Yet another would you be bothered?

[MnMomtoboys]

My son is having friends over today. One child was supposed to be here 2 hours ago. We've tried calling and no one anwsered.

For all I know the Mom is punishing me for not taking him yesterday. We had plans and I didn't want to deal with him all day.

But geez they could of called.

 

[Magpie]

My son is having friends over today. One child was supposed to be here 2 hours ago. We've tried calling and no one anwsered.

For all I know the Mom is punishing me for not taking him yesterday. We had plans and I didn't want to deal with him all day.

But geez they could of called.

I doubt it's personal - they probably forgot. Stuff happens.

I'd just tell my son to get on with his day, and don't worry about it. He can connect with his friend later, find out what happened and make arrangements to get together another time. At least he's got other friends over, so his day isn't ruined if he doesn't see this one!

 

[MnMomtoboys]

oh he isn't that upset. I'm just irritated they did this again. The little guy needs a nap and with the kids around I'm going to have to lay down with him but I feel I should be here when they show up.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My son is having friends over today. One child was supposed to be here 2 hours ago. We've tried calling and no one anwsered.

For all I know the Mom is punishing me for not taking him yesterday. We had plans and I didn't want to deal with him all day.

But geez they could of called.

Put the mom on the list as "unreliable". Some parents you can count on 100% and some you cannot. Maybe it is a fluke or maybe not. Time will tell.

 

[ols386]

Aren't you jumping to a conclusion rather quickly? Maybe something unforeseen happened, and she hasn't had an opportunity to get in contact with you yet.

 

[Andtototoo]

Of course, I'd be bothered. I always find rudeness annoying.

 

[shortbun]

Of course, I'd be bothered. I always find rudeness annoying.

Who did the planning, the mothers or the children. I found that when I left planning up to my child, it was somewhat unreliable. Kids would say they were coming and their parents did not agree, kwim? I finally began stepping in on the plans.

 

[Tink888]

I'd only be bothered if I had plans to go somewhere and was waiting or if the kid was already at my house and Mom was two hours late picking him up.

 

[MnMomtoboys]

Who did the planning, the mothers or the children. I found that when I left planning up to my child, it was somewhat unreliable. Kids would say they were coming and their parents did not agree, kwim? I finally began stepping in on the plans.

I called them left a message. She called me back saying that he would be there Tuesday and Weds. It took me about 5 minutes before she accepted that he wasn't coming yesterday. Knowing her I wouldn't of been surprised if he did come yesterday. He did go to another friends house yesterday and was late there.

He did show up about 11 saying that his Dad didn't have to go into work this morning so they slept in. I told him that the next time he should call. I need to learn the lesson and not have a next time.

 

[design_mom]

I'd be bothered, too. If there were plans and they blew them off without calling, that's rude. I'd be annoyed, but I wouldn't get too upset until I heard the circumstances (was there miscommunication, was there a family emergency, etc.). But if they're 2 hours late and unreachable, I would assume they're not coming at all and go about my day.

I think we've had it all happen:
-- friends who never show
-- friends who call at the last minute because they got a better offer
-- friends whose parents arrive 2 hours late for pick up (because they were shopping and decided to stop for dinner... meanwhile, I'm trying to decide whether to feed the kids dinner or not, because it's way past dinner time but I thought his mom was going to pick him up before dinner!) That child has not been invited back... and they redistricted the school district and he ended up at another school, so he and DS have fallen out of touch.

ETA: Just read your update. Rude. Grrr. I'd be annoyed. (Is this a playdate with your son, or did you agree to do childcare today during school break?)

 

[Pikester]

I had something similar happen that still makes my blood boil. My DS13 doesn't invite friends over very often and he asked a friend to come over for a few hours on a Saturday. He was on the phone making this plan while both myself and the friend's mother were listening in the background. Saturday rolls around and no friend. Tried calling all day long and no answer. No answering machine so we couldn't leave a message. Didn't know Mom's cell number so couldn't call that. My son was very disappointed and I was upset because he was feeling that way. Had to wait until Monday at school to find out why this kid never showed. Turns out the kid did something that Mom didn't like and grounded him from going anywhere, doing anything or even using the phone. Are you kidding me? You couldn't just let him use the phone for a couple of minutes to let us know that he wasn't coming over? I thought maybe I was the only adult that knew about their plans but my DS13 assured me that his friend's mom knew what was being planned and had approved.

Not impressed with the friend's Mom I can tell you that!

 

[MIGrandma]

The only way it would bother me is if we were planning on going somewhere specific, and had to be waiting for the boy to get there.

But you called, they didn't answer. Maybe they forgot, or an emergency came up. I would be curious to know what was up, but I wouldn't dwell on it.

 

[MnMomtoboys]

ETA: Just read your update. Rude. Grrr. I'd be annoyed. (Is this a playdate with your son, or did you agree to do childcare today during school break?)

Playdate on my part but she did need childcare so he is here all day. Who knows I might be here at 7 wondering when this kid is going home.

This isn't the first time this has happened so I shouldn't be surprised. She once begged for me to watch him and we had dr. appts. I told he had to be here by 9:30. He wasn't and we left. With 2 kids having appointments we were there for awhile and boy was she mad.