What Would YOU do??

[FayeW]

Why on earth would your DH get worked up about you receiving a card from an old classmate? If he doesn't believe you when you tell him there is nothing going on, I think I'd be more worried about that than some random birthday greeting.

Have you considered the possibility that this man is sending birthday cards to everyone who attended the reunion?

Seriously, you have bigger issues than getting a birthday card unexpectedly from an old classmate. Seems like you and your husband are blowing this way out of proportion.

An old boyfriend sending cards proclaiming his undying love for 30 years = Problem.

A random classmate sending you a birthday card once in 30 yrs =No Problem. (I am going to give him a pass on the second one, since it isn't her birthday and he probably got her mixed up with the person above or below her on the reunion list!)

Reunion organizer sending reunion related emails = No Problem

Husband making a stink about it = BIG PROBLEM!!!

 

[kimmar067]

I agree! He might just think he's being nice.

Can you tell us if he wrote something in the card that would make your husband think something is going on with the two of you?

....well, he did write about how I haven't visited on that board lately to chat with him....first of all, I NEVER 'CHATTED' with him (or anyone else, for that matter!), and second, I haven't visited that board PERIOD. (in over 3 years!)...I did show that card to 2 of my colleagues and they both agreed that it was definitely CREEPY!

 

[cm8]

I could have one of my friends pay him a visit

 

[dislaney]

I could have one of my friends pay him a visit

Personally I think it's kinda creepy and I vote you send PrincessKsMom's friends over for a visit!

 

[kimmar067]

....okay, so the other day, I had mentioned to an aquaintance about my car lease, and how I had to renew the registration for a lousy 3 months, since the lease is up at the end of the month[...it was a 39-month lease, so I had to have the car registered for an extra 3 months]. It also s*cked that I had to spend even MORE money at the DMV since I had to renew my drivers' licence too; they wondered why I hadn't renewed it in September (my birth month) since most folks' drivers licences are issued the month of their birthdays? I'm not exactly sure how that came to be, but my licences expire during the month of April. It got me thinking as to why this person keeps sending me a birthday card in APRIL, rather than my real month.... sooooo, how would they have that info??
[...I hate to rehash this subject, but this really has been bothering me, and more so, my DH, although he has really calmed down about it....]

 

[Carly_Roach]

Why on earth would your DH get worked up about you receiving a card from an old classmate? If he doesn't believe you when you tell him there is nothing going on, I think I'd be more worried about that than some random birthday greeting.

Seriously, you have bigger issues than getting a birthday card unexpectedly from an old classmate. Seems like you and your husband are blowing this way out of proportion.

Yeah, that struck me as funny, too. If true, it sounds like the OP and her DH have trust issues which can be poisonous to any relationship. If a simple thing such as getting a birthday card in the mail from a decades-old high-school crush can wreak havoc in your household, then you've got bigger problems than some old crush emailing you.

....okay, so the other day, I had mentioned to an aquaintance about my car lease, and how I had to renew the registration for a lousy 3 months, since the lease is up at the end of the month[...it was a 39-month lease, so I had to have the car registered for an extra 3 months]. It also s*cked that I had to spend even MORE money at the DMV since I had to renew my drivers' licence too; they wondered why I hadn't renewed it in September (my birth month) since most folks' drivers licences are issued the month of their birthdays? I'm not exactly sure how that came to be, but my licences expire during the month of April. It got me thinking as to why this person keeps sending me a birthday card in APRIL, rather than my real month.... sooooo, how would they have that info??
[...I hate to rehash this subject, but this really has been bothering me, and more so, my DH, although he has really calmed down about it....]

OK, so now it's not an old crush anymore but could be some kind of scam or even a stalker. And, of course, your jealous husband has calmed down because he no longer thinks he's going to lose you.

If you're really looking for advice, I recommend that you unsubscribe from ALL your websites, stay off the internet for at least six months, and invest more time in your husband, family and friends.

Seriously.

 

[Colleen27]

It sounds like maybe he has you mixed up with someone he did know/date back then and is looking to reconnect with. That happened to me when I first joined Facebook and kind of put me off of the whole thing for a while because it felt kind of creepy at the time. As it turns out, it was completely innocent - the man who was leaving flirtatious messages for me had me mixed up with another Colleen that attended the same high school we went to, and we finally figured it out when he asked about my sister (I don't have one). He is a couple years younger, didn't know me in high school and didn't realize there was another Colleen that would pop up with the same high school & graduating class as the woman he was looking for.

 

[kimmar067]

It sounds like maybe he has you mixed up with someone he did know/date back then and is looking to reconnect with. That happened to me when I first joined Facebook and kind of put me off of the whole thing for a while because it felt kind of creepy at the time. As it turns out, it was completely innocent - the man who was leaving flirtatious messages for me had me mixed up with another Colleen that attended the same high school we went to, and we finally figured it out when he asked about my sister (I don't have one). He is a couple years younger, didn't know me in high school and didn't realize there was another Colleen that would pop up with the same high school & graduating class as the woman he was looking for.

...I guess....we only had one other 'Kim' in our class so I don't think that was it....what you mentioned above is exactly why I don't 'do' Facebook, twitter, or MySpace....I've never even visited those sites - EVER! In fact, the DIS is the only site I've ever 'joined' or visited...

 

[Disney Mommy 3]

First of all let me say...why are some of you jumping on the issue of the relationship between OP and her husband? comments on her investing time with her family are really harsh...you don't know her or her marriage! That isn't what she was worried about...it's upsetting to her that she is dealing with Stalker Classmate...not that her hubby is upset about it!
As for Kim...I would go to the local PD and ask to talk to someone..they have a feel for when things are not as they should be...I think this is getting creepy. I would also go back to the DMV and find out about the April/Sept thing...I don't know anyone whose license expires 5-6 months before their actual bday. Pretty odd that Stalker guy would confuse April- Sept for a bday too....do you know anything about HIM...like what town he is in, is he continuing contact with other girls from your class? I would at least ask the police if he has a record or something! Sounds like he has a friendship built up with you in his mind--unless he really and truly thinks you are a different girl...but I still would talk to somebody!

 

[kimmar067]

As for Kim...I would go to the local PD and ask to talk to someone..they have a feel for when things are not as they should be...I think this is getting creepy. I would also go back to the DMV and find out about the April/Sept thing...I don't know anyone whose license expires 5-6 months before their actual bday....

...it's been so long that I've had a driver's licence, that I honestly can't remember how it came about that the renewal/expiration came to be in April. I don't know - that it's been like that for at least 20 years, and it's no big deal...

...Pretty odd that Stalker guy would confuse April- Sept for a bday too....do you know anything about HIM...like what town he is in...

...I don't know ANYTHING about him, except that I remember his return address was W. Va (I think) - I don't even remember what town...

...Sounds like he has a friendship built up with you in his mind--unless he really and truly thinks you are a different girl...but I still would talk to somebody!

...there wasn't even a 'friendship' built up in HIGH SCHOOL! I have already put into place a block on that classmates.com website, so I don't visit that any more (which I haven't been a 'member' for more than 3 years now anyhow...) Just hoping that it finally dies down....

 

[kimmar067]

First of all let me say...why are some of you jumping on the issue of the relationship between OP and her husband? comments on her investing time with her family are really harsh...you don't know her or her marriage! That isn't what she was worried about...it's upsetting to her that she is dealing with Stalker Classmate...not that her hubby is upset about it! ...

BTW ~ thank you for your compassion...

 

[Disney Mommy 3]

Your Welcome!

 

[BCDisneyFanatic]

Has this man tried to contact you again since the birthday card in April?