Will expected tip amounts ever get this high?

My husband is the executive chef and manager at a restaurant locally.

AND. For all the people saying that a server makes $50 an hour on tables.. no. They CAN make $50 in one hour.. spread out over the dinner rush.
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Well, maybe the best way to put it is this. In our stories recently we have found people who took jobs waiting table while they are in school, have discovered that the jobs their Bachelors degree now qualifies them for pay full time about half what they earn working part time waiting tables.
But you have to be a good server. I worked with a lady who was a full time director at a TV station, and earned more working 2 days a week waiting tables at a sports pub that she did working full time. But the keys to her success were
1) It was a Sports Bar.
2) She was a 30 year old attractive redhead
3) She was flirty.
4) She routinely brought un-ordered complimentary appetizers to her tables. Drove the new waitresses crazy. They would turn her in to the manager who would point out that the 50 cent potato skins she gave away generated an additional $40 round of drink orders, so he was just fine with that.
 
I tip based on service... 10% rare (maybe less) 20+ also rare somewhere in between 15-18 in general.
I do not see how any wait staff except for the high end well established restaurants that you really need to know someone well to get in and you are on a waiting list for years.
The math lets say 5 tables.... each table would need to leave 9.00 included is almost the salary and no splitting of tips... So in one hour as a family I have had my table set up ordered my food and eat it paid the bill left the table was cleared and new family was sitting there? The wait person that leave the person 10 minutes per table (8 minutes for seating, setting, cleaning and a new family to sit) to greet take a drink order get the drinks bring them back lets not forget any type of free table item there might be like bread take the order walk to the kitchen put it in get the order bring to the table refill drinks check everything was ok print the bill put it in the table take the bill ring it through bring it back and then collect it again when signed plus helping with clean up and set up... and any other requests.. Ketchup, a glass of water etc.... and juggling 5 tables in perfect timing... then getting a 9 tip which for many is a table of 4 only and sometimes less??? kind of sounds impossible to me...
Bottom line is the IRS requires a restaurant to report sales there is no way to lower it I could go into details....each wait person is required to report 8% of the total sales this is the law.....
Do I agree with 20-25% tips as standard no as above I tip as deserved... but to come up with calculations that servers make 50 and hour?????????????????????? maybe 20 in a very high volume restaurant... that is very fair to be on your feet all day and carrying stuff to people for 8+ hours straight.... If they were handing me a bag with food in it as in fast food then 8 an hour is fine (but they get paid more than that)... but if you are serving me... Lastly Ok pay them X and hour food prices go up service goes down (either way you will pay to be served)... please read some of the stories of the original dining plan with tips included...
For those who justify low tips no matter the serivice that is fine but if we all did that no one would want to be a server and you would no longer have the option of sitting down and being served......
 
My problem is that TIPS should be to encourage good or outstanding service.
There's nothing stopping diners with this point of view from tipping at the beginning of the meal.
The problem is that there are so many places to dine out now that the likely hood of getting the same server multiple times is very little.
You can always ask for a specific server, ask the server when they work, call the restaurant before you decide where to eat and see if your excellent server is working that shift.
This weekend I went to dinner at a local restaurant. On the same menu for the same meal I could choose a burger for $11 or a steak for $45. The effort it takes for the server to take my order, bring my plate, check on me and then clear the table is exactly the same. If I choose the burger the tip is $2.20. If I choose the steak, the tip is $9.
There's actually nothing stopping anyone from basing the tip for all meals on the highest priced meal. Not advocating, just stating.
So you tip just cause someone gave you a drink and sometimes even if you get nothing ?
Where did I indicate I tip for nothing? I said I tip because the DD employees recognize me and know my order, and prepare it without me having to ask. When I used to go to the drive through, I'd just say, "hi, it's Kaytie", and the clerk would tell me to drive up. I'm a regular. They know my order. I tip for service.
Ok, we'll have to disagree , I whine with my pocket book. I tip on service, you got a lousy salary. That's on you to change it.
The whiners in this thread are the diners, complaining about being expected to tip. The whiners are the ones who need to get changes made so they're no longer expected to tip.
Ok. :confused3 And your point?
That servers may get $50 in tips one hour, but they average much, much, much less.
Servers know before they start the job the hourly rate.
Diners know before they enter a restaurant that tipping is part of the cost of dining out. Servers know the pay structure of restaurant service much better than, apparently, patrons.
eliza21 said:
25% because some one rang up a cup of coffee?? or a picture that I wanted to purchase??
Nobody said you have to tip 25% for anything, least of all when paying for a picture :confused3
My son accepted that and decided to go to trade school because he didn't want to have his standard of living based on a 3 dollar an hour salary. He is in a 5 year plumbers apprenticeship.
Plumbers earn a lot more than many fields requiring a college degree. There's nothing stopping anyone from tipping a plumber.

that is very fair to be on your feet all day and carrying stuff to people for 8+ hours straight.
:thumbsup2
 
To me, it's a reflection of yourself, and everyone is not the same. I was brought up different than many people. My parents had little money, but they always taught me the importance of tipping well. The same way they taught me things like not being prejudice, and being kind to animals. They'd say it's an opportunity to be generous to other people.


It simply comes down to whether or not you're a generous person. I personally enjoy tipping. It makes me happy. Other people don't like it. I wouldn't be preaching to them though. It is wrong to force your opinions onto others and expect them to act the way you think is correct. I just feel sorry for them, and for the people who serve them.
 

To me, it's a reflection of yourself, and everyone is not the same. I was brought up different than many people. My parents had little money, but they always taught me the importance of tipping well. The same way they taught me things like not being prejudice, and being kind to animals. They'd say it's an opportunity to be generous to other people.


It simply comes down to whether or not you're a generous person. I personally enjoy tipping. It makes me happy. Other people don't like it. I wouldn't be preaching to them though. It is wrong to force your opinions onto others and expect them to act the way you think is correct. I just feel sorry for them, and for the people who serve them.

You are fully entitled to your opinion but, no, it does not boil down to whether a person is generous or not. Maybe a person who tips less gives more to a homeless shelter or other charity. You can not define a person based on something as insignificant as the percentage they might tip.

Maybe you're not preaching, but your post comes across as extremely self-righteous and very judgmental of people who may behave differently than yourself. :snooty:
 
It's not so far fetched to believe that a person's tipping level is a direct reflection of their generosity level. The two go hand in hand. It's hard to believe that many people would be very generous in other aspects of their life, and be non-generous when it comes to food servers.
 
I tip well because let's say my daughter and I go out to eat, and the bill is $35. A 15% tip is $5.25. A 20% tip is $7. Is that $1.75 going to make a huge difference to me? No, but to a waiter who is relying on tips, that $1.75 is going to mean a lot more.

People can do whatever they want to do, but that's my reasoning. If I can spend $40.25 on dinner, I can spend $42. It isn't going to make any difference at all to me.
 
It's not so far fetched to believe that a person's tipping level is a direct reflection of their generosity level. The two go hand in hand. It's hard to believe that many people would be very generous in other aspects of their life, and be non-generous when it comes to food servers.
lol believe it.
the two do not go hand in hand.
I also believe in getting what I pay for. a tip is a reflection of the quality of your work. nothing more.
 
There's nothing stopping diners with this point of view from tipping at the beginning of the meal.

You can always ask for a specific server, ask the server when they work, call the restaurant before you decide where to eat and see if your excellent server is working that shift.

There's actually nothing stopping anyone from basing the tip for all meals on the highest priced meal. Not advocating, just stating.

Where did I indicate I tip for nothing? I said I tip because the DD employees recognize me and know my order, and prepare it without me having to ask. When I used to go to the drive through, I'd just say, "hi, it's Kaytie", and the clerk would tell me to drive up. I'm a regular. They know my order. I tip for service.

The whiners in this thread are the diners, complaining about being expected to tip. The whiners are the ones who need to get changes made so they're no longer expected to tip.

That servers may get $50 in tips one hour, but they average much, much, much less.

Diners know before they enter a restaurant that tipping is part of the cost of dining out. Servers know the pay structure of restaurant service much better than, apparently, patrons.

Nobody said you have to tip 25% for anything, least of all when paying for a picture :confused3

Plumbers earn a lot more than many fields requiring a college degree. There's nothing stopping anyone from tipping a plumber.

:thumbsup2


Houston we have lift off!! that is my point. Tipping anyone is at the discretion of the individual and in every other industry it's based on the performance. The only industry that uses tipping as an extortion method is waitressing. Plumbers (I only mentioned the plumbers because some one said I treat college grads different from non college grads), hair dressers, tour guides, every other industry gets tipped based on their performance. Never have you heard a electrician say, my tip should be 25% because I only make X amount of dollars. Only servers get away with that nonsense.
Many folks are on their feet all day, yet once again servers get to use their low salary as a beating rod.

I'm still not understanding why I need to force change. I mean it's my money?? I don't have a problem with my salary and every year I have a DOC (discussion of contribution) meeting with my boss to discuss why I feel I should get a bonus.
I vote, complain, congratulate with my wallet. that is pretty much the most effective tool I have.

ok, so I'm taking my selfish, non generous, bad karma self off to dinner. only two of us so no automatic 18%, and at the end of the meal my dining partner and I will tip based on whether or not the server does her/his job or maybe we'll ask them how much they made today then decide.
 
The only industry that uses tipping as an extortion method is waitressing.
Slightly off-topic, but I'm surprised by the sexism in this statement. Men wait tables, too.

Only servers get away with that nonsense.
Many folks are on their feet all day, yet once again servers get to use their low salary as a beating rod.
They don't "get to", they have to. The servers don't set the minimum wage for the field. The individual state legislatures do; states with no minimum wage are subject to the federal minimums. Diners dissatisfied with the tipping culture/expectations are the ones who want change (according to this thread). The people who want change are the ones who can only reasonably be expected to work for change.

I'm still not understanding why I need to force change.
You don't want to tip. You want your server to be able to survive on, potentially, $2.13 per hour pretax.
 
I tip well because let's say my daughter and I go out to eat, and the bill is $35. A 15% tip is $5.25. A 20% tip is $7. Is that $1.75 going to make a huge difference to me? No, but to a waiter who is relying on tips, that $1.75 is going to mean a lot more.

People can do whatever they want to do, but that's my reasoning. If I can spend $40.25 on dinner, I can spend $42. It isn't going to make any difference at all to me.
how often do you go out for dinner ?

Look at it this way. If you have a young child or a grand kid and lets say you take them out for dinner once a week . You can give that 5% to a stranger or put that 5% in a college fund for the kid. I would prefer the college fund. $2 a dinner over the course of a year is an extra $104 over the course of 16 years is 1,664 before any type of interest. At a community college that is 3 classes at 3 credits a piece of 9 credits. That's not a bad deal for your kid or grandkid

And that's just a cheap dinner and if you only go out once a week for dinner. Raise the price of the dinner and you an go from $2 to $10 to $20 and raise the frequency and it can become a lot of money. My gf and I go out twice a week or so. If we tipped 20% or more forget it. We could pay a mortgage payment each year with the money.
 
Slightly off-topic, but I'm surprised by the sexism in this statement. Men wait tables, too.

My bad, actually just a slip.

They don't "get to", they have to. The servers don't set the minimum wage for the field. The individual state legislatures do; states with no minimum wage are subject to the federal minimums. Diners dissatisfied with the tipping culture/expectations are the ones who want change (according to this thread). The people who want change are the ones who can only reasonably be expected to work for change.


You don't want to tip. You want your server to be able to survive on, potentially, $2.13 per hour pretax.

Not at all. i do tip but as I said, I tip on the level of service and I will not be forced to support someone's wages when they don't perform simply because they chose to work in a certain profession and I can honestly say when I go out to dinner or Disney the last thing that crosses my mind is how my server is living or paying their bills.

Ok, so I'll change my statement, whether or not the system changes has no direct effect on me at all so there is not enough incentive for me to do more than I do now which is vote with my buying power My server is free to finds ways to increase their salary just like every other working person
 
Any thoughts on tipping in a state like Minnesota where servers make the full minimum wage ($8/hr) plus tips? Since this went into effect food prices have gone up and restaurants have been closing. We haven't changed our tipping practices, but it's a consideration.
 
Sooner or later restaurants will all include the tip and then we can expect more mediocre service.

It boggles my mind that some believe that tips should be the same no matter where they dine. There are professional servers out there and just like in any profession they hope to increase their pay over time. I expect more service and attention at the nicer places too plus as Alex said diners stay longer at the nicer places. With the logic that all servers should get the same then those who work in high end places would earn less and that makes no sense at all.
 
Change the law then. What additional costs are there for an employees hourly wage that they wouldn't be paying already ? The waiters already get a small minimum wage. As for bartenders why should I tip them? I get club soda when I'm at a restaurant or at most a beer. Does taking a cap off a beer warrant a tip ?

Do you tip everyone who does a service for you ? When you go grocery shoping do you tip the girl at the check out line and tip her enough to make sure the stock boy gets the money , the guy cleaning up the spill on isle 5 ?

The only one actually doing something important that deserves a tip is chef.

Because then, the next beer comes quicker. With a shot of Jack or Captain. :rolleyes1

Yep. I walk into Dunkin Donuts, I smile, and they make my coffee.

When you're choosing to imbibe in an establishment other than a private home, you're choosing to absorb the costs involved. The bar or rsstaurant isn't your living room and can't operate as if it were. If the v alue/money matters more, stay home with the six.

DH walks into DD every morning during the work week. He leaves a tip---usually $2-3---for his coffee and sandwich, which rarely varies. As a result, when the cashier sees him walk in the door, she gets his order in, so by the time he's at the cash register, it's ready to go. When he worked at a different place, and drove a different route, he went to McD's. He didn't leave a cash tip, but every Monday, he'd go in with a box or two of treats (Little Debbies, Entermann's donuts, whatever I picked up that weekend at the store). Again, his food was ready when he hit the window. Waiting in line for 5 minutes, then another 4 or 5 for food went to waiting in line for 5 minutes to order, and then he's out the door. He made someone else happy, and was able to get out the door quicker---a win win.

My husband is the executive chef and manager at a restaurant locally.

And yes, if people who come in often and order a lot of food, but tip horribly (or treat the servers horribly), they are asked to not come back. On top of that, no matter what, word gets around, and service is definitely going to go down if you're only tipping say, 5% each time. Until that's what the service is worth.

On top of that, they've thought about raising the prices and doing away with tipping.. until they realized that a burger would go from $8.25 to 13.75 to compensate.

AND. For all the people saying that a server makes $50 an hour on tables.. no. They CAN make $50 in one hour.. spread out over the dinner rush.

If they get there at 2 and the restaurant closes at 10, they're there until at least 11 doing clean ups. There are probably no tables from 2-4 so they're just cleaning and prepping, then from 5-8 there's generally tables.. and then more cleaning and such, with no tables. SO that money they're making during breakfast/lunch/dinner rush makes up for all the hours without tables.

And on here, people will complain "should have chosen a different life path". The world needs ditch diggers and bathroom cleaners as much as it needs lawyers (maybe we need the ditch diggers more :D) and teachers. Someone has to do the dirty work.


Sorry, there will never be a time when my tip is based on anything other than "my entire experience". Blame the management of your store - not the customer. My tip is a reflection on my satisfaction with the entire operation. Loud, disruptive table sitting next to me? Lower tip. Run out of the special? Lower tip. Food comes out wrong or takes way too long? Lower tip. And if the server is directly discourteous or incompetent - maybe no tip at all.

I actually really agree with this, although I try to stay closer to accepted norms. 15% is about all I'm willing to pay regardless of the price of the food and I'd be much happier paying a flat amount that wasn't tied to menu prices. Flame away, but I think $10 is PLENTY of tip for taking orders, serving 2 beverages, 2 entrees and maybe an appetizer or dessert over the span of an hour or so. Objectively speaking - how much money do others here think that actual amount of work is worth??

Nope, don't blame the management. Blame your government. They are the ones who set the mandatory wage requirements, as well as tipping policies. Businesses do as much as they can to cut costs and increase profit. Wasn't it last week--a thread popped up about how Disney fired a bunch of IT guys, and had them train their replacements? Disney was cutting costs (at the expense of American jobs, but this is not that discussion. >:() They can pay the foreigners 1/3 of what they pay the Americans, thereby increasing profit. It doesn't matter how poorly they do the job---people still go to Disney...and they still come back, no matter how poor the service (whether restaurant, CM in park or phone, or whever ever).
Anyways---if a company can cut costs and increase profit, they do so. The food industry pays their servers what the US government says they have to.

For those who say they tip the same amount whether at Applebee's or at V&A's....at Applebee's, a server can turn a table in less than an hour. Say they have 6 tables, at $5 a pop. That's $30 an hour. In a 5 hours shift, that's $150. Now, subtract out the tips the waiter pays to the bus boy, cooks, and bartender (whether you order a drink or not, most waiters still tip out the bartender---see my comment at the first quote). So, let's say the waiter makes $120 for those 5 hours. The waiter at V&A's will have 6 tables, that turn once. That's $60 during that shift. They still tip out the cooks, bus boys and bartenders....leaving them $30 for that shift. THAT is why you tip more at fine dining places. (well, that and most serving staff at fine dining tend to be better at their jobs than the Applebee's staff.........)

You can grouse about them not having to tip out their coworkers, but those tips them have clean tables quicker, food that comes out hot and promptly, and drinks that get poured first....thereby making the customers happy, more inclined to tip, and that makes the server more money. It's a win-win for everyone.
 
I always tip the bartender. Usually $1 a drink so it's way more than 20%. I've never gotten a free shot of anything.
 
I don't own a restaurant but I have been a server, during college, for several years, working in a few different places.

This was probably 30 years ago. At the time, 20% was considered a good tip. 15% average, 10% cheap. So pretty much the same as now.

For the most part, people tipped 20%; you'd get more 15% at lunchtime. Very rarely got a 10% tip. I think I was stiffed once in my career, and it was by a couple who were extremely gracious during their meal; I'm sure they thought their thanks was going to pay my rent.

It was a hard job physically. That's why most of the servers you see are under 30. Can't really do it forever. Very stressful too. One needs to be very organized and efficient to be a good server, and the ones that aren't, leave or get fired.

After reading all these comments I was getting disgusted by some of the ridiculous arguments about why one should not 'subsidize' their server, but thinking back on my own experience, it is not the norm. The cheapest tippers stick out like a sore thumb and your server WILL remember you. I still remember that couple who stiffed me. Guess the cheap tippers are safer at Disney because it's a place that you go to once and don't get the same server on your return.
 
I was talking to a relative about this. She related a story about her mother. Her father was middle management at a major airline...her mother a waitress. His parents thought it was beneath their son marrying a waitress.....until they found out it was her tips that paid off the mortgage. And it wasn't a small mortgage

So her father provided the health insurance, pension, and his salary. Plus they had her tips.

You don't see too many servers who are on their own living large in the real world.
 
Do you own a restaurant? If not, I'm still waiting for someone who does to encourage me to either stay home or go elsewhere, or better yet to advise me not to order multiple courses and liquor because that will reduce my bill to the point where I'll be more comfortable paying a 20% tip...:rotfl2:

I don't know what you are trying to prove with this statement?

Guess what: if a restaurant owner encouraged people to come to his restaurant and not tip, who you think is going to be serving all the meals? He will!

Because no server will work there.
 












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