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I wanted to post another update. I’ve been religiously using my new cpap machine for 8 months now. 100% compliance, I won’t even take a nap without it. I’m enjoying my life outside of work so much more. However, it did not make me like my teaching job any more than I did previously. As a matter of fact, it confirmed that I needed to quit!
I had been teaching middle school English to 6th, 7th, and 8th graders at a private school for the past 11 years. Before that, I was a substitute teacher at 2 other schools for 8 years, which didn’t count for retirement benefits. My school’s pension plan was not good like the public school pension plans. Also since teaching was my 2nd career, there was no way I’d ever work close to 30 years in my school system at my age. So I didn’t have any big pension payout stopping me from leaving.
Teaching was getting harder and harder. The pay was low. The kids have gotten so disrespectful that it made it hard to get through the material each day. I was tired of having to do all the grading during my personal time. I figured I needed to work for another 5 to 8 years, and I wanted to have an enjoyable life. Even with the cpap, my work days left me exhausted all the time. I just didn’t enjoy my job at all anymore. The ONLY things that kept me there were my coworkers and the summers off.
And then my mom died this past October. Her death combined with remote teaching during Covid, my double knee replacement in Summer 2020 and the subsequent knee infection followed by 6 months of surgeries, hospitalizations, and recovery in 2021, was all I could take. I no longer had the band width to deal with middle schoolers all day. I needed to take care of myself, and my dad has really fallen apart since my mom’s death. We were able to do 3 months of family grief counseling with him, and he’s now seeing a therapist on his own, but he still needs help. I live across the country, so I can’t pop in on weekends. I decided to take a year or two off to help him through the first couple years of widowhood. My husband completely supports this because his sister did the same thing for his mom when his dad died. So I’ll be flying out to spend time with my dad for a couple of weeks every other month (or more if needed) going forward.
In April I gave notice at my school that I would not be returning for the 2023/2024 school year, and I decided to open my own business as a proofreader/editor! My brother, whose business entails a ton of report writing, is so busy that he’s turning away new clients. He has been wanting to hire me to proofread and edit his reports for years, but I never had the time. Well now I do have the time, and I can do the work from anywhere. I started this past Thursday! I’ll have to pay my own taxes and fund my own IRA. And unless I can add some additional clients, I’ll make 72% of what I did teaching, but I’ll only have to work about 25 hours a month verses 50+ hours a week!!! To fill the $ gap, see my work friends, and keep in touch with my favorite students, I’ll sub at my old school occasionally.
Teacher Work Week starts this Monday, and I’m sooooo excited that I don’t have to be there!!!!!!