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[cruellababy]

It's just another day on "As the Dis Turns"! We've got it all - drama, romance, conflict and even trip planning!

Thanks for the laugh to start my day!

 

[Mom2Nick]

You qualify for it because you want get out and actively look for a job so you can get in somewhere like that. That in my opinion is just wrong. Because you say once you get in then you will find a job. There could be someone out there that truly needs the place you are wanting to move into that would not have anyone to help them with their rent. I really just dont get people trying to cheat the system.

Oh BTW you can pack and move and still have a job I have done that 4 times in the past 16 months. It is not that hard.[/QUOTE]

I bet it's much harder when you have 180 pairs of filthy underpants to round up and pack...

 

[kbeverina]

It seems to me that your partner is probably under a lot of stress trying to put a roof over both your heads. If this is what she wants to do and it will make her feel better knowing you both have an affordable place to live, I think you can suck it up for two months and do what she wants to do. It will probably be a great incentive to find a job so you can get out of there.

Make sure you have a written contract before you move in. As the owner, she can ask anything she wants. You can say no, of course, but it doesn't sound like her terms are unreasonable. She could be asking for 2/3 of expenses and a pet deposit.

Yes, the situation definitely benefits the friend with extra income. I think that's the heart of what's bugging you.

 

[kaytieeldr]

You had me sold until I read the part about the house work.....

Okay, how about $450 and the $50 goes for maid service?

 

[mjkacmom]

But a public message board really isn't the place to discussing money/income.
yes when I was working I made a good amount. We probably could've had that house by now. But life sucks. and we have to deal with the hand that we have. I also know that most jobs are all part time, and won't pay me as much as I used to get. I'm not looking for another 20,000 income. .

$20,000 is not a lot of money - heck, I made more than that 20 years ago, in my early 20's! Do you have a career plan?

 

[SHAYMARAYSMOM]

wow
I have read the thread and all I read is you want to mooch off of someone. You talk about how you feel no need to pay for any other bills.
Do you not shower everyday? Do you not cook? And what is the mini fridge going to run on Hamster power?

You need to grow up and pay your fair share. If you are living in the house you are going to cause the monthly bills to go up. Unless while everyone is working you plan on sitting in the dark and will not use any power.

If it is only for a few weeks then just pay and be thankful for someone willing to help you out.

 

[kaytieeldr]

$20,000 is not a lot of money - heck, I made more than that 20 years ago, in my early 20's! Do you have a career plan?

Note to self: don't say it... don't say it... don't say it... you don't need another infraction...

 

[Kae]

You had me sold until I read the part about the house work.....

Oh I thought it said Homework,LOL. I am such a mom. I stink at both.

Kae

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I read through this thread and all I can say is WOW!
You will be homeless. Meaning you will have nowhere to live other than your car or the park. Someone is offering you a short term rental. You are trying to nickel and dime them for everything. Suck it up. Pay the extra couple of dollars and be thankful that someone is willing to not only offer you and your friend a place to stay but your dog too! I think you are being silly and you are in no position to negotiate. If you don't want to pay then say no thank you and make other arrangements.
Oh- and 90-180 pairs of dirty underwear?
I would charge you $400 just to fumigate my home if you had that in there!

 

[SHAYMARAYSMOM]

I read through this thread and all I can say is WOW!
You will be homeless. Meaning you will have nowhere to live other than your car or the park. Someone is offering you a short term rental. You are trying to nickel and dime them for everything. Suck it up. Pay the extra couple of dollars and be thankful that someone is willing to not only offer you and your friend a place to stay but your dog too! I think you are being silly and you are in no position to negotiate. If you don't want to pay then say no thank you and make other arrangements.
Oh- and 90-180 pairs of dirty underwear?
I would charge you $400 just to fumigate my home if you had that in there![/QUOTE]

 

[MushyMushy]

wow
I have read the thread and all I read is you want to mooch off of someone. You talk about how you feel no need to pay for any other bills.
Do you not shower everyday? Do you not cook? And what is the mini fridge going to run on Hamster power?

You need to grow up and pay your fair share. If you are living in the house you are going to cause the monthly bills to go up. Unless while everyone is working you plan on sitting in the dark and will not use any power.

If it is only for a few weeks then just pay and be thankful for someone willing to help you out.

I totally agree with this. OP, I could have understood your attitude somewhat if you were in your teens and just moving out on your own, but if you're in your 20s and have been out for a while, you should know better than this. It's time to grow up and stop expecting the world to owe you something. You're in a big girl relationship, living in the real world, so it's time to act the part.

I'm not trying to be mean in saying that, but it's what I would tell my own kids.

Good luck.

 

[Hillbeans]

My father moved in with DH and I over the summer. He is "only living in one room" but over the course of the past few months i've noticed a measurable rise in the cost of maintaining our home. Our electric bill is higher, I do more wash, more times to run the dishwasher, more wear and tear on the carpets, more garbage bags in the dumpster, etc....

Yes, he's only one person, but one person makes a big difference in the cost of living. My father does not contribute to our mortgage, but he does give us $100 a week and buys a good portion of the groceries such as paper products and cat food. With that being said, I think it costs us more for him to live there than $100 a month but I do try and sneak the thermostat down when he's sleeping

 

[lil mermaid]

Sounds like a great deal for you, and a bad deal for the friend. Too bad she can't see this thread.

And am I understanding this correctly - you are waiting to get a job until AFTER you get into a subsidized apartment? Then you will go to work, and evern though you won't qualify for the apartment anymore, you wills still live there?

Oh, and the underwear thing is gross.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Yes, he's only one person, but one person makes a big difference in the cost of living.

Well, since you brought it up... One additional person in a household originally consisting of two occupants can reasonably be expected to increase non-fixed costs 50%.

Two people and a dog moving into a household of, currently, one person, can reasonably be expected to increase non-fixed costs by over 200%.

How? In the PP's case, one (person) is equal to 50% of the existing two (occupants). On the other hand, two (persons) are equal to 200% of the existing one (occupant) - and then you have to account for the dog. That's just the way math works.

As for the OP presuming they will not substantially add to the homeowner's expenses? Well, since she's not working, she will be using heat or air conditioning during hours when the homeowner ordinarily would not. If, while using either one, the OP leaves or enters the house, opening the door allows the air out and so increases the pressure on, and the cost of, the utilities.

The mini-fridge she thinks she'll be allowed to bring uses electricity;
the microwave she thinks she'll be allowed to bring uses electricity;
they will be using lights in 'their' room that would not be on if the homeowner was living alone;
the bathroom lights, and the various water items, will be used three times as much and so cost three times as much as when the HO lives alone.

I also don't want her to feel like we owe her anything for the internet or cable tv. It's not something we pay for now,

Really? Who DOES pay for the Internet you used frequently Thursday afternoon?

That also includes water/sewer

Goodie. That's because you are (for a little bit longer) renters. When you OWN a home, YOU pay for everything - including, yes, water and sewer.

And perhaps the OP could use some of her current unemployed time to check a dictionary

We have a mutual friend. Kari's friendship makes up for the lack of mine with her

so she could learn that if she lacks friendship with the homeowner, that makes them NOT "mutual" friends.

 

[SHAYMARAYSMOM]

Sounds like a great deal for you, and a bad deal for the friend. Too bad she can't see this thread.

And am I understanding this correctly - you are waiting to get a job until AFTER you get into a subsidized apartment? Then you will go to work, and evern though you won't qualify for the apartment anymore, you wills still live there?

Oh, and the underwear thing is gross.

Nice deal on the apartment. So someone out there that needs the help will not get because they are stealing from the state.

But what I would like to know also if she is talking about needing a subsidiaed apatment how are they going to but the house she is posting about?

 

[kaytieeldr]

Um, because a house will 'only' cost them about $800 a month? Reread the original post.

Of course, this doesn't include taxes, or utilities, or interest, or insurance, or THE DOWN PAYMENT....

 

[jezebella]

I didn't want to touch this thread, but I might as well throw another log onto the fire. I'm pretty certain I know which apartments you are trying to move into that are income restricted. Just a little FYI -- my DH was trying to help one of his clients get on the waiting list there and it's a year long....may need to make some other long term arrangements....

 

[Maroon]

Why are you still arguing?

 

[Maggimus]

This thread has kept me thoroughly entertained, so thank you OP. It's true, you can't make this stuff up!

First of all, Im 23... my husband and I bought our first home at 19... and we just built this one and moved in in February. It takes worth ethic and maturity.

Have you not read ANYTHING anyone has been saying? Everyone is saying that YOU seem to be the root of the problem. Why do you keep coming back and posting about everything else asside from that? You appear to be completely self absorbed. Im sorry. I hate to say that to anyone.

Here is some good advice, SELL 2/3 of your underwear and clothes (maybe more)... and then you could afford the extra utilities this friend is asking for & use her washer and dryer (Why? Because you can afford to!).

This is an unbelievable thing. I guess some people just choose to be blind...

 

[SHAYMARAYSMOM]

This thread has kept me thoroughly entertained, so thank you OP. It's true, you can't make this stuff up!

First of all, Im 23... my husband and I bought our first home at 19... and we just built this one and moved in in February. It takes worth ethic and maturity.

Have you not read ANYTHING anyone has been saying? Everyone is saying that YOU seem to be the root of the problem. Why do you keep coming back and posting about everything else asside from that? You appear to be completely self absorbed. Im sorry. I hate to say that to anyone.

Here is some good advice, SELL 2/3 of your underwear and clothes (maybe more)... and then you could afford the extra utilities this friend is asking for & use her washer and dryer (Why? Because you can afford to!).

This is an unbelievable thing. I guess some people just choose to be blind...

Maybe not the underwear. That you may want to burn