Why are some people allowed to be parents? A vent.

[RadioFanatic]

As I have stated before, my dh and I are having difficulty becoming pregnant. Totally my issues, not his. We've been trying without success and have been going to a doctor in NYC based upon our initial doc's recommendation that we get a second opinion. We are also finalizing the certification for adoption so we can start looking for a child to adopt.

So, I'm trying to stay strong on an issue that continually makes me sad. But then I read newspaper articles on people who have children and just treat them horribly. For example, in this area, we have two people who were just arrested b/c they were busted for pouring bleach in their 7 year old daughter's eyes because she wet her pants. And in holding her down, they broke her arm and shoulder. They don't know yet whether she will be permanently blind.

So, here are dh and I, good people I believe, who are desparate for a child adn then there are scum of the earth like these two who get to have children.

Sorry, things like this are just really getting to me so I needed to vent. Thanks.

 

[scarlett873]

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

I hear ya!! It breaks my heart each and every time I see a news story about someone mistreating or intentionally hurting their children. Just this morning, I heard about a man in an Indiana city who tried to kill both of his boys...One of them did die.

I'm right there with you...

 

[piglet too]

I have wondered the same thing many a time.

 

[hellokitty86]

I'm so sorry your having a difficult time. I know what you mean about bad parents, they don't deserve their children at all. I wish you luck with the adoption process! and with the second opinion from a doctor.

 

[mom23boys]

I agree with you. That story is disgusting. My DSis went through fertility issues for years and then had three great boys by IVF. But when she heard these stories it tore her apart.

It amazes me the requirements for adoption are so strict and anyone can have their own child and treat them so badly. I hope this little girl gets better and her eyes heal.

I wish you well in the adoption process.

Sharon

 

[FreshTressa]

One of life's cruel ironies.



I know that what you are going through can be one of the most difficult and trying things, and to have to hear news like this on top of it.

 

[mrsltg]

Stinks, doesn't it? I'm sorry for your difficulties. I hope you and your DH will be parents soon! Good luck and best wishes for a house full of little feet!

 

[Rikku]

As a parent of three myself and my wife have often been plagued with the same questions about unfit parents. BUt then I have to think...I doubt these people, if they actually intended to have children, went into thinking they would now have someone to abuse...personally I believe someone just simply are "wired" correctly for raising children.

I think the opposite applies as well. I never saw myself as a parent...never wanted any kids...but three daughters later and they are the best things that ever happened to me and I sacrifice myself every day of my llife to make their better.

It's odd how the human mind works isn't it?

 

[FionaLovesShrek]

I understand. It took me 16 years to conceive my child. I was told I would never get pregnant, but a good doc, IVF and prayer gave me the best present I'll ever receive. I had 3 younger brothers who just kept popping out kids all over the place. In fact, each of them have 5 kids each. It was especially hard when one brother's wife complained every time she got pregnant. Once, she even "confessed" to me, and I say confessed because she said she felt guilty because I wanted a baby so bad that when she met my brother she was pregnant with another mans child, so she had an abortion so she could snag my brother No one knows how you feel except another woman unable to conceive. I won't tell you it gets easier. I love being a mother, I loved being pregnant, I loved giving birth and I wish I could have done it over and over again. But it wasn't meant for me. I am so thankful for my DD and I hope your dreams come true soon, too.

 

[TEENEE]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time conceiving. I have a friend who is in your shoes. Keep your chin up things will work out for you. My friend and her husband didn't think they would ever have a child of their own, now they have a wonderful little boy and are anxiously waiting for their little girl to be born. The little boy came to them when he was almost 3 years old. One day while she was at work a woman she works with approached her and told her about her neice who is pregnant but wanted to put the baby up for adoption. To make a long story short DF & her DH are waiting for their baby to be born. She was due yesterday. I hope this info doesn't upset you more. I just wanted to point out that things can and will work out for you. It's upsetting for anyone to read horror stories about abused children, more so for those of you waiting for your special bundle of joy.

 

[crazy4disney01]

This is something that plagues my mind all the time. I feel that there is nothing I can do except pray for them, that God will take care of them and protect them and they will find their way to others who will love them and care for them the way it should be.

I think if we, as a country (USA), had harsh penalties for abusing a child, like bleach poured in their eyes, maybe it would make a lot of parents take more responsibility and think twice before mistreating a child.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I was actually discussing this with a friend of mine recently. She's been trying for 8 years to conceive a child. Even IVF failed and she just stopped it, because she couldn't take it anymore. She's a nanny and absolutely loves children. Yet she can't have them. Then you hear about all these delinquent parents who can't care for their children properly, yet they keep popping them out like defective toasters. It's so sad.

 

[nowellsl]

I work in a school and ask myself that at least once a day!

 

[Sonya]

My mom couldn't have kids, I am her only, I was adopted. I remember being VERY young, and asking her the same question one night after watching the news. We had heard about kids being abused and I remember crying, asking why. My parents could have had 10 kids and been great parents and so happy. Some parents want none, have 10.

I'm glad you are looking into adoption. And I hope you have as good of an experience as we did. Good luck!

And if you ever find an answer, please let me know!

 

[NAB]

i agree some people shouldn't have kids but it is funny because when you get married the first thing people do is push you to have kids.
I feel for you to because I couldn't conceive easily either. Took 9 years to have my son. I have PCO and was told I wouldn't have any but with drugs and stuff I got two and was pregnant with third with out even trying. So don't give up

 

[Minnesota!]

(((((hugs))))))) I struggle with infertility as well. The pain of seeing other people taking advantage of such a privlege...it is crushing.

I hope for wonderful things in your future.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Well I dare say they won't be parents for long. Maybe you can adopt that poor girl or one like her.

 

[fabumouse]

What makes me crazy is that these poor kids get into the foster care/adoption system and in NJ, it takes an act of God to actually adopt a child out of the system. I know many great families who have one child, would quickly adopt another, if they were willing to throw their families into utter turmoil.

 

[kdibattista]

 

[MAKmom]

There are white lights in this world & dark entities. Evil can have children who are white. People who do this are evil. Evil is a fact of life. You must stay away from evil they can never change.