Would you date a relative?

[LisaB]

So basically the relationship is that your son's great great grandparents is the girls great great great grandparents

 

[TheBigBadWolf]

I had a friend whose great grandparents were first cousins. OMG, the health problems that family suffered due to the inbreeding!!! In the first generation, most of the children were blind, deaf, mentally ******** or had severe physical deformities. Some of the children had several birth defects. It was awful... By my friend's generation (3rd), there were still many health problems in their family, such as terrible allergies, heart defects, club feet, and mental problems. My friend's son's heart was "wired" backwards, and he was very allergic to everything. When taking his childhood shots, each shot had to be divided into at least 6 doses given at different times, so it took him forever to get his shots. Believe me, seeing the problems that family suffered due to inbreeding, I would NEVER date a relative, no matter how distant!

 

[C.Ann]

Blood relative? No.. I don't see what the issue is with a "step" relative though.. There's a difference between "step" - and half brother/sister..

 

[disneyeveryyear]

My aunt and uncle are 2nd cousins (I believe). Their mothers were 1st cousins. They actually went to a geneticist (sp?) before they married.

They were told that since it was on both of their mother's sides, it would be ok. They have 6 kids and all are very intelligent and successful.

 

[EpcotBeauty]

What an odd question for a WDW message board!! Gives a whole new meaning to the "Grand Gatherings".

I remember in college, many moons ago - learning about the "goat footed" and "blue skinned" people of Kentucky. I would never chance even LOOKING halfway longingly at a relative, whether they be 4, 5 or even 8th cousins. I found me someone across the seas!!

 

[Vijoge]

I know a guy who married his brother's widow. That, to me, is much more creepy than marrying a third, fourth, or sixtieth cousin.

 

[C.Ann]

I know a guy who married his brother's widow. That, to me, is much more creepy than marrying a third, fourth, or sixtieth cousin.

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I've seen that sort of thing happen many, many times.. Nothing creepy about it at all - as long as it's not the next day or something..

 

[Stacerita]

I think it would also depend on if you were raised together and knowing you were related.

 

[Mr. & Mrs. Smith]

I'm not quite sure why this would even be an issue. Why even look to your cousins for a date? It's a big world out there. Surely, you can find someone else to be with.

 

[EpcotBeauty]

I'm not quite sure why this would even be an issue. Why even look to your cousins for a date? It's a big world out there. Surely, you can find someone else to be with.

LOL, that was my first thought as well!

 

[wehavesix]

Speaking of cousins, does anyone else here have double first cousins?

My mother's brother married my father's sister and their kids are my double first cousins.

Anyone else?

 

[Vijoge]

I'm not quite sure why this would even be an issue. Why even look to your cousins for a date? It's a big world out there. Surely, you can find someone else to be with.

The thing is, how many of us even know our third cousins? Many of us don't even know our second cousins. I'm nearly 60 and it's just been in the last few years that I've even met any of these distant relatives.

Any one of us could have easily dated a second or third or fourth cousin and didn't even know it. I don't think it's looking for cousins to date as much as it is dating someone and then finding out you are cousins.

With people this distantly related it's a non-issue as far as I'm concerned. It's just no big deal.

 

[Mr. & Mrs. Smith]

The thing is, how many of us even know our third cousins? Many of us don't even know our second cousins. I'm nearly 60 and it's just been in the last few years that I've even met any of these distant relatives.

Well, I guess it depends where you come from. I know all of my second cousins and most of my third cousins as well. I really don't see them as "distant" relatives.

 

[disykat]

The thing is, how many of us even know our third cousins? Many of us don't even know our second cousins. I'm nearly 60 and it's just been in the last few years that I've even met any of these distant relatives.

Any one of us could have easily dated a second or third or fourth cousin and didn't even know it. I don't think it's looking for cousins to date as much as it is dating someone and then finding out you are cousins.

With people this distantly related it's a non-issue as far as I'm concerned. It's just no big deal.

ITA. I can't even imagine people thinking it's not okay to date someone that far removed. Did they do a geneology study of everyone they ever dated to make sure? Since neither dh or I have followed anything but our own branch of the family tree beyond 2nd cousins, we could easily be 3rd or 4th cousins and not know it. It doesn't bother me a bit!

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

I would say if you have EVER seen them at a family function..no way!
Did anyone see the show about cousins that marry. I think it was on the secrets lives of women. This couple were first cousins..her mom & his dad were brother and sister. Anyway they grew up together. His mom babysat her for years...obviously they shared the same grandparents. That was just too gross for words.

 

[mickeysgal]

What an odd question for a WDW message board!!

Having been on this board for many years, there is no question that is too odd to be posted here.

 

[wvdisluv2]

Holey Moley NO!!!! I'm from WV....we're trying to get RID of that stereo-type!!!

 

[TomLovesBecky]

My DH and I got to discussing last night how far down the gene line it would be ok or acceptable to date a distant cousin. Would it matter if you found out after you had been dating a while, or if you knew it going into the relationship?

My DS8 has a classmate that is a 3rd cousin, once removed, so we were having a discussion on the possibility of them ending up dating as teens. Just a general light-hearted discussion...hopefully those years are a long ways off!

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!

In my mind, there would be no possibility of my child dating a cousin. For the same reason that he/she wouldn't date a sibling. I would never allow it, ick!

 

[EpcotBeauty]

Having been on this board for many years, there is no question that is too odd to be posted here.

Obviously, silly me!!!

 

[Janet Hill]

Holey Moley NO!!!! I'm from WV....we're trying to get RID of that stereo-type!!!

You can thank my grandma (God rest her soul), for doing her part. She always told us that his (gandpa's) family never accepted her, because he moved off off the mountain and didn't marry a cousin.