Why do men like long hair on women and daughters?

[Buckalew11]

I think if you look like Ms. Welch and Ms. jones, then you can certainly pull off long hair. I was also thinking of Jaclyn Smith. She does long hair well. But we are talking about long, full, flowing hair that hair that has been styled (well, wigs for Ms. Welch) professionally and most likely has extensions to appear fuller. As we age, our hair thins out--another thing that adds to long hair not looking as hot on older women.

It is all about how well you style the hair, how you dress, and your make-up/skin.

Give someone over 40 parted in the middle, graying, straight hair down to the middle of her back dressed in sweats and a tee-shirt with ruddy skin and you have frump city. Cut that hair off short and have it short, flat to the head, butchy and you frump city.

I do think it is unfair to say "look at *hollywood movie star* hair". They are fixed from head to toe. We're talking average women here. Hair is so important. I think I should double my prices!

 

[Buckalew11]

OP, I addressed it because it is such a huge pet peeve of mine.

Some little girls do not want anything done to their hair--not even combed out!

 

[NHdisneylover]

Hi all. OP here. Wow to all the responses. I haven't been on here since I posted this and thought I would come back and have to search and here it was on the first page. Wow.

The brother that got mad at his wife, well, I just don't know about him. But his hair is long also and he keeps it in a pony tail.


Now, for the brother with the young daughter who won't let her hair get cut. If they would at least pull her hair up in some way it might be cute. It's just not cute because her head is always tilted and you can't see her eyes or face.

My DD has sorta long hair. It's about to the bottom of the bra strap(if she wore a bra, which she doesn't). But I like to do different things with it. Just yesterday I french braided it and that look is really good on her. I love the high pig tails in back on her also. But I usually let her decide how she wants it.

Again, it's the child with long string straight hair in her face and eyes and they won't do anything with it that bothers me. And that didn't seem to get addressed much in this thread.

So your issue is not that these men want to controll how the women in their lives wear their hair (not that a 2 year old has much say--though mine have decided how they want theirs cut since age 3)? Your big concern is that the hair is falling over the eyes of the toddler? I just want to be sure I am reading you correctly

If so, yeah I agree that for a young child the parents really ought to use a clip or bobby pin or pony tail holder or something to pull the hair out of the little girl's eyes. Maybe they have tried that but she keeps pulling them out and they figure the hair will be long enough to tuck behind her ears soon? Or maybe they just are so used to looking at it they aren't realizing that she can't see well and they just need someone to very nicely and delicately point it out. Maybe she tilts her head for some other reason?

I am not fond of styles which cover both eyes myself--though I do at times wear my long hair over one eye (yep, I am one of those "tacky" women in their mid 30s who wears her hair long. I think it looks really good and I look terrible in short hair. DH loves it too--even though he would never act like the OPs brotehr no matter what I did with my hair). However, when DD grew her bangs out (around age 4) we had to pin back the growing bangs for a good year before they got long enough. During that time there were plenty of days when they simply hung in her eyes because it didn't bother her and she didn't always want somethign in her hair. No biggie.

It sounds like you should be relieved your DH is not like his brothers!

 

[turkeymama]

I just want to say, my sister (39) wears her hair long and thinks it looks great on her. Sadly, she is mistaken.

 

[moon]

Women have been wearing their hair long for generations now we are told that we should lop it of as soon as we hit 30. Isn't that as daft and as controlling as a husband who will not talk to a wife for cutting their hair off? I am over 30 with long hair and it doesn't look silly neither does my mothers hair it looks nice so while I still want it long that is how it stays.

ITA. I don't know why those posters who claim that it looks bad, so-and so looks awful with long (or short, for that matter), or bangs can't add that it is only their opinion, because that is just what it is.

If someone likes they hair long, if they feel good that way, what does it matter what some other person think?

How awful would it be if every woman HAD to chop their hair off when they get past 30, or 40, or whenever because other people say so?

 

[freckles and boo]

I don't think this thread is about how a woman wants to wear her hair. It is about a woman wearing her hair long because a man feels she should do so. That is a different thing and it smacks of subservience.

A second grade teacher at my daughter's school retired this year at the age of seventy. She had thick, gray braids down to her waist. She has a lovely, round, wrinkle-free face and her hair suited her very well. I am twenty-eight years younger than she is. Long braids would make me look gaunt.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I just want to say, my sister (39) wears her hair long and thinks it looks great on her. Sadly, she is mistaken.

Maybe your SiL thinks you are sadly mistaken about how your short (I am ssusming here) hair cut looks on you If you ,ike your hair and she likes her hair then so what?
I know a few people who wear their hair long (at various ages old and young) and do not look good with the style they have chosen. I also know a few people who wear their hair short (all ages) who do nto look good with the style the have chosen. Also a few who dye their hair in colors which just doesn ot suit thei complexion (in MY opinion which I would never presume should rule what ANY of them do with their hair). I think it is silly to decide this is an age thing.

 

[dismom2]

I was going to use the "multi-quote" function and respond to a bunch of different posts, but then my response got way out to long.

Okay, here's the perspective of a married guy with two daughter's:

I personally don't care about a woman's hair...hair length, style, etc... What my wife and kids do with their hair is their business, not mine.

If they do something drastic with it will I say something? Sure I will.

If I don't like it, will I tell them? Of course I WON'T (I'm not stupid).

In all seriousness, it's hair. It'll grow back no matter what happens so why bother getting all upset about something. The only thing I don't like about the hair in any of my family is that my one daughter's hair is so incredibly thick and she doesn't brush it well (of course she's only 7 so that explains that). I keep telling her we're going to chop it all off for the convienence as I'm tired of pulling the knots out of her hair!

And actually, I kind of prefer short hair on a woman. What's that say about me?!?!!?!?

Nice to hear.

I think men who won't 'allow' their wives and daughters to get their hair cut shorter are shallow. As the PP pointed out, it will grow back. It's nice to try different styles sometimes. Shorter hair can look really good, it just depends on a good style. If you try it and don't like it, it will grow out. If you like it, doesn't mean everyone else will---ow-well, it's your hair and you have to live with it (and style and maintain it). If you end up not liking it, at least you can say you tried it once and grow it out into another style again. Sexy does not have to be long. I've had every length and my DH loves them all. When I ask him which he really prefers, he always tells me he likes that I change it up, and he truly likes them all--it's nice to see different looks now and then (and colors). Personally, my hair is very thick and a lot more work when it is long. It's longer now, and I will be getting it cut a lot shorter again very soon. I always change it---it's just too much work to leave it long all the time---as soon as I get home it goes up in a pony tail holder half the time anyway. Why should I be uncomfortable? I would not let a man dictate what I can do with my hair. Our kids get the styles they want, not what we want (unless they asked for something crazy we might think twice).

 

[ticktock]

ITA. I don't know why those posters who claim that it looks bad, so-and so looks awful with long (or short, for that matter), or bangs can't add that it is only their opinion, because that is just what it is.

If someone likes they hair long, if they feel good that way, what does it matter what some other person think?

How awful would it be if every woman HAD to chop their hair off when they get past 30, or 40, or whenever because other people say so?

I totally agree with this. I can't believe the people who are posting their opinions as gospel truth on something that is only an aesthetic preference.

I personally hate short hair on women. Some women can pull it off and some women do look bad with longer hair (usually the ones with bad hair to begin with, if something is nasty the less seen of it the better!).

Yes I have long hair that has thinned in the last few years, but their is no way I'm going to run out and get a chop job. No thanks. I think this idea is perpetuated by hair stylists. The shorter your hair the more cuts you need and the more involved your style the "better" ie more expensive stylist you need. I get the ends trimmed two or three times a year at what ever place sends me a coupon.

BTW my DH could not care less what I did with my hair. My grandfather was not happy with my grandmother cutting her hair short so he grew out a long "hillbilly" beard down to his chest! She hated his beard and he hated her short hair, they still loved each other though!

 

[ticktock]

I wanted to add for those who think middle age women shouldn't have long hair what do you think of middle age women showing cleavage?

I always see those thirty somethings with their short sassy hair and their wobbly, saggy, crepe paper cleavage. This brings a whole new dimension to the word nasty. Now I know you girls think it looks good because to men any cleavage is good cleavage, but please, just say no. Or shut up about my hair. Whichever.

 

[turkeymama]

Maybe your SiL thinks you are sadly mistaken about how your short (I am ssusming here) hair cut looks on you If you ,ike your hair and she likes her hair then so what?
I know a few people who wear their hair long (at various ages old and young) and do not look good with the style they have chosen. I also know a few people who wear their hair short (all ages) who do nto look good with the style the have chosen. Also a few who dye their hair in colors which just doesn ot suit thei complexion (in MY opinion which I would never presume should rule what ANY of them do with their hair). I think it is silly to decide this is an age thing.

This is exactly the point I was trying to make, apparently I should have elaborated. But I do think it is funny that we all (myself included) talk about how great our hair looks on us. It may or may not look great on us to everyone else, but we think it does, which makes us feel better and more confident. To me, that is the most important thing. Know what I mean?

 

[turkeymama]

I wanted to add for those who think middle age women shouldn't have long hair what do you think of middle age women showing cleavage?

I always see those thirty somethings with their short sassy hair and their wobbly, saggy, crepe paper cleavage. This brings a whole new dimension to the word nasty. Now I know you girls think it looks good because to men any cleavage is good cleavage, but please, just say no. Or shut up about my hair. Whichever.

Eew, I agree. I hate seeing anyone's cleavage. Keep the girls locked, loaded, and put away.

 

[crz4mm2]

I am an almost 50 yo.... woman.

I used to wear my hair short. Did so for YEARS and YEARS and about last year, decided that I wanted to try and let it grow a little bit.
I can not tell you the amount of people who have told me how much YOUNGER I look (and yes, I bought into the 'older is better shorter' theory for years!).

My hair is almost all one length, just below my chin line.

But I don't show my cleavage!!! LOL.

 

[Buckalew11]

I am an almost 50 yo.... woman.

I used to wear my hair short. Did so for YEARS and YEARS and about last year, decided that I wanted to try and let it grow a little bit.
I can not tell you the amount of people who have told me how much YOUNGER I look (and yes, I bought into the 'older is better shorter' theory for years!).

My hair is almost all one length, just below my chin line.

But I don't show my cleavage!!! LOL.

I know your hair seems *long* to you and it is long compared to your short hair but hair that is "all one length, just below the chin line" is not really "long hair". But I bet it looks terrific on you!!! If you took someone with really long hair here and said we're going to keep your hair long but cut it to just below their chin line, you'd have one angry client on your hands!!!!

 

[crz4mm2]

I know your hair seems *long* to you and it is long compared to your short hair but hair that is "all one length, just below the chin line" is not really "long hair". But I bet it looks terrific on you!!! If you took someone with really long hair here and said we're going to keep your hair long but cut it to just below their chin line, you'd have one angry client on your hands!!!!

LOL. you are right. I used to be a hairdresser, and know where you are coming from, but compared to SHORT hair, mine is "long".....
I want it to be "rachel ray" length (the shorter style, not the longer one) and for ME that is LONG!
And for lots of others it is long too....

I think it looks pretty good and have no intention of cutting it to the 1 1/2 " length it used to be!!!
THAT is short!

 

[corndog]

Other brother, has a 2 year old daughter, poor thing has never had a hair cut. And they don't pull it up out of her face at all. We were at her birthday party the other day and it was brought up. Her daddy said he wouldn't allow it to be cut until it reached her bobo. His inlaws agreed. I looked on Facebook later, at the pictures from the party, all of them her head is tilted. The poor child has already learned to keep her head tilted to keep it out of her eyes.

Why are men like this?

(new rule)

Sorry, I am not familiar with the term bobo. What does that mean?

We never did find out a "bobo" is, did we?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My DH likes my hair long but if I wanted to cut it off he wouldn't have a problem with it. Our daughter's hair is sorta long but we trim or cut it regularly to keep it healthy and growing. He has already told me that when I take her to my mom's, mom can only cut 2 inches...okay no big deal.

DH has one brother that his wife got her hair cut and it was shorter than what he liked, he refused to speak to her for a week.

Other brother, has a 2 year old daughter, poor thing has never had a hair cut. And they don't pull it up out of her face at all. We were at her birthday party the other day and it was brought up. Her daddy said he wouldn't allow it to be cut until it reached her bobo. His inlaws agreed. I looked on Facebook later, at the pictures from the party, all of them her head is tilted. The poor child has already learned to keep her head tilted to keep it out of her eyes.

Why are men like this?

Who knows.

All I know is that my dh likes us to be happy with our hair in this house. He hates us complaining about it.

 

[DVCLiz]

We never did find out a "bobo" is, did we?

Lol do you have some secret list of old threads you need updated?

 

[minnie mum]

We never did find out a "bobo" is, did we?

Enquiring minds want to know.... Just how many zombie threads did you reanimate today anyway?

 

[curious3069]

Enquiring minds want to know.... Just how many zombie threads did you reanimate today anyway?

Good question...I might love Corndog best today, highly enjoyable!