Oh, this makes my heart ache. I'm so sorry
@Lisa F! I think your strategy is a good one.
My daughter was also very sad about the pirates cruise (I managed to snag a 11:20am 'Ohana brunch which makes our flow that much nicer - more on that later) but it gives us the chance to do
MVMCP the night before (if we want to) and have a sleep in day on Wednesday, which will be a late night at MK.
So my flow I think will change a little - not based on crowd calendars per se (which I'm nervous about for sure as now it seems that it will be a very crowded time of year, which makes me grumble since I specifically chose the week I'm going to WDW based on historically low crowds).
On Tues Dec 6 (our Epcot day with RD) we now have the option to do a morning at Epcot, take a break, and then potentially go to MVMCP OR sleep in, spend the day at Epcot, and head directly there on the monorail to MK for party. If we do either of these, I'll have to cancel the Sandcastle club for DD. Alternatively, evening plans remain the same, DD goes to kids club and it's a date night in the WS with DH.
On Wed Dec 7 - if I cancel the Pirate cruise we can have a sleep in and then head to the Poly for 'Ohana brunch, and then go straight there to MK for the day (and evening) with no breaks. This is a nice flow as we get a later start and can recover from the evening. If DD goes to kids club though we may stick with original plan of RD MK and take a break in the afternoon ask we will not have as late a night on Tuesday since Sandcastle is right next door to BC and we'll probably be in bed by 9:30-10pm.
On Thurs Dec 8 - if we decide to stick to original plan we will have a very EARLY start with 7:30am 'Ohana (I wasn't feeling great about this option) and then RD MK, but with the new flow, we can sleep in, get to MK a little later (like 10am), still do Pirates League at noon, lunch, Festival of fantasy parade, and stay in the park until about 5:45pm so we can make our 1900 Park Fare dinner at 6:30pm. Then finish up, back to BC, pack for departure, and enjoy a last night at BC doing activities.
I like the new flow better, we have 3 early days at the start (and Sunday will be tough as we plan to do SW fireworks party on Saturday night - when does this finish?) and then 3 late days. What do you guys think?