Would you allow your kids to have sex at EPCOT

[disykat]

Other people have different beliefs--I respect that they feel they're doing the right thing and I hope that they would respect my beliefs. Neither is necessarily right or wrong--just different.

ITA. Thank you for stating it so nicely without any namecalling.

 

[tikilyn]

I don't know how I will feel when my kids get of age. If I look at my past and my parents past well then I guess I shouldn't have a problem with it.

My parents had to get married (if you know what I mean). My mother kept an open dialog with me about everything from periods, pads and tampons to sex (married and unmarried). My moms motto is TALK TALK TALK till your blue in the face.

So when I met my boyfriend (now dh) I was 18 and when that first time came I was armed with information and made an adult decission. Serveral months later my mother asked me if we were doing it . I told her the truth. She just said well you know how to protect your self. I was still living with them. I held my own job and paid for my car, insurance, and clothes. My parents paid for food and the roof over my head. I remember the first time my parents let my dh spend the night with me. My mother and father were going out of town and my mom told my dh that it would be a good idea if he stay with me ( so I wouldn't be scared)LOL! (this was after a year of dating).

So I guess the point of this is that my parents saw me as an adult because I was making adult decission. I wasn't a trouble child. I guess if my kids are an adult and making good decissions then I'm going to treat them as adults and accept there actions.

My dh and I dated five years and having sex for most of that time and I never once got pregnant or anything of the sorts. And I believe the reason for that was my mothers open dialogs to me.

 

[JimboInLimbo]

I guess this is one of the few things I'm still old fashioned about -- I'm not stupid, I know there's a good chance my kids will be having sex by then. But I don't have to facilitate it.

Yes, yes, yes

 

[VampHeartless]

I look at it this way...

If you buy them seperate rooms, are you going to stay outside your son or daughters room all night to make sure they're not sneaking in to see each other?

No, you're not. You're going to doze off, and your 18 year old, legal adult, is going to be violated, while at the same time, you'll have paid for a empty room that neither one of them will use.

I operate on the general philosphy that I don't care where anyone sticks their *****, (sons and daughters included), as long as it's not in my general direction.

Being overseas has taught that America really needs to lighten up.

 

[singingpixie]

This is an odd topic to me because I'm one of the "unmarried living together" people. i'm 22 and have been living w/ DBF for a year now (we've been together for 2, and the year before that was on-and-off dating/good friends- I went home that summer and we hadn't been dating that long, so we decided to be friends and talk a lot during the 350 mile separation rather than pushing ourselves to be serious in a long-distance relationship and regretting it). When we visit my parents, we sleep in separate rooms on separate floors of the house. When we visit his parents/grandparents, (and his family is a lot of ministers!) we are always given a room together. Either arrangement is fine, it's a matter of respect to the parents involved. When we decided to move in together, I was so scared to talk to my mother about it that I started the dialoge over email. I basically said "I would like to move in wiht Steve after my campus housing runs out, but I'm willing to not make that decision if it is going to make you wildly uncomfortable. It's not worth ruining our relationship" (of course I would have basically spent every night at his apartment anyway, but I would have had a dorm room if it made my parents more comfortable). She replied that although she didn't agree with it, I was almost 21 and I was an adult. That said, I think that if we were going to disney together, I would follow their lead on what makes them more comfortable. DBF might disagree, but I'd rather go without sex for a week (not that I'd be all that into it with my parents in the next room anyway!) than risk making things really weird.
If it were my kid, I'd probably go with the whole 'how serious is the relationship? how "adult" are they in their usual day-to-day life?" idea.

Now my high school boyfriend's parents were weird.... they were letting me sleep in his room when I was 16... still have NO clue what they were thinking!

 

[Jennasis]

In July of 2000, my family went on a trip to WDW. We all stayed at POFQ. It was my youngest sister (17) staying in the room with my mom and Dad. My oldest sister (then 27) stayed in her own room with her fiance. They paid for the room. I stayed in my own room (I was 23) with my boyfriend (who is now my DH). We also paid for our own room. At the time I WAS living at home with my parents, having just gotten out of an ugly, albeit SHORT, marriage only 7 months prior to this trip.

At 23 and 27, my sister and I were adults, paying our own way. Mom and dad had ZERO say (though they were fine with the arrangement).

OTOH I had taken a trip with my ex when I was 19 (I THINK...the castle had the B-day cake decorations up). We went on our own, and my parents were not happy about it, because they HATED the guy.

IMO, if the respective parties are paying for their own room, then so be it. I wouldn't expect Mom and Dad to foot the bill it.

 

[MosMom]

Sure I'd let them. I could give em a few pointers too.

 

[ChubbyHubby]

i have a no sex at WDW policy. it doesn't exist. (closes ears) lalalalalalalalalala.

Have you been talking to my wife??? I feel like I've entered the priesthood when I go to WDW. No touching.... No Sex.... A kiss on the cheek (above the neck...)

This vacation we are renting a seperate room for the kids. I have PLANS!!!

Of course I'm married (usually blissfully) for 16 years and two DDs so you might say hope springs eternal...

Chubster
32 down 43 to go. ( I'll get to the ticker thingimabob someday)

 

[JimFitz]

Have you been talking to my wife??? I feel like I've entered the priesthood when I go to WDW. No touching.... No Sex.... A kiss on the cheek (above the neck...)

This vacation we are renting a seperate room for the kids. I have PLANS!!!

Of course I'm married (usually blissfully) for 16 years and two DDs so you might say hope springs eternal...

Chubster
32 down 43 to go. ( I'll get to the ticker thingimabob someday)

The reason I bought DVC....two bedrooms make for good lovin in the World!

 

[MareQ]

The reason I bought DVC....two bedrooms make for good lovin in the World!

Hmmmm - Maybe that's why my usualy cheap husband agreed to buy into DVC when I asked to join years ago.....

 

[JimFitz]

Hmmmm - Maybe that's why my usualy cheap husband agreed to buy into DVC when I asked to join years ago.....

I bet your right!

 

[angel659]

Hi

I went to WDW with my bf in 1996 we were aged 17 and 19. We stayed at ASP and it was great. We had been seeing each other for over a year and my parents knew he was going to propose to me while we were out there.

He knew that we would be in the same room. He just advised me to be safe. I am an only child and they were very strict about me coming home. Before I left school at 16 I was unable to go out between Sunday-Thursday. If I did go out I had to be in by 9:00pm.

My point is that even though my dad knew we were going away he knew that if we were having sex it just would not be at the hotel. If they are having sex then they probably will go anywhere. Just better for them to be safe and protected than unplanned pregnancies. Then you will be having her dad knocking at your door.

 

[Freyja]

Weeellllllllll, considering that my parents still believed that I was a virgin when I was 15 and had had sex in my room, my parents room, my boyfriends house and my best friends house, I know pretty well that seperate rooms will not keep teens from having sex.

If the "kids" were used to sharing a room at home/college etc. I wouldn´t have a problem with them sharing one at WDW. However, if the relationship hadn´t gotten to the point where they would spend the night together at home, I don´t believe I would be bringing them along to WDW anyway.

 

[DMickey28]

It totally depends. It's about respect.

DH and I moved in together after a year and half of being together. I NEVER thought I would live with someone before marriage, but I KNEW it was him!! We still slept in seperate beds when we visited my parents. Even on our wedding cruise my mom had to work on my dad for DH and I to share our cabin the night before our wedding!! It's all about respect.

DBrother and his g/f of 4 years don't share a room when she comes down, but he goes up to see her and I imagine they do in her dorm! DUH! They went on vacation alone and that was fine, but if they are on a family vacation it's a ring and a date first!

It's just respect. I think I'll feel the same about my daughter/son.

 

[jennaissill]

This is all really different to me because I'm 19 and my dad offered to pay for me and my bf of 3 years to have our own room on our disney cruise. I guess my parents just respect me as an adult more.