Would you say something? Update pg 3

[Bilberry]

I'd probably would not mention anything. If I did bring something up it would be with an anonymous letter.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I voted "no", that would just be awkward.

Wasn't there an episode of Roseanne in which something similar was going on, except they were old?

 

[Mizzoufan]

Yes,I would want to know.

 

[mjkacmom]

Years ago we had our bathroom completely redone. The window is in the shower, so the contractor suggested privacy glass. Great, no curtain. After it was done, a few weeks later I came home and looked up, and saw someone in the shower, and realized the privacy glass wasn't private. Had custom blinds ordered the next day.

Maybe they are from an area with less people? I might tell them.

 

[loves to dive]

I wouldn't say anything since I would assume anyone with a tad bid of sense would know you can see into an uncovered window. We live in a subdivision in the country and leave our back shutters open most of the time. They look out into our backyard and then a pasture. You have to be in our backyard to see into our house. I figure you shouldn't be in my backyard and if you are, you get to see whatever you see and if you don't like it, don't be in my backyard and looking into my house.

 

[Gracie09]

Yes I would say something and have in a similar situation. Apartment complex- new neighbor window in her shower faced the courtyard...
However I would go over and speak with the wife not dh. And keep it like hey I happened to glance out the window and noticed I could see right in your bathroom. The previous people use to have a blind there. Just thought I would mention it.

 

[Owlpost23]

I'll be the dissenting opinion. Years ago, we were camping, and this lady was in a small tent near ours. She undressed in her tent one evening, and normally that wouldn't be an issue, but her light was on, and she put a show on for everyone (taught me to always face the light the other way so as not to project a shadow on the tent wall. I've always felt badly about not letting her know, as I would have appreciated someone helping me out. I'm in favor of an anonymous letter in her mailbox. I think it's the neighborly thing to do. If she doesn't care, at least you let her know, and I don't see the harm in giving someone that heads up.

This reminds me of that Seinfeld episode with George and his mother in the hospital.

 

[L&Lfan]

If she was good looking I wouldn't tell them.
I would just take notice what time she showers so I knew to be watching.

MG

This! But I'd be checking out Mr Neighbor's bath time.

 

[AppleDumpling]

I'd tell her. I wouldn't mention DH, but would speak to her woman to woman, and without making a big deal about it, just let her know what you saw.

Since they moved in relatively recently, they could just be busy balancing work with their young child, and perhaps they are still in the process of decorating and haven't gotten around to installing blinds. Like you say, I'd want to know. And if she is aware and doesn't care, she can't blame you for noticing. She might just laugh it off.

Incidentally, the type of window you describe as having an odd shape is very common around here. It's called an eyebrow (or arch top) window and there are many specialized window treatments available.

 

[bethy]

No way!

And I'd awkwardly make sure I always avoided looking up there and that would be a pain lol.

 

[DawnM]

Well, I will just tell you something that happened to me.

We were one of the only houses on our block that had 2 stories (in our old neighborhood) and we had curtains up. I stood in front of one toweling off once. I didn't think anything of it.

A couple of YEARS later, I was driving up and realized that our curtains were fine in the daytime, but at night (which is when I was there) they were pretty see though.

UGH. I cringe to this day about it wondering who saw what.

I have no idea what I would do in your situation.

 

[gwynne]

I wouldn't say anything. There is no way to bring this up without sounding kinda creepy.

 

[Marchand63]

Been on the receiving end, I was thankful & not creeped out. My neighbor simply said "Hi, just wanted you to know my bedroom window looks directly into your bathroom."

Curtains up the next day.

 

[lorimay]

I would keep my head down and forge on........

 

[DisneyWorldMimi]

I would say something. You could just mention that when you returned home from a dinner, you noticed the light on and then saw her step into view.

I think they would want to know. We have a spare room that is kind of a catch all, but my daughter's hanging clothes are in there. Right now we don't have curtains on the window, but do have a sheet. I noticed one night that even with the sheet, with the light on you can see what us going on. She when she changes out of her work clothes to comfy clothes you can see everything. I made a point of telling her.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

I would tell them sooner rather than later. We had this happen to us, but we were the neighbors that were spied on. When I met the lady on the street behind us, she already knew all about us. Apparently, their evening entertainment was smoking on their back deck & watching us in our living room. She said it like she was proud of it. They had been doing it for years.

We did have blinds that we kept closed. Unfortunately, we hadn't thought to cover the arched window above the doors. From that point on, we were very careful about what we did in the living room. It would have been nice for them to have told us years earlier instead of being peeping Toms all those years. Who knows how many other families spied on us, without us having a clue they were able to see in our home? IMO, telling them now is the right thing to do.

 

[mom2rtk]

I would tell them sooner rather than later. We had this happen to us, but we were the neighbors that were spied on. When I met the lady on the street behind us, she already knew all about us. Apparently, their evening entertainment was smoking on their back deck & watching us in our living room. She said it like she was proud of it. They had been doing it for years.

We did have blinds that we kept closed. Unfortunately, we hadn't thought to cover the arched window above the doors. From that point on, we were very careful about what we did in the living room. It would have been nice for them to have told us years earlier instead of being peeping Toms all those years. Who knows how many other families spied on us, without us having a clue they were able to see in our home? IMO, telling them now is the right thing to do.

That's so obnoxious.

 

[Sabeking]

I think I'm going to wait and see if it happens again. One of the things that kind of makes it hard is that I never see her outside so I wouldn't really have a chance to say something unless I knocked on the door and I feel that would be weird for all of us. Truth be told I have spoken with her husband several times and have never met her...I have only seen her that one time!!!

 

[Sabeking]

I would tell them sooner rather than later. We had this happen to us, but we were the neighbors that were spied on. When I met the lady on the street behind us, she already knew all about us. Apparently, their evening entertainment was smoking on their back deck & watching us in our living room. She said it like she was proud of it. They had been doing it for years.

We did have blinds that we kept closed. Unfortunately, we hadn't thought to cover the arched window above the doors. From that point on, we were very careful about what we did in the living room. It would have been nice for them to have told us years earlier instead of being peeping Toms all those years. Who knows how many other families spied on us, without us having a clue they were able to see in our home? IMO, telling them now is the right thing to do.

That's just weird.

 

[manning]

There have been recent complaints of fewer threads...so I thought I would bring this one up. Last night my DH and I went to dinner. We pulled into the driveway about 8:45. The house behind ours was sold last spring to a younger couple with a toddler. I have spoken briefly with the husband and have yet to meet his wife. As we were pulling in my husband glanced up and saw the wife in the window. The window has an odd shape, round on the top and square on the bottom with no blind or covering. He said oh my gosh, I looked up and apparently she had just gotten out of the shower and was toweling off. I won't lie I was giggling pretty hard. I don't know them, but gosh if this was me I really would hope someone would tell me. I thought about saying if I saw either one outside something like...." Hey saw someone walking around in the bathroom the other night, you may want to cover the window before I see something else. What would you do?

And spoil the shows?