What would you do in this situation?

[Jenvenza]

Yeah, I am not getting how some people think this is the parents fault. The daycare worker put the wrong coats on the kids. So it is the daycares fault, and not the parents.

OP - if you feel bad about it, maybe ask the other parents if they would like you to stich up the coat.

 

[shrubber]

Well, If it is the teachers fault like I see here, Why not demand that the teacher repair or replace the coat?
Wouldn't that be fair? After all, it was her fault.

 

[Jenvenza]

Yes the DD did something wrong, she tore someone elses coat ( an accident to be sure )How is anyone else here to blame? The OP should apologize for the accident and offer to make amends.
I doubt the other girls parents would make a big deal of it anyways.
Is a daycare teacher responsible for all of the little darlings things?
If a two year olds mitten goes missing, for instance, I would hardly blame the teacher.

Are you serious? It is the 2 year olds fault that she ripped someone elses coat? First off, she is 2! And secondly, the TEACHER put that coat on her! How was she supposed to know it wasnt hers? She did nothing wrong. And to suggest that she did, is ridiculous.

 

[shrubber]

Are you serious? It is the 2 year olds fault that she ripped someone elses coat? First off, she is 2! And secondly, the TEACHER put that coat on her! How was she supposed to know it wasnt hers? She did nothing wrong. And to suggest that she did, is ridiculous.

My two year old broke a lot of things.....I even had to replace some of them.
That has never happened to you?
And no, of course I don't think that a 2 yr old is personaly responsible for such an incident.
The parent is.

 

[mjkacmom]

Why does the OP need to make amends? The teachers screwed up the coats. And prior to that the other child's mother screwed up the coats. OP and her DD did nothing wrong.

 

[mjkacmom]

Yes the DD did something wrong, she tore someone elses coat ( an accident to be sure )
How is anyone else here to blame? The OP should apologize for the accident and offer to make amends.
I doubt the other girls parents would make a big deal of it anyways.
Is a daycare teacher responsible for all of the little darlings things?
If a two year olds mitten goes missing, for instance, I would hardly blame the teacher.

She shouldn't have been wearing the coat in the first place. The teacher knew there was a problem with those coats being mixed up, a 2 year old isn't able to be responsible for determining who's is who's, and the OP wasn't there to make sure they had the correct coats. The OP's dd should've ripped her own coat - it is not the fault of the child, or the OP, that she was wearing the wrong coat.

 

[inkedupmomma]

My two year old broke a lot of things.....I even had to replace some of them.
That has never happened to you?
And no, of course I don't think that a 2 yr old is personaly responsible for such an incident.
The parent is.

 

[surfergirl602]

Your child ripped the coat of another childs.
Accident? Of course.
But you are responsible. Not the 2 yr old and not the teacher.
Tell the other parents how sorry you are and ask how you might amends.

No, she is not responsible. The teacher is the one that put the coat on the child - the wrong coat, the parent wasn't even there. It was her responsibility to make sure the children were wearing the proper coats.

OP, you should NOT replace the coat. it isn't your fault. Accidents happen. They're two for cryin out loud. Don't stress about it. my kids had worse happen in daycare.

 

[shrubber]

Again,,,,

Well, If it is the teachers fault like I see here, Why not demand that the teacher repair or replace the coat?
Wouldn't that be fair? After all, it was her fault.

 

[momrek06]

I wouldn't do anything. If the other mother complains, I'd offer to stitch it up, like you were going to do when you thought it was your DD's coat.

I would not do anything either.
And if the other Mom complains, then offering to stitch the ripped coat is a great idea. NOW with one coat stitched and the other one NOT stitched, hopefully, the teachers and the kiddos will know whose coat is whose and no more mix-ups.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I don't think you really HAVE to do anything. Nonetheless, in the interests of harmony with a family who may be in daycare with your Dd for a few years here is what I would do:

1. Offer to switch coats. If the coats really are identical (meaning also same size) just tell the parents it seems the coats were mixed up and your DD had on their DDs coat when the tear happened. Would they like to trade coats now so they have a tear free one? They will probably tell you not to worry about it--but you never know.

2. Regardless of what the other family says I would head to the fabric store and pick out a cute patch or two. If you end up with the torn coat--sew one over the tear, Sew another one on the front somewhere that looks good OR on the center back (very visible when the coats are hanging on a hook). If you end up with the untorn coat just add patches anywhere that looks nice. NOW the coats are no longer identical. If you have picked patches your DD likes she will be pretty good at finding her coat from now on I bet

I'm sorry, what you wrote makes no sense to me?

This is totally OT but I have to say--shrubber on THIS you and I can completely agree--kind of refreshing to have common ground for a change
9sorry nutterbutter--I think you make some good poitns but in this one poet i cannot see how the situations are in the least bit comparable).

 

[wdwfan16]

Give the other girl your DD's coat, fix and donate the torn coat and buy your DD a new coat.

 

[shrubber]

It was her responsibility to make sure the children were wearing the proper coats.

It is? Really?
I've had a couple of kids in daycare and I can remember nothing close to ' All of your childs possessions are our responsibility, if anything becomes lost or damaged, we will gladly be held responsible...."

I guess it always is somebody elses fault......sigh

 

[disykat]

I would call the other parent and laugh with her over the incident, offer to switch coats and take the ripped one, and if she accepted the offer - stich it up. No big deal.

These are two year olds and it's probably the first of many ripped clothing incidents in their lives. If my daycare provider was a loving caregiver who for a very low payscale took good care of my kids, a ripped coat would be the last of my concerns.

IMO, there is no one "at fault" here. Stuff happens.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I would call the other parent and laugh with her over the incident, offer to switch coats and take the ripped one, and if she accepted the offer - stich it up. No big deal.

These are two year olds and it's probably the first of many ripped clothing incidents in their lives. If my daycare provider was a loving caregiver who for a very low payscale took good care of my kids, a ripped coat would be the last of my concerns.

IMO, there is no one "at fault" here. Stuff happens.

 

[shrubber]

I would call the other parent and laugh with her over the incident, offer to switch coats and take the ripped one, and if she accepted the offer - stich it up. No big deal.

These are two year olds and it's probably the first of many ripped clothing incidents in their lives. If my daycare provider was a loving caregiver who for a very low payscale took good care of my kids, a ripped coat would be the last of my concerns.

IMO, there is no one "at fault" here. Stuff happens.

I agree, even though if you feel you are not at fault, offer to take responsibility

 

[Ciao Mickey]

Honestly I'd give my DD's matching coat to the other little girl and buy my DD a new coat, this way you make amends for the rip in the coat (although I don't think it's all your responsibility) and your DD gets a new coat which will end the coat mix-up

 

[Rora]

I wouldn't do anything. If the other mother complains, I'd offer to stitch it up, like you were going to do when you thought it was your DD's coat.

Agreed!

 

[shrubber]

Agreed!

So the other little girl, who certainly did nothing wrong, gets her coat, once fine, now back with a homemade stitch job?
Hardly seems right.

 

[janey99]

Is a daycare teacher responsible for all of the little darlings things?
QUOTE]

Umm, this is the point of daycare - being responsible for the little darling and her things.

Jane