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- Joined
- Jan 22, 2013
Most of mine are political and/or religious so they can't be discussed here but one of the more benign ones is that we are encouraging and assisting our 19 y.o. DS to make a plan to move out and live independently, even prioritizing it (gasp) over higher education. We'll always be here to support and help him but we really believe autonomy means accountability and that it's not positive for young adults to have all their needs provided for and to become accustomed to making "lifestyle choices" on someone else's dime.
I'm also an adherent to "My house, my rules" and I believe a guest should never bring food to a dinner party unless requested to do so by the host. Both of these views have been shown to be very unpopular here on the DIS, if not IRL.
I'm/We are 100 percent with your line of thinking. Our two sons met us half way with their post secondary education costs we insisted. One lived away in shared student rental places going to College, and the other lived at home driving to and from College with his own car, and own gas. They both graduated have been employed ever since. Both are married with young kids of their own.
I'm especially unpopular here for my having had a milestone Birthday Party for DH at a hall with alcohol served, a band, dancing, and "NO CHILDREN ALLOWED."
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