I'm so very sorry to hear of this Shannon....
... and I guess it's OK to say I've just shared a reflective moment with my spouse while appraising her of my visit with our friends - who have the spouse with the renal cancer. The mom was active and seemed mostly as usual - aside from her mentioning she had another round of the gamma knife to deal with growths in her head. Which I already knew about - and understood to be pretty bad since this continued to show she was not getting any control from any of the medications or procedures exercised. Even at $8000 a month for one of her medications - it seemed as if there was NO control with her cancer.
Well... I sort of thought her attitude was pretty good... but what brought about the moment of reflection shared with Alicia was our friends husband. He was uncharactisticlly near silent during my visit - and sort of distant. We both knew what seems to be going on - well - it's just bad.
At any rate - this has had me somber - plus our daughters' best friend from pre-school - well we had a play date scheduled the other day - and they missed it. No explanation until yesterday when an email came apolagizing. It seems thier young neighbor (the husband) abruptly passed away. He had a previously unknown risk of some sort and he had an anurism (misspelled?) - he litterially just collapsed and was gone.
The email was long - and sensitive from our friends - and it just compounds the reality that our existances are remarkably fragile and precious.
I hope this does not sour your situation... as I have not taken the usual moment of reflection to measure if what I've said is diplomatic or not. It's just what I'm thinking at this hour given your remarks shared.
Again, may I offer our kindest symapthetic consideration in this sad moment for your family.
Respectfully,
Tom & family
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...and what am I doing up - I couldn't sleep because I guess I was a bit hungry so I heated a little left over chicken curry and rice ... while I watch the discovery HD channel ... a show about the100 greatest discoveries in chemistry.