Affairs/Adultery...

[VSL]

Just wondering - anyone know of a case where a person has an affair, leaves his/her spouse, and s/he and the other person live 'happily ever after', so to speak?

(Oh, and back story please, to explain!)

 

[Tiggerlover91]

Just wondering - anyone know of a case where a person has an affair, leaves his/her spouse, and s/he and the other person live 'happily ever after', so to speak?

(Oh, and back story please, to explain!)

No, and why would you care?

 

[agotta]

No, and why would you care?

Wow, that didn't seem necessary.

I don't know of anyone personally, but have heard stories. I would guess in certain circumstances, where it is more of an emotional affair. But what would stick out in my mind would be,how could you ever trust that person?

 

[VSL]

Tiggerlover91 - Just curious. You hear of it all falling apart all the time, but I was just wondering if anyone knew of a case where it worked out differently.

(And NO! I'm not having an affair or anything )

Agotta - True. That would be a hard decision to make, and, like whether it would work out or not, would probably depend on circumstances.

 

[Laurajean1014]

No. My father left my mother for another woman and he then married her, but from what I hear (I no longer associate myself with him), he is just as miserable with the new wife.

I think happiness and true joy come from within - not from relying on others to make you happy.

I'm sure in movies, it happens all the time. Did you want to know about reality or the abstract?

 

[VSL]

agotta - True.

Laurajean1014 - Definitely the reality.

 

[Poohlovr]

As a matter of fact, I do...

My cousin (either 2nd or twice removed--I never did understand how that works) had evidently been seeing this woman several years prior to his divorce. Immediately after the divorce, they married and have been married in excess of 30 yrs.
Now, I don't see them often (at funerals seems to be about it) but they seem to be happy and still very much in love.

So, sometimes, I guess it does work.

 

[Froggyswife]

Wow, that didn't seem necessary.

I don't know of anyone personally, but have heard stories. I would guess in certain circumstances, where it is more of an emotional affair. But what would stick out in my mind would be,how could you ever trust that person?

Agrees

 

[tmt martins]

I know someone she's DW's GF and she has done this twice each time swearing it's forever.

 

[Marseeya]

DH has an uncle who's done this. He had an affair and he and the OW are still very much together now -- although they never really married. The family took a long time to accept her.

 

[vettechick99]

Yep! I know a couple, and they are so happy it's sickening. So it can happen, it's just not ideal or common.

 

[Feralpeg]

Yes, I know several. They were professional people who worked together. After awhile, they had more in common than they did with their spouses. They started seeing each other. They divorced their original spouses and married. In both cases, the men had children by their first wife. The woman didn't. In both cases, they have children from their second marriage. In one case, the woman eventually stopped working. In the other case, she moved to a different department, but still works for the same company.

Many times, I've seen couples who married young find that they later have very little in common.

 

[MoniqueU]

My neighbors who I don't like BTW.
He got his ex wife pregnant and his new wife pregnant while he was still married. The kids have birthdays about 2 months apart. The husband had been either a worker or a boss of the new wifes ex husband and they had all been friends at one time. The happy couple has been together at least since I have known them since 99.

 

[salmoneous]

Do Brad, Jen and Angelina count?

 

[Snow_White]

About 10 years ago, my uncle (really bad guy, I'm ashamed to be related to the cretin) cheated on his second wife (nice lady) with a school teacher (he was the principal at the same school! yikes). Wife #2 found a "love" letter and they were divorced soon after that. Within a few months, wonderful uncle married the teacher and she is now wife #3. They've been married for several years now and seem pretty happy (they're both pretty nasty people IMO).

 

[Ladyhawke10]

Ummm, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie?

From personal experience, I've heard of this happening quite often through friends. Of friend of mine was married to an alcoholic who wouldn't get his act together, she had an affair (she explained to me that married felt so hardcore--she didn't have the wherewithall to break it up). Finally, they got divorced, and she's now extremely happy, with someone new (but not with the same guy she had the affair with).

A family member of mine is remarried to someone they were (at first) having an affair with. They've been remarried now for over 25 years--happily and faithfully. Honestly, it looks like the affair can sometimes be a symptom of a bad marriage and not just that the cheater is truly awful or bound to be a serial cheater. Just what I've seen....

I've also had personal experience from being cheated on, and the person cheated in their next relationship as well. I don't think there are any rules....people and situations are all work out differently in these types of situations.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

I have a dear guy friend who about 10 years ago started an affair with one of my co-workers. He leaves wife 1, marries wife 2. They have been blissfully happy for the last 9 years - with 2 kids.

No cheating on his part since his new marraige.

 

[Rafiki Rafiki Rafiki]

Yes, but you don't hear about it very much.

It's hard for people who have been through something like that to be brazen enough to talk about it...especially when they completely grasp the enormity of the hurt their affair has caused others.

People in an affair are so often caught up in the feelings of the moment that they are oblivious to everything else around them.

Sometimes the new relationship fails because of the guilt involved. Sometimes it fails because the people weren't compatible. That's twice the number of reasons for the second relationship to fail.

 

[VSL]

Interesting - thanks for all the replies!

I was shocked with some news today (you can guess what it is related to!) and was wondering if it ever works out.

I'd forgotten about Brad and Angie

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

i know a couple. He cheated on his wife throughout the marriage and then they got divorced and he left his kids and remarried this woman and they are still together...ughhh not sure about happy, but they are together.