Your opinion?

[JanaDee]

I know this is regional, but we don't throw baby showers for second time mothers.

She is on her own!

LOL Everyone I know has had a shower for their second.

 

[Kellykins1218]

LOL Everyone I know has had a shower for their second.

I've never heard of a shower for a 2nd baby

 

[Art 1]

II would donate the things you purchased and not attend.

 

[dakcp2001]

In my area we have showers for all babies, not just your first. I spent 42 on the stuff I bought her so it would be cheaper to return it and get her diapers, but I just don't care for the attitude. I'm tempted to search for a weird sculpture or something, but I have a sick twisted sense of humor. Maybe a stork figurine or something.

 

[cleverclovers]

Return the items. Ignore the shower. Don't feel guilty. This is her second child. She should have a lot of stuff from her first child. If not - too bad.

 

[Pamlur]

My evil twin says return everything, then show her the return receipt and tell her you saved her the trouble.

 

[Mizzoufan]

My evil twin says return everything, then show her the return receipt and tell her you saved her the trouble.

 

[JanaDee]

My evil twin says return everything, then show her the return receipt and tell her you saved her the trouble.

Love this! Go 'Pretty Woman' on her.

 

[dakcp2001]

I found a baby butt fan. Winning!

 

[Disneylover99]

I would just get her wipes.

These days I just take the path of least resistance. I really do not care to put 1 second of energy into "making a stand" anymore for stupidity or crazy.

I take a stand if something is genuine and necessary.

I tend to agree with this.

I would feel totally ticked and want to get her nothing as well. But what are the ramifications? It's someone you work with. Will this cause friction in your work environment? It's probably better to take the high road with a coworker.

But since you've already got her a gift, I would not bother to take it back. Give it to her with the receipt.

 

[dakcp2001]

But since you've already got her a gift, I would not bother to take it back. Give it to her with the receipt.

That won't be happening!

 

[ols386]

I would return the gifts I had already purchased for her, and get my money back.

I would get what she asked for (the wipes and diapers). That's just what I would do. You should do whatever YOU think is best.

 

[spacemountainmom]

Around here people generally don't get 2nd showers unless there are extenuating circumstances.

I would return what you purchased and decline to participate in the shower.

 

[dakcp2001]

Since I have to go to Babies R Us to return what I got her I am going to get her something different. I'm leaning toward something really odd, under $20, and with no gift receipt. I've decided that the gift I got her was too expensive.

 

[Southernmiss]

Take a picture of the gifts you bought, wrap the picture in a box beautifully but after you enclose a note that you've donated the gifts in her name to the local crisis pregnancy center to someone who would appreciate them.

 

[Dawnlight]

Holy Moses, that's so rude of her!

I'd not be giving a gift. She sounds completely self-absorbed.

 

[Bluestars]

Since I have to go to Babies R Us to return what I got her I am going to get her something different. I'm leaning toward something really odd, under $20, and with no gift receipt. I've decided that the gift I got her was too expensive.

I would probably spend about $15 getting wipes and call it a day.

What a rude witch. I wouldn't attend the shower. I have never seen anyone act this way about a shower. Usually expectant mothers are very happy that someone throws them a shower and are grateful for whatever they get.

 

[Christine]

OP, I'd be totally irritated too but if, in general, I liked her well enough (even though her behavior had no class) and in the interest of being a team player at work, I'd probably just return what I bought and get her what she asked for.

Much of these work functions are just all about team building and creating a pleasant, supportive work environment that I would just participate with a smile on my face.

However, I'd definitely think less of her and the next time she ever dared to utter a complaint in public, I'd probably be sweetly say "yeah, but it's the thought that counts and it's pretty rude to complain about people's generosity." Of course, you'll probably never get that opportunity.

 

[hereyago]

Take a picture of the gifts you bought, wrap the picture in a box beautifully but after you enclose a note that you've donated the gifts in her name to the local crisis pregnancy center to someone who would appreciate them.

Best idea!

 

[Happy Snowman]

In my area we have showers for all babies, not just your first. I spent 42 on the stuff I bought her so it would be cheaper to return it and get her diapers, but I just don't care for the attitude. I'm tempted to search for a weird sculpture or something, but I have a sick twisted sense of humor. Maybe a stork figurine or something.

Don't include a gift receipt!!

My evil twin says return everything, then show her the return receipt and tell her you saved her the trouble.

he he

I found a baby butt fan. Winning!

or a wipe warmer

Take a picture of the gifts you bought, wrap the picture in a box beautifully but after you enclose a note that you've donated the gifts in her name to the local crisis pregnancy center to someone who would appreciate them.

BINGO!!!!!!! I change my answer to this!!!!!