Would you be offended?

[BigAlsGal]

Oh good grief...if I've learned anything is there's 2 sides to every story. We have no idea what's going on in these people's lives. Did MIL really give her a smaller piece of cake on PURPOSE? I don't know about you guys but I'm not a professional cake server. I cut pieces like crap. I get it everywhere and quite frankly I am not measuring out pieces of cake.

I'm not gonna believe MIL was handing out Augustus Gloop size pieces of cake to everyone else and then served poor DIL a small sliver as she glared at her over her glasses.

I think she's making a mountain out of a molehill.

That being said I think everyone should only eat a small piece of cake. Portions are out of control which is part of the obesity epidemic in this country. Sorry she didn't get her ginormous piece of cake.

 

[mefordis]

Oh good grief...if I've learned anything is there's 2 sides to every story. We have no idea what's going on in these people's lives. Did MIL really give her a smaller piece of cake on PURPOSE? I don't know about you guys but I'm not a professional cake server. I cut pieces like crap. I get it everywhere and quite frankly I am not measuring out pieces of cake.

I'm not gonna believe MIL was handing out Augustus Gloop size pieces of cake to everyone else and then served poor DIL a small sliver as she glared at her over her glasses.

I think she's making a mountain out of a molehill.

That being said I think everyone should only eat a small piece of cake. Portions are out of control which is part of the obesity epidemic in this country. Sorry she didn't get her ginormous piece of cake.

Okay, folks, the thread is settled! According to BigAlsGal:

1. My sis's MIL actually served an equal piece of cake, or close to it. My sister was lying (thanks for clearing that up!).

2. Sis's MIL glared at my sister while serving it, and I guess her mil wears glasses, too. I didn't know you knew my sister's mil, BigAlsGAL!

3. Everyone is fat and should not eat cake larger in size than a sliver.

Thread can be closed now. Thank you!

 

[BigAlsGal]

Okay, folks, the thread is settled! According to BigAlsGal:

1. My sis's MIL actually served an equal piece of cake, or close to it. My sister was lying (thanks for clearing that up!).

2. Sis's MIL glared at my sister while serving it, and I guess her mil wears glasses, too. I didn't know you knew my sister's mil, BigAlsGAL!

3. Everyone is fat and should not eat cake larger in size than a sliver.

Thread can be closed now. Thank you!

First of all I didn't say she was lying I said it might have been accidental. Second I used glasses as a way to sternly look at someone. I guess I could have said "looked down her nose at.." Third I absolutely did not say everyone is fat. I said portion is out of control. An American size portion of cake could probably serve 2-3 in other countries.

I do agree this thread should be closed though!

 

[TAX GUY]

I am taking away two key points from this thread:

1. Women worry about or get offended by the smallest of things

2. If having a party, serve cup cakes to avoid pissing anyone off

 

[BigAlsGal]

I am taking away two key points from this thread:

1. Women worry about or get offended by the smallest of things

2. If having a party, serve cup cakes to avoid pissing anyone off

I wish I could hit like about 20 times.

 

[Stitchfans]

That cousin deserves nothing short of a good old-fashioned slap.

LOL do not want to lower myself to her lever though.

 

[mefordis]

First of all I didn't say she was lying I said it might have been accidental. Second I used glasses as a way to sternly look at someone. I guess I could have said "looked down her nose at.." Third I absolutely did not say everyone is fat. I said portion is out of control. An American size portion of cake could probably serve 2-3 in other countries.

I do agree this thread should be closed though!

Or rather than closing the thread you could exercise some self control and not read it!

 

[Ponygirl]

Is it too late to reply? I prefer to deal with issues like this straight on with a sense of humor. I would simply tell the cake server that they could either give me a larger piece or I would be licking the icing off their slice to go with the tiny piece they gave me and I would laugh as I said it. I find the straightforward approach works well and it is always nice to share a laugh with friends.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Oh good grief...if I've learned anything is there's 2 sides to every story. We have no idea what's going on in these people's lives. Did MIL really give her a smaller piece of cake on PURPOSE? I don't know about you guys but I'm not a professional cake server. I cut pieces like crap. I get it everywhere and quite frankly I am not measuring out pieces of cake.

I'm not gonna believe MIL was handing out Augustus Gloop size pieces of cake to everyone else and then served poor DIL a small sliver as she glared at her over her glasses.

I think she's making a mountain out of a molehill.

That being said I think everyone should only eat a small piece of cake. Portions are out of control which is part of the obesity epidemic in this country. Sorry she didn't get her ginormous piece of cake.

We don't know what's going on. But you know what is going on enough to know she's making a mountain out of a molehill and she's just mad she didn't get a ginormous piece of cake. Check.

 

[Stacerita]

Maybe MIL intended for her to not have a large piece of cake. Maybe it was on accident. Maybe your sister is over sensitive about her weight and over thinks issues such as this. Who cares. As an adult you have choices. Eat the slice, eat the slice and ask for more, or don't eat the cake.

 

[CPanther95]

An American size portion of cake could probably serve 2-3 in other countries.

But it would be stale by the time it got there. Better to eat it than let it go to waste.

 

[mefordis]

We don't know what's going on. But you know what is going on enough to know she's making a mountain out of a molehill and she's just mad she didn't get a ginormous piece of cake. Check.

Can I hit "like" 20 times??????

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Can I hit "like" 20 times??????

Yes you can. But it will just like, unlike, and like and unlike and I'll get 20 alerts.

 

[cijay]

I can't resist posting this hypothetical.

If you were overweight and at a family gathering for a birthday, and your mil cut a huge piece of cake for everyone (about 5 other people), but a very noticeably thin, tiny sliver for you, would you be offended?

My sister is a bit bummed out because this happened to her. Not sure what to say about this one!

What is hypothetical? You just outed your sister LOL.

Yes I am overweight and no I wouldn't be offended. I wait 'til something really matters before I get offended. I would certainly embarrass the 'cutter' to no end though. She'd wish she hadn't done that.

 

[cabanafrau]

What is hypothetical? You just outed your sister LOL.

Yes I am overweight and no I wouldn't be offended. I wait 'til something really matters before I get offended. I would certainly embarrass the 'cutter' to no end though. She'd wish she hadn't done that.

If you wouldn't be offended, why the need to embarrass the server and make her wish she hadn't done that?

Don't get the boastful semantics of claiming to be above offense.

 

[cijay]

If you wouldn't be offended, why the need to embarrass the server and make her wish she hadn't done that?

I don't know what a mil is but if it's someone who is merely cutting a cake, would they really give a toot if they offended me or not? So why waste the time being offended? But it doesn't mean I can't have any fun. They did that as a joke? I'd 'joke' right back. Not Honey Boo Boo's mother style shouting or anything. Now, if the situation changed from the original post and it's the last piece or something, the whole thing would change.

Don't get the boastful semantics of claiming to be above offense.

Grand scope of things. I'll get offended by what I choose, thanks. Being offended by something like this is only a stress you put on yourself. Is it worth it? A long time ago I came to the realisation that I'd get precious little done in the day if I spent my time being offended by small things. Someone at the store called me racist because I stopped him for shoplifting (amusingly, he took a look at my skin colour and decided I was racist rather than consider the jacket with our tag on it that he was wearing out the door.) It's my job to stop shoplifters but to insist I wouldn't have stopped him because he's not white? That I will find offensive (as I choose).



But...take, for example the recent 'tragedy' of the Starbucks red cup. People are finding it 'offensive'. Am I going to waste the entire Christmas season being offended? Am I going to boycott Starbucks? What for? Wait until there is something TRULY offensive. Someone cutting me an obviously smaller piece of cake? Nah.

 

[SparklePixie]

I don't know what a mil is but if it's someone who is merely cutting a cake, would they really give a toot if they offended me or not? So why waste the time being offended? But it doesn't mean I can't have any fun. They did that as a joke? I'd 'joke' right back. Not Honey Boo Boo's mother style shouting or anything. Now, if the situation changed from the original post and it's the last piece or something, the whole thing would change.



Grand scope of things. I'll get offended by what I choose, thanks. Being offended by something like this is only a stress you put on yourself. Is it worth it? A long time ago I came to the realisation that I'd get precious little done in the day if I spent my time being offended by small things. Someone at the store called me racist because I stopped him for shoplifting (amusingly, he took a look at my skin colour and decided I was racist rather than consider the jacket with our tag on it that he was wearing out the door.) It's my job to stop shoplifters but to insist I wouldn't have stopped him because he's not white? That I will find offensive (as I choose). Someone cutting me an obviously smaller piece of cake? Nah.

Mother in law

 

[MrsDuck]

I'd most certainly be hurt.

 

[cijay]

Mother in law

Thank you. So...did she like their 'mil' to begin with? Or is she always pulling things like this?

 

[Pumbaa_]

I would have waited til she finished serving then swapped my slice for my DH's