligible for rehire.

Anne

 

[Cool-Beans]

What you do'nt realize is the cognitive imbalance this puts on your childs mind. Maybe it will work out OK for them, but I'm telling you from a scientific standpoint, what you are doing to their minds could have long lasting repercussions.

As they get older things can manifest out of lessons learned in early childhood. And when their boss catches them lying and terminates them, what will you say?

I just terminated a guy for lying to me. If he had told me the truth, he would have gotten a written reprimand, but he would have remained an employee. Now he is without a job, denied u/e, and has a "No" as the answer to if he is eligible for rehire.

Anne

My kids aren't little. I'm not experimenting with How To Parent. The "consequences" would have shown up by now. They're good kids.

They are big-hearted, generous, loving, accepting people. One leaves for Princeton next month and is going to abide by the honor code. My guess is he'll do fine. If he goes to work for you when he's done and lies to you and you fire him, I guess I'll say, "Dumb-***!" Somehow I doubt that'll happen, but you never know.

I've got 6 more years before they are all gone, but regardless of how bright they are, they are all good, kind people. If they turn into good business people, that's fine. If not, that's fine, too. It isn't for everyone.

Now that this is turning into a thread about how y'all are much better people (and parents) than I, I'll leave you to it - no hard feelings.

 

[Deweysgirl]

We were just at Garden Grill on the 4th. The waiter never asked my 11 year old daughter her age. He just assumed she would be eating from the adult platter and when the food came out, she wasn't too happy! So, I asked the waiter to bring her out a child's plate, which she enjoyed very much. When the bill came, I wondered how he would handle it. He charged her as an adult but there was no extra charge for the child's plate. That was fine, I think it was handled fairly. He also gave her the little fix your own cupcake that is included with the child's meal. I would not ask her to lie, I think it ended up fine without having to go that far.

I do HATE that disney charges her and kids that age these outrageous adult prices-they should definately consider junior/tween kids pricing. I think from age 9-13 would be fair. Once a teenager, than yes, go ahead with the adult price if they must. I know there are a lot of strapping young teenage boys (and maybe girls too) out there that eat twice as much as an adult. My brother, for starters!

 

[wendy_uk]

My DD who is 11 is a very small and picky eater, but we go to buffet style restaurants pay adult prices, but to me it means she gets to eat what she likes and probably eats more than she would off of an adults menu. I do disagree with children being classed as an adult at 9 years after all they can't drink, drive or vote so why an adult at 9?

 

[disneyfreakjackie]

Here's another tip for light eaters that do like adult foods but not the portions...

Many entrees can be made as a "half size."

For example, where two pork chops are offered, a single chop can often be ordered for half the price. Also half sized portions of many pasta dishes, or a smaller steak.

Just ask, they are usually happy to try and accomodate you!

Anne

Has anyone tried to do this as an adult!?? They always give SO MUCH food and half of it usually goes back uneaten!!

I do HATE that disney charges her and kids that age these outrageous adult prices-they should definately consider junior/tween kids pricing. I think from age 9-13 would be fair. Once a teenager, than yes, go ahead with the adult price if they must. I know there are a lot of strapping young teenage boys (and maybe girls too) out there that eat twice as much as an adult. My brother, for starters!

It wasn't that long ago that Disney considered a child ages 3 - 12 ... THAT was so much more fair IMO!!!

 

[ducklite]

Has anyone tried to do this as an adult!?? They always give SO MUCH food and half of it usually goes back uneaten!!

I know some people who have had gastric bypasses have reported doing this on the DIS. I can't imagine that they wouldn't try to accomodate those with lighter appetites. (I would still tip for a full entree if I did this.)

Anne

 

[bicker]

I do disagree with children being classed as an adult at 9 years after all they can't drink, drive or vote so why an adult at 9?

Children are not "classed as an adult." Disney has two prices: Regular prices, and discounted prices for children 3-9.

 

[n2mm]

When my 12 year old grandson orders from the child's menu, no one lies about his age. It is very obvious that he is older than 9. When we are seated the CM will ask what menu he wants and I tell them both. He chooses what he wants. Often he will order a child's meal and an adult's appetizer (or salad). Some places will offer him a larger child's meal and will add a couple of dollars on it (Kona's--he had pasta & sauce for about $9).

Like Ducklite, I too have gotten smaller adult meals. I guess folks here don't know about them. At the 50s PT they will offer a regular adult meal in smaller portions for a smaller price--I knew about this because they always tell my grandson that he can have anything on the menu and they will make it a child's version. I do this during every trip there (about 6-8 visits a year). I usually get the pot roast in a child's portion. It's about $6.99. This way I have room for desert (cake and strawberrys). This is the only place I've done this at.

 

[HolliePoppins]

Not to hijack the thread but I have a question. My son is 16 but a little picky and does like more things on the kids menu. We are on the dining plan. Has anyone ever been able to get something off the kids menu but get an adult portion? Thanks All

 

[HolliePoppins]

bumpy

 

[n2mm]

Not to hijack the thread but I have a question. My son is 16 but a little picky and does like more things on the kids menu. We are on the dining plan. Has anyone ever been able to get something off the kids menu but get an adult portion? Thanks All

I have always found the servers to be very accommodating. I'm sure if he wants a bigger portion of chicken fingers, they will take care of him and add a little more money to the cost, which is well worth it. One place I take my grandson to is Trails End. It would be right up your ally...all of my boys, big and small love this place--with fried chicken, chili, pizza, and mac/cheese, they all go wild. Of course it is buffet, but even paying the adult price for my 12 year old grandson is still worth it. (I think the adult lunch price is $11.99, which is still a bargain...)

 

[Lila95]

When we booked our trip and the dining plan, I told the CM my DD would turn 10 seven days into our 10 day trip. I thought they would charge me more for the last 3 days of the trip but they said it was not a problem, that they would keep her at the child price. I hope this is correct because we have reservations at buffet restaraunts the last two days we are there. I would never ask her to lie, but I don't want them thinking I had set out to cheat them. Now I wish I had the CM's name who told me this.

 

[ducklite]

When we booked our trip and the dining plan, I told the CM my DD would turn 10 seven days into our 10 day trip. I thought they would charge me more for the last 3 days of the trip but they said it was not a problem, that they would keep her at the child price. I hope this is correct because we have reservations at buffet restaraunts the last two days we are there. I would never ask her to lie, but I don't want them thinking I had set out to cheat them. Now I wish I had the CM's name who told me this.

It's all good. The age you start at is the age they use for your entire stay.

Anne

 

[HolliePoppins]

I have always found the servers to be very accommodating. I'm sure if he wants a bigger portion of chicken fingers, they will take care of him and add a little more money to the cost, which is well worth it. One place I take my grandson to is Trails End. It would be right up your ally...all of my boys, big and small love this place--with fried chicken, chili, pizza, and mac/cheese, they all go wild. Of course it is buffet, but even paying the adult price for my 12 year old grandson is still worth it. (I think the adult lunch price is $11.99, which is still a bargain...)

But they wouldnt add money on since we are on the dining plan right? He is already the adult price on the dining plan. I hope this is right.

 

[HolliePoppins]

bumped again

 

[Allison]

But they wouldnt add money on since we are on the dining plan right? He is already the adult price on the dining plan. I hope this is right.

I would say that is probably correct.

 

[disneychickforever]

this is awesome to know. I was looking at the menus for our trip...and one of the resturants we have a ressie for, (my mom's fave resturant) nothing on the adult menu looks good....so I'm very comforted that I can order off of the kiddy menu, and that I'm not going to get any strange looks.

Thanks All!!!