Would you complain about an engagement ring?

[kidzmom3]

Eventually she went over to the Fine jewelry dept to ask for the sales associates opinion on her engagement ring.


Ok, by this time he's gone and she's asking my opinion.
Anyway, she was going to tell him to take it back, she wanted a different ring.
I just couldn't get over that. You don't tell your guy to take back the ring cause it's not good enough.
Hopefully the two have talked about it before he goes and buys it. I want to have input on my ring, if I ever get one. So, he shouldn't try to surprise me.

did you leave out the part about her complaining about the ring? Because it sounds like she was trying to ask the opinion of people who would in theory have a more educated opinion of the ring. Perhaps he paid way too much and she was concerned he was "taken". Maybe she just didn't like it, and he suprised her. Which you as the OP stated you would not like. If your marriage works out, you are talking about a piece of jewelry you will wear for 25+years. Are we sure she didn't like it because of its cost or that it wasn't "good enough?"

 

[CALNEVA DISNEYFANS]

If I were the guy and she asked me to take it back, I would.

And then I'd walk away from her and never look back.

DITTO

 

[lillygator]

Oh for me, it is SO not about the ring...as a senior at UF my BF proposed with 2 rings he had on loan, since he was not quite sure which one I would like.....


we were split at the time and he could have had a Harry Winston and it would not have mattered.....


several years later, my DH proposed with the perfect ring....I love it and would never change it....

but hey, I always could use something for my naked fingers.

 

[disykat]

I can see asking for it to be downgraded, but not asking for something better. Dh and I went together. I'm so glad he didn't surprise me, because he would have gotten much more than I wanted.

 

[sk!mom]

I would hope that I would never complain about a gift. I think that the guy should think twice about what he's getting into with a woman who would complain.

For the record, DH bought me what I thought was a perfect ring 26 years ago. He picked it out and I was thrilled and surprised.

 

[poohandwendy]

I would have married my DH with a twist tie around my finger. The ring was nothing but gravy.

 

[Serena]

She said she wanted to impress her cousin who is a jeweler. That's all she seemed to care about.
She couldn't see the flaws either. She was told that for the money the guy paid for it, it was a good ring. $1,200

I can understand a difference in taste. For example he buys you a big showy ring and you prefer something more simple. Or everything you own is white gold and he buys a yellow gold ring.
But style isn't what she was complaining about. She wanted perfect diamonds.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

My husband and I went together to pick out the ring. We had talked about marriage and knew the time was drawing near. Being a paraplegic, he wanted me to pick out the ring. He wanted to make sure it wouldn't get in my way, get snagged a lot, and be a ring I could enjoy.

We have been married two years next month (note the 228 in my name, it's my anniversary) and I still wear that engagement ring with my wedding band. It's so precious to me and I will always wear it.

 

[tigercat]

It's funny to me about the price that some of the rings cost. My diamond, wedding band and my dh's wedding band cost a total of $500.00. I am unfortunatly not able to wear my diamond except for special occasions as I am worried about losing the single diamond. I love my rings though and was really happy and excited to get them.
tigercat

 

[KarenAylwood]

I would have married my DH with a twist tie around my finger. The ring was nothing but gravy.

Said like a true woman in love


And come to think of it, why ask others if they think the ring is nice?? She should be the only opinion that matters anyway!

 

[pfishgirl]

DH and I went shopping together.. I picked out 1 or 2 rings from each jewelry store.. I even had to give him a top 5... and you know what happened??? I NEVER got any of them ...

DH proposed to me with a ring that I never even chose it's very plain, but the diamond itself is one of the best diamonds to have... no flaws and a high clarity/color... but I still would NEVER take it back and exchange it..

Luckily for me, my maid of honor's dad was a manager at a jewelry store, so he had a wedding ring special made for me and it makes my plain old engagment ring look beautiful... I still get comments on my rings..

 

[SDFgirl]

Never, never, never!

I knew my husband was shopping for my ring before we got engaged. He wanted to pick it out himself. There was a small part of me that was afraid I wouldn't like what he picked. But I decided that if I didn't like the ring, I would never say a word.

Why? Because he spent a lot of time and effort picking out just the right thing to express his love for me. His feelings are so much more important than a piece of jewelry.

Luckily, I absolutely ADORE what he picked out!

(Funny aside: he showed the ring to my parents 3 weeks before he proposed. My mom knew that I would love the ring, but she totally fed my paranoid fears about him picking out something ugly. She said, "What if it's hideous? What if it's a snake head with red rubies for eyes?" I could have killed her!! )

 

[EthansMom]

I had a female aquaintance several years ago for whom nothing was good enough. At 23/24, Mommy and Daddy were still subsidizing the brand new sports car, vacations, nice clothes, etc. She had been dating/engaged to a guy on the opposite coast for the entire time I knew this young woman, ~1.5 years.

She ended up breaking off her engagement weeks before the wedding because her DF didn't buy a honeymoon that met her expectations. He had gone into the local TA office and arranged a week at a nice resort in the Caribbean, which apparently wasn't "high end" enough (not long enough, expensive enough, fancy enough) for this Diva.

She then went back to the West Coast, expecting to get together with one of our male friends (her "backup" guy), only to find that he was dating someone. Poor girl. Her former fiance was pretty lucky IMO.

 

[disneynutt1225]

I LOVE my ring, mainly because DFi and I designed it. It's nothing too fancy. DFi bought me a pear shaped solitaire 7 years ago, and last year we went to my cousin and changed the setting (white gold with a baguette and round stone on either side). It's perfect, and its even more special because it has a little bit of both of us in it - his stone, and my setting.

 

[Maryr1]

I have been married for almost 23 years-I have a beautiful e-ring and wedding band. I almost never wear them! They are big and I am afraid that I would loose them or something. If we are going somewhere special, I do wear them.(My ering is 4.5 carats and my wedding ring is a 6.5 carat eternity band).I know I am married in my heart and that is what matters.Period. My husband is fine with this-he wears a wedding band. My rings are such a small part of being married-I have the best husband in the world and I am so very lucky. Even after all these years I would of married him with no ring, no honeymoon,no nothing because he is such a great guy!

 

[PaulaSue]

This couple came into work today. He was looking at watches and she was too for a while. Eventually she went over to the Fine jewelry dept to ask for the sales associates opinion on her engagement ring.

Well, she was honest. She said it's a nice ring but it has flaws in it. But almost every diamond does unless it's very expensive.

Ok, by this time he's gone and she's asking my opinion. It was a pretty ring. I couldn't see any flaws in it, but I probably wouldn't see a flaw if it bit me.
Anyway, she was going to tell him to take it back, she wanted a different ring.
I just couldn't get over that. You don't tell your guy to take back the ring cause it's not good enough.
Hopefully the two have talked about it before he goes and buys it. I want to have input on my ring, if I ever get one. So, he shouldn't try to surprise me.
But I still don't get telling the guy to take back the ring. I just don't get it.

Honestly I would, I am the one who has to wear it for the rest of my life.

TG, Dh listened to what I saw and I wanted. He actually got me a better quality ring than the one I had my eyes one. I have been wearing it for over 11 years and still love it to this day. I can't imagine wearing it if I hated it.

 

[Disney Doll]

I would tread carefully before returning an engagement ring. I would have to be really sure that my DF would not be hurt.BTW, I love my e-ring, a beautiful marquis cut solitaire.

Based on the way the OP related the story, it sounds as if the bride to be is a bit on the materialistic side.

 

[Caradana]

I'm so glad that he brought me with him to look at rings. I would've had a hard time wearing something that I was just "blah" about every day for the next 60 years. I mean, don't most of us want to know exactly how our hair will look at the end, before our hairstylist starts cutting? And that haircut only matters for a fraction of the time of that ring.

I think the woman's comment was tasteless, but I do agree she's justified in feeling like she wants to change the ring if she's never liked it from the start. There are classier ways to go about it, though.

P.S. Disney Doll - I am such a marquise cut girl, too. Our jeweler gave us a great deal partly because marquise have waned so much in popularity since the 1970s ... fewer than 1 out of every 100 sold diamonds are marquise cut now. Fun that it's becoming rarer!

 

[Dan Murphy]

.........a beautiful marquis cut solitaire......

That is Marie's also!!

 

[Buckalew11]

... a beautiful marquis cut solitaire...

and mine also. Dana, I didn't know that about marquis cuts. That's interesting.