Would you allow your kids to have sex at EPCOT

[ashjohnson80]

I've been married for 4 years and there's no way that i'm doing "that" while on vacation with my parents. And my family would have disowned me if I had lived with someone before I got married. Ignorance is bliss I guess.

 

[bsmcneil]

i have a no sex at WDW policy. it doesn't exist. (closes ears) lalalalalalalalalala.

 

[Evil Queen]

these posts are cracking me up....no need for me to say more.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Actually I have heard of many parents taking treating their kids to a vacation even if they happen to 18-20 years old and living together.

Many parents do a lot of things. I'm only talking about my policies and beliefs. If my kids are supporting themselves, they can do what they want, share a room, etc. If they are being supported by me as my 18yo college age DD still is, there are rules and expectations. She can go off and do as she wants and is perfectly free to do so, but I will cut the strings. I won't disown her, will still love and speak to her, but if she is going to live the life of an adult she will have the adult responsibilities.

Yes, she can still go off and have sex--I can't stop that and I'm not naive enough to think I can. We won't discuss what I snuck off and did under my parent's noses, however, my parents were naive and didn't discuss things with me. We didn't have the relationship that I have with my DD (and the other kids, but they are younger so it's hard to compare).

 

[NMAmy]

Yes, when my dd is over 18 and out of high school, I would allow her to share a room with her SO. I don't think sex before marriage is a terrible thing so it wouldn't bother me.

I know it didn't bother my parents, either, with me or either of my sisters. My mother always encouraged living with someone before getting married, anyway, so it would have been pretty weird if she suddenly thought we should sleep in separate rooms.

 

[Nancy]

I'm curious what these "no way" parents would do if their children decided to live with somebody for a couple years. If they are living together why not consider them a couple and treat them as you would if they were married?

If they were living together and they were paying for their own trip then they can do whatever they want while in that room. IF I actually ever had enough money to pay for everyone's rooms (which right now I can't even afford to pay for a room for me) and they are living together than I would not put restrictions on them. I would hope though that my daughters will not decide to get into that serious of a relationship at the ages of 18-20. I'd like them graduated from college before they decide to live together/get married.

 

[cardaway]

Yes, when my dd is over 18 and out of high school, I would allow her to share a room with her SO. I don't think sex before marriage is a terrible thing so it wouldn't bother me.

I know it didn't bother my parents, either, with me or either of my sisters. My mother always encouraged living with someone before getting married, anyway, so it would have been pretty weird if she suddenly thought we should sleep in separate rooms.

That certainly was my situation. We don't get to pick our parents so it's quite lucky when you get ones that are not prudes.

 

[Bob Slydell]

That certainly was my situation. We don't get to pick our parents so it's quite lucky when you get ones that are not prudes.

I guess I was an "unlucky" one who grew up with prudes who would have been ticked if DW and I lived together before marriage. Heck, we actually closed on our house a month and a half before our wedding -- and was told by our parents (both sides) that they'd prefer that we didn't live in the house until after our wedding.

Did we have to listen to them? Considering we were both 25, completely independent and owners of a home together -- no, we didn't have to listen to them. But we respected our parents' wishes, even if we thought it was stupid.

And I think we turned out ok.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

That certainly was my situation. We don't get to pick our parents so it's quite lucky when you get ones that are not prudes.

I'm a prude? Because I have certain moral beliefs that I stand behind--that makes me a prude? No, my mother, who wouldn't talk to a child about sex, about why they shouldn't do it before being in a commited relationship, about the logical consequenses (not imposed by me, but AIDS, pregnancy, getting to know a person to avoid getting involved with a dud, etc, etc)--that was a prude. My sister, who used to send her kids out of the room when a tampon commercial would come on because she didn't want to discuss tampons with her teens. I can't imagine what she would do if she had teens now with viagra commercials that are on tv.

I have an open, loving relationship with my kids. We discuss many things that I never would have discussed with my parents. All I would have gotten would have been a lecture if I had of asked a question as opposed to dialog. In my book that's what it means to be a prude.

 

[Philadisney]

I am 24 and my parents still won't let me stay alone with my significant other when we go on vacation with them, or visit them
If we are paying for the vacation, then it's a different story!

 

[discernment]

Its called being respectful of your parents rather you agree with their beliefs or not. Having a moral standard that you find sex before marriage(fornication) wrong and against your belief system does not make one a prude. Believe it or not there are still people that wait until they married to have sex.

But I guess they are all prudes too.

 

[cardaway]

Did we have to listen to them? Considering we were both 25, completely independent and owners of a home together -- no, we didn't have to listen to them. But we respected our parents' wishes, even if we thought it was stupid.

And I think we turned out ok.

Glad it worked out for you. I certainly didn't imply that it wouldn't or couldn't and people shouldn't repsect their parents.

 

[NMAmy]

That certainly was my situation. We don't get to pick our parents so it's quite lucky when you get ones that are not prudes.

I don't necessarily think it's a matter of luck. Since I wasn't raised to believe that sex before marriage was a sin, it's not a big deal to me and I don't really understand all the hoopla about adult children sharing a room with someone they're not married to.

Other people have different beliefs--I respect that they feel they're doing the right thing and I hope that they would respect my beliefs. Neither is necessarily right or wrong--just different.

 

[cardaway]

I don't necessarily think it's a matter of luck. Since I wasn't raised to believe that sex before marriage was a sin, it's not a big deal to me and I don't really understand all the hoopla about adult children sharing a room with someone they're not married to.

Other people have different beliefs--I respect that they feel they're doing the right thing and I hope that they would respect my beliefs. Neither is necessarily right or wrong--just different.

Well said.

 

[Beth76]

Heck, we actually closed on our house a month and a half before our wedding -- and was told by our parents (both sides) that they'd prefer that we didn't live in the house until after our wedding.

Now I find that disrespectful on your parents part. Who are they to say where you can and can not live when you own your own home? Obviously, it didn't bother you but it would have bothered me.

I'm actually quite surprised that my parents didn't make a huge stink when I moved in with my boyfriend (now husband). I guess they realized that since they were no longer supporting me they had no right to tell me how to live.

 

[JRawkSteady]

Definitely... once they're 18 of course...

 

[Planogirl]

My mother made a fuss when I moved in with my boyfriend when I was 19. She's not religious but still thought it was a terrible thing.

My father died several years ago and my mother is living with a boyfriend. Funny how attitudes can change.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Now I find that disrespectful on your parents part. Who are they to say where you can and can not live when you own your own home? Obviously, it didn't bother you but it would have bothered me.

It's not like they forbid us or anything (not that they could have). They just made their opinions known on disliking the whole living together thing. We could have very easily ignored their wishes and ticked them all off (I'm sure they would have gotten over it eventually), but we decided a month or two more living separately was easier than going against their wishes.

Ironically, my parents didn't have a problem with sex before marriage (I don't know what my in-laws opinion was -- I didn't ask them ). No, it makes no sense, but then again, who said parents have to make sense or even e consistent.

 

[laura001]

However, I didn't flaunt it in front of my parents.

And for me, it goes back to whether or not they are supporting themselves. If they are on their own I will respect that, but if they are still my dependents, they have to respect my values and I won't condone it happening under my nose even though I'm not stupid enough to think that things can't happen.

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[MareQ]

As suggested in another thread...

Assume you are were going on a family vacation to Disney with your unmarried (18+) son/daughter and their signficiant other. They suggest a sleeping arrangement that would put the two of them alone in their own room. Would you go for it?

EDIT - OK, so it's not exactly *at* EPCOT, but you get the idea

Only if they were paying for their own room. If I was paying for their room then they will sleep where I tell them to sleep.