Would you date a relative?

[corie161]

My DH and I got to discussing last night how far down the gene line it would be ok or acceptable to date a distant cousin. Would it matter if you found out after you had been dating a while, or if you knew it going into the relationship?

My DS8 has a classmate that is a 3rd cousin, once removed, so we were having a discussion on the possibility of them ending up dating as teens. Just a general light-hearted discussion...hopefully those years are a long ways off!

 

[Anewman]

One time at a wedding when I was 15 I slow danced with a cousin... she made me feel funny.

I dont slow dance with family anymore.

 

[kpm76]

No, I would not date a relative. If I had "step" relative, I would not date them either. I'm married so it's moot but if I was not that would be my policy. My suggestion is to tell your DS (if he does not already know) that the girl is his cousin.....

 

[*pixie*dust*]

No, I wouldn't. I agree with the previous poster--let your DS know from the begining that the girl is his cousin.

 

[lillygator]

no!

 

[corie161]

He knows that they are related. But DH and I's discussion was on how far out of a relative makes it ok? I personnaly would find it really weird and awkward and I don't think I'd be able to date someone I knew I was related to.

 

[rentayenta]

Ew. No.

 

[gottaluvPluto]

Does the Dis have any gross smilies?

 

[Camicar]

Well, after thirty years and one kid, my dh discovered thru his genealogy hobby that he and I are twelfth cousins, twice removed. I think that's sufficient degrees of separation.

Seriously, though, from his genealogy hobby one thing he has learned is that most of us are related to each other in some way or other. So it depends upon the degree of separation with which you are comfortable.

 

[blu3d3vil]

If you're from Alabama it's ok, anywhere else I'd say no.

 

[Jenvenza]

Nope. No, no , no.

 

[corie161]

Does the Dis have any gross smilies.

I'm not sure about the gross smiley but a quick search of google says there are lots of people out there who don't think it's gross.

 

[Stacerita]

If you're from Alabama it's ok, anywhere else I'd say no.

 

[Mr. & Mrs. Smith]

I would think that your third cousin would be much too close to be involved with. Now say my 15th or 20th cousin and that's a different story.

 

[shirleyb]

I would think that your third cousin would be much too close to be involved with. Now say my 15th or 20th cousin and that's a different story.

Actually, I was going to say 3rd cousin is pretty far away. I don't think I even know any of my 3rd cousins.

 

[lillygator]

I changed my mind - if it was George Clooney - yes.

 

[KyraS]

DS goes to school with a 7th cousin and they are always joking about getting married one day. I actually told him that I didn't see a 7th cousin as a problem although they are just joking. I would say 7th is about what I would go with on it being okay.

In my mom's family, however there are 1st cousins who married. I know GROSS, but they've been married now for 50 years and have 3 normal children, of who, 2 are very successful doctors. So I guess it can work even though it's kind of gross.

 

[Soarin08]

Uhhh, no way would I date even my 8th cousin five times removed! Family is family..... that's creepy to even think about.

 

[disykat]

I would date a 3rd cousin. The likelyhood that I would even find out they were my 3rd cousin is pretty small.

I know all my cousins and their offspring. I know of my great grandparents and have seen family trees that include my 2nd cousins and 2nd cousins once removed. I've even met some of them. However, I barely remember my great-great-grandparents names, and have no clue about the identity of all their progeny other than my specific limb of their family tree.

Kyra, how on earth would someone even know a 7th cousin? Doesn't that mean that they have a great,great,great,great,great,great grandparent in common?

 

[jordansmomma]

One time at a wedding when I was 15 I slow danced with a cousin... she made me feel funny.

I dont slow dance with family anymore.

If you're from Alabama it's ok, anywhere else I'd say no.

I changed my mind - if it was George Clooney - yes.

I would too....


But on a serious note...family is family..you don't date family....