Why are some people allowed to be parents? A vent.

[Chicago526]

Don't give up...my MIL was told she could never have kids (back in the early 70's they couldn't do much for infertility, and if there were treatments, MIL was poor), 7 years later she gave birth to my now DH. The Doc had to repeat himself 4 times when he told her she was pregnant, because she wouldn't beleive him!

Even if it turns out you can't have kids of your own and you adopt, by adopting you are making sure at least one child doesn't suffer the fate of those we see on the news. Try and keep that in mind.

Good luck!

 

[RadioFanatic]

thanks everyone for the support. and pls know that dh and I are very excited about adoption - we plan to do it no matter what happens with the infertility issue. It just drives me crazy when I read stories like that.

 

[arminnie]

So, here are dh and I, good people I believe, who are desparate for a child adn then there are scum of the earth like these two who get to have children.

And the courts keep giving the kids back to these scumbag parents even after they do horrible things.

I'm sorry, but there are somethings that you shouldn't get a second chance for - gross abuse of your child is one of them.

One of my relatives took in a foster child that had been born to a crack ho. She was finally able to adopt the child after years of failed reunions with the birth mother. This child is now a wonderful young girl doing great in school with a real future - had she stayed with her birth mother she would have had little chance for any future.

 

[lindakmonty]

I also had problems conceiving. Not sure why. But my dr. told me to just quit trying and take the summer off and stop worrying about it so much. Just to relax. And wouldnt you know it,the very next month I was pregnant. I was so obsessed w/all the ovulation tests and getting everything just right... then I'd get pregnant and lose it... I know the feeling! It is very frustrating. But now that I have my ds...I appreciate him so much more. don't give up Good luck!

 

[disneymac]

I understand how you feel, sometimes those stories just make me cry and other times they make me want scream in frustration! I try to tell myself that things happen for a reason and I may never know what that reason is. Sometimes it helps and other times it doesn't...

I hope things work out for you.

 

[Missamoncus]

Just wanted to give you another . I have been there, too. I'll never forget walking out of a restaurant with my husband after listening to the woman at the next table berate her two , maybe three year old daughter for an hour because the little one kept telling her Mom she was hungry. Well, duh, it was 8:00 on a Saturday night. The Mom kept drinking Margaritas and telling the little girl to , "Shut the He%$ up and quit whining." As we walked out , I apparently muttered some expletive that rhymes with witch as we passed the womans table. I just remember my husband looking at me , stunned and me asking him , "Oh, did I say that outloud?"

And something you should know. We adopted our beautiful daughter from China in 2002. She is , in every way imaginable 'our own'.

Melissa

 

[daisyduck123]

So sorry to hear you're going thru this.

Here's a word of encouragement. One of my girlfriends went thru the same thing as you. They tried all kinds of fertility treatments, spent thousands of dollars...nothing worked. Well, they were lucky enough to adopt a boy (infant)& girl (2yo) from Russia.

Less than 5 months after they were home, my friend, who was told she wouldn't be able to conceive, learned she was pregnant. So then she was mom to 3 kids under the age of 4.

Two years later, she was learned she was pregnant again!! Now she has 4 kids & her tubes are tied!! She had that done right after the 4th one. She went from one extreme to the other.

 

[AllyandJack]

I know exactly how you feel. My loser cousin got pregnant in drug rehab (in a broom closet). "Rehab" did nothing for her and she did heroin during the entire pregnancy. The most ironic part is that she was told she'd never have kids. She has bad endometriosis and PCOS. She keeps telling me if she had a "miracle", I can, too (that's great since I'm perfectly healthy and the infertility isn't because of me).

I love to hear of couples/women who struggled finally get pregnant, but her "success" story only makes me angrier. I told DH I was shooting up the wrong drug....I need heroin, not Follistim.

 

[lucyanna girl]

You never know what life has in store for you. I hope in your case it will be many years of bliss as a parent.
I often wonder why some people were gifted with children.

Penny

 

[cardaway]

We are in the same position and feel the same way sometimes. We also agree about the adoption process which is why we haven't went that route.

There is hope however. They have my wife on a diabetes medication of all things and she did get pregnant recently. She lost it, but now there is real hope that the same proces will be succesful again.

Feel feel to PM me if you want the details.

 

[arminnie]

Here's a word of encouragement. One of my girlfriends went thru the same thing as you. They tried all kinds of fertility treatments, spent thousands of dollars...nothing worked. Well, they were lucky enough to adopt a boy (infant)& girl (2yo) from Russia.

Less than 5 months after they were home, my friend, who was told she wouldn't be able to conceive, learned she was pregnant. So then she was mom to 3 kids under the age of 4.

Two years later, she was learned she was pregnant again!! Now she has 4 kids & her tubes are tied!! She had that done right after the 4th one. She went from one extreme to the other.

A classmate of one of my friends married very young - about 19. She and her husband (also 19) tried for many, many years to have kids. In their twenties they happily adopted two children and raised them to adulthood.

In her late FORTIES (47 to be exact) she gets pregnant! It truly was a miracle child - a beautiful little girl.