Would you let your kids go to wdw 1st time with someone else?

[alisa458]

You are very kind, but I think their parents should go too. Maybe split costs with them or pay and have them pay you back. Good luck

 

[mjkacmom]

But you have to give the parents of those kids a chance. I am so sorry you didn't get to go as a child. Neither did I. But those parents deserve a chance to give that to their own children.

They just do.

Why? Maybe they won't care they're not first. I know people who really don't like WDW. My DH liked it more than he thought, but he'd be happy if he never went back. It's not a rite of passage, it's an amusement park.

 

[EclecticWAHM]

I appreciate everyones responses.

Also, I have more than one brother and sister (4 brothers, 3 sisters) so it would not be fair to the rest of my family to pay for one sibling and not offer to do the same for my others - you can see how this could be an issue.

I don't get this at ALL. There's no rule that everything has to be equal and fair between siblings...especially adult siblings. Just because you offer something to one doesn't mean you have to offer it to another. I really don't see how this is an issue at all. I mean - we have a close family but man...we're not all up in each other's business to even know or care who gives what to whom and that kind of thing. It's really none of anyone's business. If my sis gave something amazing to my other sis, I'd be happy for them - it wouldn't create an issue at all.

 

[DeniseinNS]

And I can't imagine being resentful if my child had a first at my brother's house - yes, I might be sad, but not resentful. I'm sure many, many kids have many, many firsts at daycare.

Not mine. Some parents have to work and use daycare and may miss a "first" that happens and of course that would be sad, thankfully they are going to see it again that same day or within a few days of it happening and it's not that they choose to miss it by going to work. I think Disney is one of those "firsts" that is very special, you choose when to go to Disney, for me it is something that would be very important to do with your children and it may not happen again for a few years if you miss out on it. No way would I want to miss the looks on my kids faces when they saw the castle or met a favorite character for the first time.

 

[shannon1219]

I have took my 6 year old neice to Disney for her very first trip and will be taking her 18 month old sister in June. My sister was happy that i was able to take them when she was not. We did get the oppurtunity to take my sister with us one trip and she got to see the my oldest neice enjoy the trill of Disney. I wouldnt change a thing.

 

[disneymomma1978]

wow, OP asked a reasonable question and now some of you are getting angry with her for everything from trying to steal somebody else's kids magic moments to being selfish for not paying for an entire family's vacation!!

I think if the OP wants to experience the magic of taking a child to Disney for the first time, she should have a child of her own to take.QUOTE]

I think this statement is totally inappropriate, inconsiderate and uncalled for.

 

[EclecticWAHM]

But you have to give the parents of those kids a chance. I am so sorry you didn't get to go as a child. Neither did I. But those parents deserve a chance to give that to their own children.

They just do.

Well, if she asks the parents and they say "no", then fine. It's not like she's not "giving them the chance" - she won't just grab the kids and run away to Disney Seriously, though - I don't see anything wrong in her approaching the parents with the idea and let them decide. I think it's great that she can and wants to offer the opportunity to the kids.

 

[nemofans]

I wouldn't want it -- but I would certainly accept it if that's the only way my child could enjoy a trip to WDW (assuming, as in this case, it's with someone I trust). It's not ideal, but in the end I would rather her go than not.

We took my mom for her 1st trip & since then she has wanted to take her other grandchild (my niece). She is 6 yrs old now & has been asking to go for awhile. My mom told my sister & her husband that she would like to do this. He said no that he wants to take her. They can't afford to & I don't think they will be able to anytime soon. He doesn't work due to a wrist injury & my sis works her butt off so they can pay bills. They are constantly having to relocate b/c they can't pay their rent.
He is the type to not let my niece do anything w/o him. Even though, they will not be able to take her, he won't let anybody else. I think that part is selfish. My mom struggled to support us by herself & when my cousin & her mom invited me to Phoenix for spring break (all expenses covered), my mom let me go. Now I know WDW is a different experience, but I know my mom would have let me go there too b/c she wanted me to have experiences that she couldn't offer me.
I do think it's selfish to refuse such an offer when they know they will not be able to take her. I feel bad for her too that she could have a wonderful experience w/my mom.
BTW, it's not a trust issue b/c my mom has watched my niece just about every weekend since she was born.

 

[Pixie Princess]

I did take one of my nieces for her first trip. It wasn't my intention as I was taking Grandma with me and my DD as a thank you. Grandma wanted to bring the niece along which was of course fine. My BIL and SIL were fine with it. I will tell you looking back I am sad for her parents that Grandma and I were there to experience her first trip rather than them. Some of my most precious memories of that trip are the reactions of my dd and dn. But that was my first trip as well so it was all so magical to me as well. The next year BIL and family went on a Disney cruise, so I'm sure she was just as amazed on that as she was at WDW.

Now that I have a few trips under my belt, I desperately want to take my BIL's other daughter. Much like the OP, my BIL and SIL want to go, they just can't afford it with 3 kids. I've tried planning family trips, but they are rather insistent on staying on property ,and my SIL is a teacher so she's really limited to the most expensive times to travel.

I think it boils down to how strongly the parents feel about being the one to take the kids on their first trip. My BIL and SIL aren't particularly sentimental about it, and to be honest I wouldn't have either since I hadn't been. Just talk to them about it.

 

[skier_pete]

I haven't read the whole thread - but here are my thoughts.

Do you think your brother/sister (not sure which) would be personally offended by you making this offer? If not, then offer it. Either they say yes, or they say no.

If they say no, don't push it...it's their children, it's their decision. Yes, WDW is a wonderful place, but a child's life is not ruined by not seeing it.

 

[morethananyonex]

I think it's incredibly generous and unselfish for the OP to offer to take her nieces to WDW. I think some people need to remember that unlike most of us who love Disney enough to post on a board about it, there are a lot of people out there who don't really care. The OP isn't forcing the parents to give up the children's first trip, she's providing an opportunity for them to experience something they might otherwise not be able to.

It's completely uncalled for to call the OP selfish simply because she would get enjoyment out of taking her nieces, and so rude to suggest they should get their own child to take to WDW. I'd be a lot more inclined to call the unwilling parents selfish, considering their reasons for not allowing their child to go on a trip are centered around their own feelings of not being included.

Anyways, I don't have children yet but when I do and if I couldn't afford the trip myself, I couldn't imagine denying my children a trip to WDW simply because I wanted to take them (that's what selfish looks like).

 

[GraceLuvsWDW]

I took my cousin for his first trip to WDW when he was 11 and I was 30. That was 10 years ago and we have a very special relationship because of that trip. He has now graduated from Georgia Tech but met me at DTD in March (he was in Orlando for business) and we had such nice times reminiscing about that first trip. He is still to this day very thankful for that opportunity when his parents could not afford to go. If you have a close family who love and trust each other this is a wonderful opportunity for a child that otherwise wouldn't be able to go. Extend the offer to your sister. I hope they say yes!

 

[kkhworth]

WHY? Because a couple of years ago I offered to take my sister and my niece with me and my kids since DH didn't want to go. Her DH didn't want her to go...said he wanted their first vaca to be just the 3 of them. Fine. The next year, guess what???? HE TOOK ONE OF HIS CO-WORKERS WITH THEM ON THEIR FIRST VACATION!!!!!

I was so freaking mad! *I* was even gonna use DH's tkt for my sister, and my niece was under 2, so free for everything. He is a selfish _________ (fill in the blank with whatever you want!).

 

[JasonsPrincess]

DH and I love disney, so for our future child's first time, I cant imagine anyone else taking him/her. Grand Canyon, NY, anywhere else, I don't think I'd mind..but disney is special to both DH and I and part of the joys of being a parent are sharing those special moments and seeing our little one fall in love with Disney like we did.

I guess if something were to happen and there was no way in the world for us to financially take him/her, then I guess I'd be willing. I wouldn't want our financial situation to prevent him/her ever being a part of the magic.

 

[eastcarolinafan]

Why? Maybe they won't care they're not first. I know people who really don't like WDW. My DH liked it more than he thought, but he'd be happy if he never went back. It's not a rite of passage, it's an amusement park.

Why, you ask? Did you even read the original post?

The original poster said her sister WANTS TO TAKE THE KIDS TO DISNEY WORLD but can't afford it at the moment!!!!!! I mean, how much more clear does that have to be? The woman wants to take her own darn kids to Disney World and that's that! End of story. There is no but, there is no discussion, there is no this or that or the other. The woman and her husband want to take their kids to Disney World their first time and they should be able to do that when they wish without the sister's interference.

The OP is upset because she wants the kids to go NOW. But so what? They are not her kids. And I am sorry to be so blunt, but my goodness gracious, I have never seen the likes of it. The parents can't afford the trip yet, but when they can, the FAMILY will go. I have no doubt in my mind that at that time, the sister will be invited to go along.

And I am happy you view DW as just an amusement park, like a carnival in town. I salute you. But I do not share your views. And I won't speak for others here, but I suppose there are one or two more who agree with me. And yes, it is kind of a rite of passage. It means that much to some. In fact, I suspect you are in the minority in this area, at least on these boards. I have passed DW on to my daughter who, at nine, already views it as a special place, a place where dreams literally do come true.

It's not just an amusement park. And that you can't see that -- to me, at least -- explains why you can not see how important this first trip for that woman's children is. And why, IMHO, that very first trip should be taken with Mom and Dad, not an aunt who, though her heart is in the right place, should bow out for the time being and let a mom raise her kids.

My Lord have mercy, this has gotten very involved. I don't recall anything this serious since that time we got to yammering about fake cigarettes at DW.

 

[duffy]

Many, many years ago, my in-laws were at WDW for a convention. Somehow, my mother-in-law was bored. I don't know how, but she hated the trip. She said, AFTER they came home, that if she knew how boring it would be, she would have taken our daughters, so she could have taken them on some rides.

My husband and I took them a few years after that. Years later, do I feel smug that their first trip was with me and their dad? No. I wished so badly that she had taken them!

Do our daughters ever say, "Remember when we could have gone with Grandma to WDW, back in the '80s? Thank goodness she didn't take us!" No, they don't.

Also, if I'd thought that they can go on a trip only if I can come too, my older 2 would have never gone to-between the two of them-Mexico, several times, Brazil, most of western Europe, and some of eastern Europe. I couldn't live with myself if I'd prevented them from seeing the world, just because I couldn't go too.

 

[eastcarolinafan]

Many, many years ago, my in-laws were at WDW for a convention. Somehow, my mother-in-law was bored. I don't know how, but she hated the trip. She said, AFTER they came home, that if she knew how boring it would be, she would have taken our daughters, so she could have taken them on some rides.

My husband and I took them a few years after that. Years later, do I feel smug that their first trip was with me and their dad? No. I wished so badly that she had taken them!

Do our daughters ever say, "Remember when we could have gone with Grandma to WDW, back in the '80s? Thank goodness she didn't take us!" No, they don't.

Also, if I'd thought that they can go on a trip only if I can come too, my older 2 would have never gone to-between the two of them-Mexico, several times, Brazil, most of western Europe, and some of eastern Europe. I couldn't live with myself if I'd prevented them from seeing the world, just because I couldn't go too.

I don't know what to say here. I don't really know what it is you are even trying to say. I ..

... nevermind. I think I have reached my tolerance on this thread for tonight. I'll try again tomorrow, maybe. Have a fresh go at it.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

Not sure anymoe needs to be said, but OP, here is my take. I am definately one of the selfish mommies. I admit it. I never worked a day when my kids were little because I didn't want to miss a thing. I didn't eve leave my oldest DD with grandma untill she was like 2 because I didn't want to miss a thing. My mom was not around much and my dad not at all when I ws a kid and I wanted to be the exact opposite of them. Also, I was raised (by my grandparents) to be a huge Disney nut. So that combination (and the fact that we had the money to take our kids and that we have no family to offer to take them) would make me say no. Now sure, if someone had offered, we didn't have the money for a trip ever of the desire, that may all have changed my opinion.

Now I have a friend who went thought this in her family. Her uncle who was terminal wanted to take his grandson to Disney. Her mom didn't want them to because she wanted to see him on his first trip. My friend told me she thought her cousin was being selfish and while I understood the grandfather's side, I understood the mom's too. In the end, mom and dad went too for the first few days and got to be a part of it, then they flew home and left their son with grandpa for a longer trip.

Anyway, I would think if the parents didn't care it would be nice, but it sounds like the parents do care. However, only they can answer that for sure. I'd say talk to them, say you don't want to step over the line but find out where their line is. I wouldn't bring it up to the kids at all, just chat with the parents about it and see. It may be a big deal for them, it may not. Really only they can answer for their ids. As you can see all parents see things differently. I persoanlly don't think either side is right or wrong, just different.

 

[mjkacmom]

Why, you ask? Did you even read the original post?

The original poster said her sister WANTS TO TAKE THE KIDS TO DISNEY WORLD but can't afford it at the moment!!!!!! I mean, how much more clear does that have to be? The woman wants to take her own darn kids to Disney World and that's that! End of story. There is no but, there is no discussion, there is no this or that or the other. The woman and her husband want to take their kids to Disney World their first time and they should be able to do that when they wish without the sister's interference.

The OP is upset because she wants the kids to go NOW. But so what? They are not her kids. And I am sorry to be so blunt, but my goodness gracious, I have never seen the likes of it. The parents can't afford the trip yet, but when they can, the FAMILY will go. I have no doubt in my mind that at that time, the sister will be invited to go along.

And I am happy you view DW as just an amusement park, like a carnival in town. I salute you. But I do not share your views. And I won't speak for others here, but I suppose there are one or two more who agree with me. And yes, it is kind of a rite of passage. It means that much to some. In fact, I suspect you are in the minority in this area, at least on these boards. I have passed DW on to my daughter who, at nine, already views it as a special place, a place where dreams literally do come true.

It's not just an amusement park. And that you can't see that -- to me, at least -- explains why you can not see how important this first trip for that woman's children is. And why, IMHO, that very first trip should be taken with Mom and Dad, not an aunt who, though her heart is in the right place, should bow out for the time being and let a mom raise her kids.

My Lord have mercy, this has gotten very involved. I don't recall anything this serious since that time we got to yammering about fake cigarettes at DW.

I think someone here is in need of a Disney intervention, even on this board, and I think that would be you. I've only been to WDW about 10 times since I was a kid (first time was over 30 years ago), and yet I still can't see the importance of parents taking their children for the first time. Read the OP - there is nothing mentioned regarding the children's parents wanting to take the kids to WDW FOR THE FIRST TIME - just that they plan on taking them there eventually. Not everyone has a freaky passion for WDW, to the extent, that they would deny a vacation, a wonderful time, for their children, being purely selfish on their part. I'm guessing that, since the OP's family hasn't gotten around to taking the kids yet, they don't share the same feelings for WDW that you do, and might actually be receptive, and not insulted, to her offer.

Maybe you should leave your bubble of Dumbo, princesses, pirates, and fairies, and get with the real world. Not everyone considers taking their children to WDW for the first time a must.

 

[richmo]

Wow, this has really stirred things up.

Although I've already replied way back on page 1 I think, I'll put my thoughts another way.

If the OP would like to take her niece to WDW, she can approach the parents and run it by them, saying that she's going to WDW and would love to take the niece. Now its up to the parents -- if they truly would want their daughter to wait, all they have to do is say -- no, thank you for the offer, but we prefer she doesn't go until we're able to take her....or, if they're ok with it, they'll let her go.

As long as the OP goes thru the parents first and not the niece, I see no harm in asking. I think its a very generous offer and the parents have every right to accept it or reject it.