When do girls stop having sleepovers?

[SLK1]

DH and I feel sleepovers are just the root of all evil...either hosting them or having our kids go to them. Kids always end up cranky and tired and sometimes sick. And, when my girls were younger, I had one friend who wanted to go home, one I had to sit up with for hours, and one who threw up...so I do not like them AT ALL. But, my kids (my girls) still love them. Figures..

DD15 wants to have a sleepover either here or at friends' every weekend! At what point do girls get to be "too old" for sleepovers? I'm pretty sure that at age 15, I wasn't sleeping over anywhere.

Any thoughts?

 

[DisneyLoverUSA]

I don't do sleepovers. Here or there. I have only let me kids stay the night off maybe once or twice and I rarely let anyone else sleepover here. You go play with each other for a few hours then come home at bedtime. No need to sleep at someone else's house.

Also for teen girls, IMO, letting them sleepover someone else's house is just asking for the whole sneaking out thing where they may end up laid up somewhere with some teenage boy. I won't have that.

 

[The_Alice]

DH and I feel sleepovers are just the root of all evil...either hosting them or having our kids go to them. Kids always end up cranky and tired and sometimes sick. And, when my girls were younger, I had one friend who wanted to go home, one I had to sit up with for hours, and one who threw up...so I do not like them AT ALL. But, my kids (my girls) still love them. Figures..

DD15 wants to have a sleepover either here or at friends' every weekend! At what point do girls get to be "too old" for sleepovers? I'm pretty sure that at age 15, I wasn't sleeping over anywhere.

Any thoughts?

I think I had them all the way through College, but by then it was more like "Hey, can I crash here, I probably shouldn't drive." Or we had been up talking watching movies so long there was no point in going home.

I agree with you on how they make kids cranky. No one gets any sleep at them.

 

[Coconut36]

When I was young (eons ago I was 18 in 1993 if that helps) it was common in my peer group for girls to have a big sleepover for their 16th birthday and that was generally the end of sleepovers..as each of us hit 16 the sleepovers started to end.

My parents did not allow them once I started really dating (around 16). The comment to me at the time was one who was dating (and dating people who were older and/or drove) was too mature for sleepovers however as an adult I know it was "we are not going to risk you saying you are sleeping at a friends house but spending the night with the boyfriend".

 

[badblackpug]

I had them all the way through high school.

 

[kidzmom3]

all the way through HS and even in college, friends come to spend the night because they live far away.

I have no problems with sleepovers and send any cranky kids to their room. I won't put up with that just because they are tired.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Both of my boys still have them - they are 11 and 14. Of course, boys don't call them "sleepovers". They are gaming sessions.

 

[Hannathy]

Do they ever end with girls?

I think they happen all thru High school and even into college.

It is tradition in the theater dept to have a sleepover the last weekend before dress rehearsal weekend for both sexes. And they are all in High school.

I loved going to sleepovers and my kids do to. Is it really that hard to deal with a slightly grumpy kid for 1 day considering the fun they have and the memories they make?

 

[punkin]

Never. DD18 is in college and still has sleepovers when she's home.

 

[DVCLiz]

I agree - my daughters had sleepovers all the way through high school and into college if friends were home at the same time.

I think sleepovers are an important part of a preteen and teen girl's social life and I always feel sorry for the girls whose parents who won't allow them.

 

[Mandychelle79]

Im almost 32 and I still have sleep overs.

 

[luvmy3]

They don't end until you move in with your boyfriend or you get married.

 

[cglaura]

DD is 19 and still does. She is either somewhere or someone is here most nights. We have a pretty open policy though, my house is kind of the go-to whenever there is any drama elsewhere. We have a pretty peaceful drama free relationship. I think that is kind of common in a single mom/daughter household. We are great friends, but at the same time she knows, you better not cross the line kid! So I don't get taken advantage of my easy going nature.

As a single mom, sleep overs were my route to sanity. I knew I'd have a night or two or even a whole weekend to myself every other week!

Never had issues with cranky. Tired yes, but they just went to bed earlier than usual Sunday night and all was good by Monday morning again.

 

[pakaramom]

They still don't end once you get married...I love to have a girl's weekend!

 

[leight]

at 14 & 11 I don't see them ending at all for my two dd's. I don't mind them. Once I hit 13 my parents wouldn't allow me to sleepover at anyone's home -my brother was always allowed and that was throughout high school. My parents were old school with me as a girl. I won't be that way with my daughters but we've also been very selective about with whom they are allowed to stay and that will continue throughout high school- parents will always be confirming that they are home for me to allow it.

 

[Jill in Chicago]

They never end! I can understand though why they drive you bonkers. Sit down with the girls and make some new rules. You could have a only one girl at a time sleepover rule, or only one sleepover (either here or at someone else's) a month. You could also establish the rule that if there will be a family event that she is expected to attend the next day, she cannot go to or host a sleepover.

There could be other rules: no sleepover if she has a sport practice or any kind of practice the next day.....

Another rule could be: if we decide the following day that you are talking back.... (be very specific here) then you will have to go to your room, shut the door and lay down on your bed for one hour. (No t.v., no phone, only bed.)

 

[minkydog]

DH and I feel sleepovers are just the root of all evil...either hosting them or having our kids go to them. Kids always end up cranky and tired and sometimes sick. And, when my girls were younger, I had one friend who wanted to go home, one I had to sit up with for hours, and one who threw up...so I do not like them AT ALL. But, my kids (my girls) still love them. Figures..

DD15 wants to have a sleepover either here or at friends' every weekend! At what point do girls get to be "too old" for sleepovers? I'm pretty sure that at age 15, I wasn't sleeping over anywhere.

Any thoughts?

Too old for sleepovers? That's blasphemy!

My DD18 has been going on sleepovers since she was about 8yrs old. Back then it was an infrequent thing, but as she got up into her mid-teens it was about a twice a month occurance.She has a very tight-knit group of 5 friends and they do almost everything together. They're good girls and we have never had any reason to worry about what they're doing. Dd graduated from HS this summer and i think she spent just about every weekend with her friends. The girls basically went from house to house spending the nights. We had plenty of sleepovers at our house this summer, too. I really didn't mind her being gone so much. I knew she was going off to college this fall and she really wanted to make the most of her summer. And i think it really has helped her to adjust to college because she began separating from us long before her first semester started.

 

[MichelleVW]

Also for teen girls, IMO, letting them sleepover someone else's house is just asking for the whole sneaking out thing where they may end up laid up somewhere with some teenage boy. I won't have that.

How about a little trust? That's just ridiculous to just say no because something "might" happen. I trust my kids until they give me a reason NOT to trust them.

I had them all the way through high school.

Same here!!

I agree - my daughters had sleepovers all the way through high school and into college if friends were home at the same time.

I think sleepovers are an important part of a preteen and teen girl's social life and I always feel sorry for the girls whose parents who won't allow them.

Totally agree....I can't imagine being a pre teen or teen that wasn't allowed to spend the night with a friend...that's so bizarre to me.

They still don't end once you get married...I love to have a girl's weekend!

I know!! When I lived in NC my BFF lived 2 hours from me and I would go spend the weekend with her all the time. Girls weekends are the best!!!

 

[NMAmy]

Well, dd's almost 21 and when she's home from college, I still find the occasional extra girl or two around in the morning. I never had a problem with sleepovers at my house or with dd staying at someone else's. I guess I can understand nixing them if you don't trust your kids or their friends but it seems kind of sad to me to limit them. I loved getting to know dd's friends really well by having them stay over and taking them on trips with us.

 

[Michelle67]

I agree with most of the PP: they are never-ending! I did it all through school, my oldest did it all through school...youngest daughter (12) is having one tonight.