I just planned and got back from a quick long weekend trip for my DD's and her BFF's 21st birthday celebration. Here's what we did, perhaps there'll be a couple of things you'd like to incorporate into the trip for your wife's bday.
1) I put "21st birthday celebration" on every reservation we made. Dinner, lunch, tour, fireworks dessert party at MK, etc. Every CM had a great big happy birthday for them, at meals they had happy birthday sung to them, and received surprised plated desserts. At Sanaa they were given a birthday card each, signed "happy birthday" in different african languages, as well as getting a glass of champagne w/ a strawberry each, and a slice of cake on a decorated plate.
2) We (me and my friend, my dd's bff's mom) ordered balloon bouquets and had them delivered into the room, they were there before we got in. The girls loved them. We used Disney Florist, there's tons of special things you can have delivered, flowers, gifts, balloons, snacks, wine, beer, champagne, etc. check out their website.
3) We decorated the room for the girls when they were out, or you could use a service, which you can google for, I don't think we can post the names of them here on the boards.
4) We brought a small gift from home for each of the girls and placed them on the table at one of our celebratory meals. They were so surprised and loved it.
5) If she likes the Grand Floridian and/or tea, booking a "tea" (lunch too) at the Grand Floridian Garden View Room is a nice idea for the whole party. All different teas are served on english china, the menu doesn't look like alot of food, but really is and depending on what you order, comes with dessert pastries, food is delicious. Check out the menu on this website or wdwig.com. You can also order champagne and strawberries, or have a cake delivered to the table, etc. It's a great way to celebrate special occasions.
6) We did the Segway around the world tour and all of us loved it.
7) We did the fireworks dessert party at Magic Kingdom and it was wonderful, with AWESOME view of the fireworks.
8) Jellyrolls! Don't know if this is something that would interest your party, but what a great time! It's on the Boardwalk, like the only jumping bar onsite. Two "dueling" piano players playing requests, and they really get the audience up and singing and dancing and having a great time.
Hope your wife loves her birthday celebration!
Have a great 4th weekend here on wonderful Long Island
