Who finds Mothers' Day really annoying?

[pozey]

You won't feel this way when you no loger have your mother. Be greatful that you still have her.

I agree. My mother died 3 years ago. I would gladly fight the crowds to buy her a necklace, a card, take her to lunch.....whatever.......just to have the day with her again.

 

[Jennifer S]

My Mom's birthday is May 13th which this year falls on Mothers Day so two gifts in one day for her. She kind of gets ripped off with only one special day. Then DS's birthday is on the 14th and our wedding anniversary is the 24th. It does get to be one expensive month.

My mom's birthday is today - our anniversary was yesterday and my nephew's birthday was Monday - plus we have a few more birthdays at the end of the month. May is a killer for us too.

 

[Jennifer S]

Just because she hates kids gives her no reason to hate Mother's Day, she has a Mother doesn't she or does she hate her too.

Suzanne

By the sound of her post she just might.

 

[4nana]

What a bunch of party poopers...bummer ya hear!

Big ((hugs)) to those who have lost their Moms and all those who find it a PIA.

Guess I'll never grow up or grow old! I hope my spirit will always remain young, as part of it loves the good times making special memories with family and friends any time, place or day.

You're missing the point, it's not about the cards or gifts at all . Just another day to spend with those ya luv and who luv you, even a call with do! If you're lucky and blessed, that's really everyday, not just Mother's or Father's Day!!!

 

[meandtheguys2]

You're missing the point, it's not about the cards or gifts at all . Just a day to spend with those ya luv and who luv you, even a call with do! If you're lucky and blessed, that's really everyday, not just Mother's or Father's Day!!!

That is why the holiday isn't important to me. I celebrate my mom all of the time, as my guys celebrate me. It is just a different way of looking at things.

 

[Chloe'sMom]

Most Hallmark holidays annoy me (and, thankfully, my wife )

Besides, becoming a mother doesn't automatically turn that day into yours -- at least not when you have a mother who only care what they want to do that day, not what their daughter would like to do.

Do we have the same MIL?

Growing up Mother's Day wasn't a big deal. We gave Mom cards and small gifts and then we usually had BBQ with grandma. Now Mother's Day is a huge production. My MIL wants to "go somewhere" ya know - where everyone else is. It can't simply be a day to spend together at one of our houses - it must be an event that takes all day. I have a 10 month old daughter - dragging her around St. Louis when she is cranky and needing a nap does not sound like a fun mother's day to me.

Personally I dislike mother's day and all the hype around it. I told DH who wanted to buy me a new coach wallet that I did not want anything for Mother's day except for a card. I would rather have the words of how much our daughter and me mean to him then anything else. Besides I didn't want to set the precedent of another big gift holiday. I have decided to no longer do big gifts for my mother and MIL either. They are getting frames with Chloe's picture in it.

~Amanda

 

[va32h]

Just because she hates kids gives her no reason to hate Mother's Day, she has a Mother doesn't she or does she hate her too.

Other burning questions:

Did Goofygirl hate herself as a child?

Does she look at pictures of herself as a child and think "ooh a kid - I hate that kid!"

Does she stop hating people as soon as they turn 18? 21? 30?

If she hates kids so much, why is her username goofygirl, shouldn't it be goofywoman or goofygrownup?

 

[diznygirl]

What a bunch of party poopers...bummer ya hear!

Big ((hugs)) to those who have lost their Moms and all those who find it a PIA.

Guess I'll never grow up or grow old! I hope my spirit will always remain young, as part of it loves the good times making special memories with family and friends any time, place or day.

You're missing the point, it's not about the cards or gifts at all . Just another day to spend with those ya luv and who luv you, even a call with do! If you're lucky and blessed, that's really everyday, not just Mother's or Father's Day!!!

Is that a positive attitude???? We won't be having any of that here Missy!!!!!!

 

[tjmw2727]

I love Mothers day Although I will miss my Mom more than usual on Sunday I can celebrate so much including how lucky I am to have an AWESOME Mother in law and how lucky I am to be a Mom. I can also hope and pray a little extra for my sister who is trying so many difficult roads to become a Mom.

I love that my kids still make me cards and a crazy fun breakfast. I have everyone of their cards - this year will make 12 from my older dd and 10 from my younger dd.

We don't do gifts although I often tease my dh when the commercials for diamonds and recently cool cellphones come on.

If the weather is nice we will go to our favorite very casual outdoor restaurant on the canal - a treat for all of us not just me. We will call my MIL and wish her a happy Mothers day and look forward to the middle of June when we can be together.

Its only one day - yes its overhyped like many holidays but I admit I like it.

Now Fathers Day - that's another story, ok JK

TJ

 

[Disney Ella]

A history of the day (at least one version)

http://people.howstuffworks.com/question634.htm

In the United States, Mother's Day was first suggested in 1872 by Julia Ward Howe (famous for writing the words to the "Battle Hymn of the Republic"). But it was a woman who was never a mother herself who led the campaign for national recognition of Mother's Day.

Anna Jarvis held a ceremony in 1907 in Grafton, West Virginia, to honor her mother, who had died two years earlier. Jarvis' mother had tried to establish Mother's Friendship Days as a way of dealing with the aftermath of the Civil War. Anna Jarvis began a campaign to create a national holiday honoring mothers. She and her supporters wrote to ministers, businessmen and politicians, and they were successful in their efforts.

In 1910, West Virginia became the first state to recognize the new holiday, and the nation followed in 1914 when President Wilson declared the second Sunday in May to be Mother's Day. Jarvis used white carnations as a symbol for mothers, because carnations represented sweetness, purity and the endurance of mother love. (Today, white carnations represent a mother who has died, while red carnations represent a living mother.)

Unfortunately, Jarvis became bitter over the commercialization of the holiday. She filed a lawsuit to stop a 1923 Mother's Day event and was even arrested for disturbing the peace at a mother's convention where white carnations were being sold. Jarvis never married and never had children. She died in 1948.

 

[Lanshark]

My mother died when I was fourteen. I wish I had your problems. It's a shame that people don't know what they have until they lose it.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Other burning questions:

Did Goofygirl hate herself as a child?

Does she look at pictures of herself as a child and think "ooh a kid - I hate that kid!"

Does she stop hating people as soon as they turn 18? 21? 30?

If she hates kids so much, why is her username goofygirl, shouldn't it be goofywoman or goofygrownup?

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

My mother died when I was fourteen. I wish I had your problems. It's a shame that people don't know what they have until they lose it.

 

[Deb in IA]

, Lanshark.

I am blessed to both HAVE my mother still here and to BE a mother myself. Yes, I love Mother's Day, the best day of the year.

 

[castleview]

Why would I find it annoying? Just because I have a grandmother, mother, step mother and MIL who are all impossible to buy gifts for And when I finally figure it out I have to buy them with money I don't have. Just because a relaxing Sunday turns into travel to three different places where you get attitude for not spending enough time at each?

 

[meandtheguys2]

My mother died when I was fourteen. I wish I had your problems.

I'm so sorry.

 

[mytwotinks]

Can someone please tell me why it would matter that the woman who campaigned for Mother's Day was never a mother???? I assume (just a wild guess) that she had a mother, right?????

I'm not close with my mother, but I suck it up once a year and do the whole Mother's day thing. Who cares?

 

[helenabear]

My mother died when I was fourteen. I wish I had your problems. It's a shame that people don't know what they have until they lose it.

I am so sorry
Sadly that is exactly what I was thinking about when I read this post too... I lost mine at 16 and would kill to be able to hug my mom on mother's day

 

[zakatak]

We had dinner over at a friends house on Sunday night and they had BOTH sets of Grandparent's there for their little girl's birthday. My DH and I looked at each other and said, "WOW".

My Mother passed away 15 years ago and never got to see any of her beautiful grandchildren. My Father passed away 10 years ago and only got to see one of my babies, when he wasn't drunk.

My DH lost his Father 2 years ago to Cancer and his Mom, who is 68, is in the Memory Care unit of a Nursing Home with Alzheimers.

Right now, my kids have 1 Grandparent who is in a locked wing of a Nursing Home.

Yeah, I would fight traffic and crowds to take my Mom out to lunch with my kids. Every now and then I have a dream where she is in it and sometimes, once in a blue moon, I can see her interact with my babies... if only in a dream.

This year, I am vowing to be more happy than sad on Mother's day... realize what I have rather than what I don't have. And NOT go out to eat and see all of the happy daughter's with their Mom's and Children.

Stop complaining and start appreciating what you have... someday you will miss it.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

I am so sorry
Sadly that is exactly what I was thinking about when I read this post too... I lost mine at 16 and would kill to be able to hug my mom on mother's day

At 16 I probably would have gladly given mine away, I was much closer to her mother (my grandmother), but now I wouldn't trade her for the world.

Happy Mother's Day

Suzanne