A TANF check and child support

[tianna26]

I found the statistics post funny I come from a single parent household will soon have my college degree in may, no drug problem, no kids, no criminal record etc. Wonder where my mom went wrong? Lol oh yeah i forgot to add i was born a week b4 my mom graduated h.s with honors

 

[crashbb]

And, before you tell me that I just don't understand statistics - my PhD is in biostatistics. I am well aware of the saying - "Torture your data long enough and they will admit to anything".

Can I borrow that saying As a college student myself it made me lol

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You are most welcome to it. I've heard that it was originally just "Torture your data long enough and it will confess" (and attributed to an economist, I think), but I've always heard/said that version. I like it better than the oft quoted "Lies, Damn Lies, and Statistics" - though that's true too.

In terms of the OP - I agree that your niece needs to go for child support from her baby's father before looking for government hand outs.

 

[bigmamimia]

Who do I contact on here if this "man" is now harrassing me through private messages?

 

[crashbb]

Who do I contact on here if this "man" is now harrassing me through private messages?

On the top right corner of the message there should be something that looks like a triangle with an exclamation mark inside it (red outline, white inside and black exclamation mark). Use it to report the PM.

 

[Marionnette]

Who do I contact on here if this "man" is now harrassing me through private messages?

It may take a little while for a moderator or webmaster to take care of him. In the mean time, you can block users.

To do it, go to <User CP> in the upper left corner of the left of the page when you are signed in.

Look under Settings and Options in the list on the left side of the next page. Click on <edit ignore list>.

Type the person's username in the open space under Add Member to Your List and click <Okay>.

They will no longer be able to PM you or place messages on your user page, and you won't see anything they post in threads unless someone quotes them.

I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. I read your first post in this thread and thought to myself, "Now there's a perfect example of how government aid should work. I admire you for working so hard to get where you are.

 

[bigmamimia]

Thank you Marrionette. Your kind words and acknowledgement have brought tears to my eyes.

 

[bigmamimia]

He must have beat me to the punch and blocked me because all his posts from this thread have disappeared. Good riddance!

 

[goofyfigment]

For some reason my post was removed. I didn't think I said anything wrong.

 

[crashbb]

He must have beat me to the punch and blocked me because all his posts from this thread have disappeared. Good riddance!

Actually, you'd not know that he blocked you (you'd still see his posts). His posts must have been deleted by a moderator. Even if you did block him, you'd still see that he posted - you'd just not see what he posted (it would show his name and say "you've blocked this poster" or something to that effect).

 

[khaoskat]

yes, i looked into this about 17 years ago in florida. i was told it can only be done if there is someone else adopting the child.
it was a long time ago, but i assume it's still the same...

That is what I said, someone has to be ADOPTING, you can not just go to curt and terminate your rights...

 

[khaoskat]

I am pretty sure every state requires the father to be named before state aid is available.

Taxpayer aid should be a last resort so typically a decent effort is made at getting support from the father.

It's really too bad your niece didn't choose adoption. There are a ton of stable couples with decent incomes who are infertile and want a baby. Adoption is really the best thing for the child. But unfortunately our country has some sort of taboo about adoption so it's not really talked about. Our country teaches people to be extremely selfish and have a me-first attitude about everything. The best thing for the child is the last consideration 99% young unmarried women (most either choose to abort it or to raise it themselves in an unstable broken home).

Wow, very judgmental you are.

I know many women who are fully capable of raising children as single parents (and father's who are capable of raising children as single dads). Those children turn out just fine.

 

[mistysue]

Wow, very judgmental you are.

I know many women who are fully capable of raising children as single parents (and father's who are capable of raising children as single dads). Those children turn out just fine.

Glad this was said.

 

[pocomom]

Wow, very judgmental you are.

I know many women who are fully capable of raising children as single parents (and father's who are capable of raising children as single dads). Those children turn out just fine.

we've all determined the pp poster you quoted was just pot stirring... he did a good job, got me all worked up , lol.

 

[squirrel]

For some reason my post was removed. I didn't think I said anything wrong.

Did you quote the other post that was removed? If so that's why it was removed.

If not, the moderator should send you a PM saying why it was deleted and what infraction you broke.

 

[goofyfigment]

I may have, I Dont quite remember whose post I quoted. I didn't receive a pm so I guess I didn't do anything wrong on my part

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

I may have, I Dont quite remember whose post I quoted. I didn't receive a pm so I guess I didn't do anything wrong on my part

I'm not the one doing the deleting, but if someone's post gets deleted usually the following posts that quote it also get deleted - cleaning up the thread.

 

[goofyfigment]

Thanks, I was worried I did something wrong.

 

[torinsmom]

One thing we need to teach our children is that they should never have sex with someone they wouldn't want to parent a child with, since anytime you have sex, you could get pregnant.

OP, the woman should definitely tell who the father is. It is his responsibility to help support his child, not the taxpayers'.

 

[sookie]

I am pretty sure every state requires the father to be named before state aid is available.

Taxpayer aid should be a last resort so typically a decent effort is made at getting support from the father.

It's really too bad your niece didn't choose adoption. There are a ton of stable couples with decent incomes who are infertile and want a baby. Adoption is really the best thing for the child. But unfortunately our country has some sort of taboo about adoption so it's not really talked about. Our country teaches people to be extremely selfish and have a me-first attitude about everything. The best thing for the child is the last consideration 99% young unmarried women (most either choose to abort it or to raise it themselves in an unstable broken home).

why shouldn't she be allowed to keep her baby if she is a suitable mother?

 

[OklahomaTourist]

That is what I said, someone has to be ADOPTING, you can not just go to curt and terminate your rights...

Not necessarily.

If the NCP has a criminal background, the state can pursue unilateral termination of that parent's rights without a pending adoption. An acquaintance of mine (not in GA) is going through this procedure right now, in conjunction with a child whose mother is already incarcerated, and father enters and exits jail like a revolving door. The father's parental rights were terminated by a judge pursuant to state action while the child was under foster care. The foster parents are now pursuing adoption.

Another thing to consider is that, while I am *not* asserting this is the case in the OP's situation, if the state believes the CP is maliciously excluding the NCP from the child, hence not pursuing child support et al, the state may exercise discretion to have an attorney ad litem appointed to represent the child's interests. Child support is for the benefit of the child, not the CP.