Would you be offended?

[rajak73]

You're not offended when someone is rude (the opposite of polite) to you? Forget it, it's just vocabulary at this point.

No I'm not offended or anything else. Guess I just have thicker skin than a lot of people do. If someone's rude, I just figure they are a idiot and let it go at that. Life is too short to get all up in arms and my panties in bunch about something so trivial. JMO and nothing else, if other people want to throw a temper tantrum about whether the cake is small or what color of cup my Starbucks comes in, by all means feel free, I'm just not offended by it. Again, JMO!

 

[Wishing on a star]

I see what you mean!
But, I don't think most people here are saying to throw a temper-tantrum over a slice of cake.

And, boy, you are SO right... the person(s) who would act so disrespectfully are def. the idiots.

But, offensive behavior IS offensive.
And, it is only natural to take notice when one is personally singled out and treated in a disrespectful and offensive manner.

IMHO, when it comes to somebody who would try to control what I put into my own body, that is def. breach of personal boundaries.
This goes further than the color of the plate/cup or the size of the cake.

 

[Stacy's a freak]

My sister has struggled with weight for much of her life. She started Weight Watchers when she was in her 20s and it really worked for her! Then she became pregnant with her daughter and she gained the weight back and had to do it all over again. She did WW again and she has controlled her weight for about 10+ years and is very healthy and still does WW. Even though she is average size now, she still gets offended (internally) when these things happen to others who are struggling with weight. She shares these feelings with family - not the general public. If necessary, she will argue her own family for the good of others struggling with this issue.

So if your sister was offended, she has the right to be offended. It all goes back to the fact that everyone is fighting a battle - whether obvious or not - and we just need to be kind to others. Whether or not your sister chooses to say anything to MIL or if she just needs to vent to her close family members, she has the right to do so. If her feelings were hurt, it doesn't matter if MIL was doing it on purpose, made a poor choice, or is purposefully being rude, your sister's feelings matter. So let her vent and simply listen

 

[srferson]

I wish people would stop trying to bring the Starbucks cup into the conversation when it's quite clear that "offense" isn't even close to the situation being discussed here.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

No I'm not offended or anything else. Guess I just have thicker skin than a lot of people do. If someone's rude, I just figure they are a idiot and let it go at that. Life is too short to get all up in arms and my panties in bunch about something so trivial. JMO and nothing else, if other people want to throw a temper tantrum about whether the cake is small or what color of cup my Starbucks comes in, by all means feel free, I'm just not offended by it. Again, JMO!

Well if someone were to be rude to you to the point where your response is to think ill of that someone (ie they're an idiot,) that would imply that you were indeed offended by their rude behavior.

 

[rajak73]

Well if someone were to be rude to you to the point where your response is to think ill of that someone (ie they're an idiot,) that would imply that you were indeed offended by their rude behavior.[/QUOT
Whatever, I'm offended now. Happy? I'm outa hereI have much more important things going on to discuss cake.

 

[MickeySP]

I am taking away two key points from this thread:

1. Women worry about or get offended by the smallest of things

2. If having a party, serve cup cakes to avoid pissing anyone off

Well I am highly offended by this!!!

I will say that since this thread began I have lost 8lbs & I wast a cupcake

 

[Pookles]

If it wasn't a slip of the knife, she made the conscious decision to single your sister out in her own home. You don't decide for another person how much they get to eat. If your sister didn't want to eat the whole piece, she would have left what she didn't want on her plate like anyone else would do. We cut the same piece for everyone, and occasionally someone calls out "small one please" and it's done.

If you really have the overwhelming need to say something MIL, bring in up in private, not in front of a group.