Why would a mother resent her children

[PRINCESS Ariel34]

I'm sitting here looking at the Dr. Phil Show. I'm not judging these women but, I am wondering what type of woman would feel hate towards their child. To me childbirth is a blessing. Granted we all go thru something in life and, sometimes my kids can make me see red. To say that I hate them or wish I never had them, that is a little extreame. My father passed when I was pregnant with my son who is now 9. NOT once did I feel hatred towards my son because of my morning sickness (which kept me from visiting him on the day he died). For this woman to blame her kids for not being able to spend time with her dying parent is insane. Having that much resentment towards a child makes me wonder if that child would be better off without that parent OR,if the parent is seriously in need of psychological help.

 

[Serena]

The parent needs help.

 

[Kermit]

I saw a small part of that show and couldn't watch it. It's always been one of my pet peeves when I hear women telling their kids that they owe them something because of how many hours the mom was in labor. Parents determine when children are born. They may not always intentionally choose, but it is their choice, nevertheless. The woman that I saw on Dr Phil was even worse, and it drove me nuts.

 

[jeffemy]

sorry

 

[PRINCESS Ariel34]

I agree!
I really felt bad for the daughter who feels that her mom hates her. I was in labor for 4 days with my son Did that make me hate him heck no I begged for a csection that didn't work so I dealt with it with hubby by my side. I would do it all over again just to get my little man. I wish only the best for these women. I hope they can overcome whatever issues they have and love their children. They don't understand just how blessed they are. Don't get me wrong I am not judging these women, I just wish they knew how blessed they are to have children when their are women out their who can't .

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

I didn't see the show but I can understand how parents could resent a child. They are not choosing to resent, they are dealing with the resentment as an experience that needs to be talked about. The key is whom they talk it over with. Ideally, the child would never know and the parent could confide in a safe person. Sadly, not all parents will keep their resentment away from the child.