Well, I have since talked to the folks and the tune has changed slightly. My parents are both very anti-daycare. Let's not start a debate, suffice it to say it's what they believe, similar to it's what DH and I had chosen for ourselves previously.
Well, Dad offered to take Fridays, and Mom has compromised. She's willing to do Monday, Tuesday, & Thursday, if we'd be willing to drop-off/pick-up Monday and Tuesday, and Thursday, we'd drop-off, and in the afternoon she'd bring him here. So it is a bit of compromise.
The problem is, I don't know how to make this decision. One day a week daycare in my hometown is literally a few minutes from my door. It would make my Thursdays sooooo easy. And he'd still be getting a preschool curriculum, and he wouldn't have to be potty trained. What Mom is thinking, if he stays with her, is that he'll be going to pre-school on Tuesday and Thursday, but that all hinges on him being potty trained.
So, let's lay it out.
Monday & Tuesday with Mom, we drop-off and pick up
Thursday - one day a week daycare
Friday - Dad watches at our place
See, with this schedule, it looks like my life gets a lot less hectic, since I bullied DH into doing the am drop-offs Mon & Tues, with the promise I would do the pick-ups. It would make my Wed-Sun sooo much easier. On Wed, I'd be off, Thursday and Friday, I'd be working five minutes from home and DS would be at close daycare or at home, and Sat he'd be at home with DH. As far as DH picking up some of the driving, my reasoning was that I've done all of it for the past two years, he could pick up some for the next two.
Then, if we have any kind of inclement weather, like snow or rain, which mom doesn't drive in, I don't have to worry about getting DS to and from her house on Thurs if she decides she doesn't want to drive. I think her ambition is good, but I question whether or not it'll really happen. Not a criticism, a fact.
All of this hinges on whether or not I get offered this position. Since pre-school doesn't actually start until the fall, does anybody think it would be a good idea to try the daycare one day a week and see how DS adjusts to it? Ach, I don't know. I'm all confuzzled. I need to talk to DH when he gets home. This job opportunity was supposed to simplify, not complicate.
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27Jun-11Jul'09 we're just waiting to hear if Becci's BFF is coming with us and then we can go ahead
. Becci also said last night that yes she actually will be going for a BBB makeover with Niamh and she's sure her BFF will do it as well so now the pressure is on big time for mummy to join in
. Is the World really ready for that...I think not
Woo Hoo!! I think you should do it. I would do it in a heartbeat if I had someone to go with. I'm too chicken to do it myself.
Well feel free to come along any time between 27Jun and 11Jul 2009 
. I have a feeling I'm going to be railroaded into the experience
make over (needless to say he was less than enthusiastic 
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I completely empathize regarding health insurance. For a long while I was working as a temp and had to pay full cost for my own health insurance. I could only afford the "disaster" insurance that had a really high deductible, and it really only helps you if you're in an accident or something and have thousands in hospital bills. No preventive care for me unless I wanted to pay full price. So then of course I ran into health issues, and my then-doc (I've switched to another who's more personable) had me referred to a surgeon. Without knowing what was causing my problems. Thankfully the surgeon immediately said any sort of "exploratory" surgery wasn't warranted, and eventually my symptoms disappeared on their own. But the entire experience was not fun. 
