Why be a Negative Ned or Nelly?

[missfigment]

Has anybody else grown tired of the "lets complain" threads? Like: pet peeves...what gets you mad...the worst thing you've seen at Disney...the grossest things you've seen in the parks....horrible parenting moments...etc.

I admit there have been time that I myself have commented on these threads and they are so easy to get you going. But half the time it just gets people on this board ready to flame others for simply disagreeing with one another. Which is understandable since everyone on the planet has a different opinion about something. But the problem Im seeing is the threads that are like purposefuly waiting to provoke people.

I love this disney forum because I love disney and I enjoy reading stuff that pertains to disney...funny stories, tips, disney secrets, reviews, etc. I may have my own opinions about stuff and I know I have my worst moments like everybody else on the planet. But I kinda see it as pointless to argue about silly stuff like breastfeeding in public or your kid wearing a "leash" or how you discipline your child the "right way" or the "wrong way," when all these issues are personal choices anyway.

Any thoughts?

 

[kevschickee]

I posted one of those posts and I think they are good way of venting. This maybe a disney board but it is a public forum and we all need to vent. There will always be posts that people like and dislike so why complain about them?

 

[tjbaggott]

Those types of threads, I find, give perspective to ones own situation. Seeing that others experience the same issues, teaches me that I'm not alone. Seeing that someone has experienced something worse than my worse teaches me to be thankful. They help put things into perspective!

 

[ms_missy66]

I think they're just the nature of an online community. I see them everywhere for every topic. I think the only way to squelch them is if folks don't participate and let them fall through the thread list.

 

[btwitkin]

Has anybody else grown tired of the "lets complain" threads? Like: pet peeves...what gets you mad...the worst thing you've seen at Disney...the grossest things you've seen in the parks....horrible parenting moments...etc.

I admit there have been time that I myself have commented on these threads and they are so easy to get you going. But half the time it just gets people on this board ready to flame others for simply disagreeing with one another. Which is understandable since everyone on the planet has a different opinion about something. But the problem Im seeing is the threads that are like purposefuly waiting to provoke people.

I love this disney forum because I love disney and I enjoy reading stuff that pertains to disney...funny stories, tips, disney secrets, reviews, etc. I may have my own opinions about stuff and I know I have my worst moments like everybody else on the planet. But I kinda see it as pointless to argue about silly stuff like breastfeeding in public or your kid wearing a "leash" or how you discipline your child the "right way" or the "wrong way," when all these issues are personal choices anyway.

Any thoughts?

So you are complaining about people complaining? Well maybe I will start a thread about people who complain that other people are complaing. Someone else can start a thread about people who complain about people that complain about other people complaining. Then....

 

[Macduffy]

I'm with ya! I do see the need to vent on line I just hate when people's parenting choices come under fire and people get hurt or feel insulted. I just wish vents stayed as vents but they rarely do

As far as other threads go (worst of disney etc.) I just hope/think people are making conversation.

I come here for all things Disney too!

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

So you are complaining about people complaining? Well maybe I will start a thread about people who complain that other people are complaing. Someone else can start a thread about people who complain about people that complain about other people complaining. Then....

 

[MiniGirl]

I don't know. They don't bother me really. I even posted a couple of times in the cuerrent pet peeve thread. I know not everyone will agree with me just as I don't agree with everything that others have posted. I just think life is too short for me to get worked up over what some stranger on a message board thinks of me and my beliefs.

As far as the other threads.... truthfully, I seldom read them and tend to stop going to threads that do turn heated. Again.... no time for that. I believe what I believe and my husband and I make the choices that are best for our family and in line with our convictions. I choose to believe that the vast majority of people out there do the same -- eventhough that may not line up with mine. I see no need to argue any points because I know I won't change anyone's mind -- just as they won't change mine.

 

[missfigment]

So you are complaining about people complaining? Well maybe I will start a thread about people who complain that other people are complaing. Someone else can start a thread about people who complain about people that complain about other people complaining. Then....

okay okay sorry! sheesh! Sorry! Wasnt out to start a flame war! I was just trying to spread the word how we dont have to be so negative to one another for mere differences. lol

I guess some people like the venting boards. Thats fine.

 

[btwitkin]

okay okay sorry! sheesh! Sorry! Wasnt out to start a flame war! I was just trying to spread the word how we dont have to be so negative to one another for mere differences. lol

I guess some people like the venting boards. Thats fine.

I was just having fun. I actually agree with you to a point. Sure there are things that are completely unnecessary, like changing diapers on CS tables (yuck). But, people who complain that their pet peeve is when someone pluralizes the name of a restaurant need to get a grasp on reality.

 

[happy.family.of.6]

Where are these threads? I think they would be fun!

 

[hanutedmansionmomma]

actually, I believe the term is Negative Nancy or is that Debbie Downer?!

~the levity police

~and me..I just can't help it!

 

[MissyDVC]

Has anybody else grown tired of the "lets complain" threads? Like: pet peeves...what gets you mad...the worst thing you've seen at Disney...the grossest things you've seen in the parks....horrible parenting moments...etc.

I admit there have been time that I myself have commented on these threads and they are so easy to get you going. But half the time it just gets people on this board ready to flame others for simply disagreeing with one another. Which is understandable since everyone on the planet has a different opinion about something. But the problem Im seeing is the threads that are like purposefuly waiting to provoke people.

I love this disney forum because I love disney and I enjoy reading stuff that pertains to disney...funny stories, tips, disney secrets, reviews, etc. I may have my own opinions about stuff and I know I have my worst moments like everybody else on the planet. But I kinda see it as pointless to argue about silly stuff like breastfeeding in public or your kid wearing a "leash" or how you discipline your child the "right way" or the "wrong way," when all these issues are personal choices anyway.

Any thoughts?

I kind of agree with you You didn't say they should be able to post them or respond to them. You asked if people are growing tired of them. 2 different things IMO.

 

[princess momma]

This is a vent about vent threads. Ironic.

 

[crisi]

I kind of agree with you You didn't say they should be able to post them or respond to them. You asked if people are growing tired of them. 2 different things IMO.

But you don't need to read them. Frankly, I don't care if I ever see "what sort of stroller should I buy" thread again. Got tired of those years ago. Know what? , I don't even open them. My job as another poster is not to post things that are interesting and entertaining to EVERYONE - nor is your job to post things that are interesting and entertaining to ME.

Based on participation on the negative threads, there are plenty of people who do want to participate.

This thread is a little like walking up to people in the middle of a conversation at a party and saying "I don't like what you are talking about, let's talk about something else." The thing about a message board or a party is if you don't like the conversation you walk into, you walk away and join (or start) another. To tell people that their conversation doesn't appeal to you is rude.

 

[powellrj]

But you don't need to read them. Frankly, I don't care if I ever see "what sort of stroller should I buy" thread again. Got tired of those years ago. Know what? , I don't even open them. My job as another poster is not to post things that are interesting and entertaining to EVERYONE - nor is your job to post things that are interesting and entertaining to ME.

Based on participation on the negative threads, there are plenty of people who do want to participate.

This thread is a little like walking up to people in the middle of a conversation at a party and saying "I don't like what you are talking about, let's talk about something else." The thing about a message board or a party is if you don't like the conversation you walk into, you walk away and join (or start) another. To tell people that their conversation doesn't appeal to you is rude.

Why even bother to open them, there are lots of other threads to read. If you don't like the negative ones, just walk away and don't open them.

 

[missfigment]

But you don't need to read them. Frankly, I don't care if I ever see "what sort of stroller should I buy" thread again. Got tired of those years ago. Know what? , I don't even open them. My job as another poster is not to post things that are interesting and entertaining to EVERYONE - nor is your job to post things that are interesting and entertaining to ME.

Based on participation on the negative threads, there are plenty of people who do want to participate.

This thread is a little like walking up to people in the middle of a conversation at a party and saying "I don't like what you are talking about, let's talk about something else." The thing about a message board or a party is if you don't like the conversation you walk into, you walk away and join (or start) another. To tell people that their conversation doesn't appeal to you is rude.

Powellrj- You're right. I think thats just sorta at the point where Im at. Just not opening them. Because really they do kinda suck you in. They are very easy to get wrapped up in.

Crisi- Definietly not trying to be rude. Sorry if it came off that way. I wasnt trying to down anybody ...especially seeing how I admit that ive commented on those kinds of threads before. Saying I'm tired of something couldnt be anymore offensive than what some people get flamed on with some comments they make on these kinds of boards. I just was curious to see what others opinions were. If this thread gets out of hand I encourage the moderator to shut this one down too.

I was simply trying to say what a shame it is that people spend half their time arguing about issues that all come down to personal choices and seeing people at their worst moments. (which we all have). Sorry if i offended. I guess you cant really say anything without someone getting offended now a days.

 

[crisi]

You didn't offend. Some people LIKE arguing about things that are personal choice. I don't think its a shame anymore than I think its a shame that some people enjoy wasting their time watching football. Defending the choices you make for your family is one of the ways you know that you are comfortable with those choices - I think that is a good thing. And if you aren't comfortable defending the choices you make for your family - maybe you are making the wrong choices.