What not to wear?

[mhsjax]

sorry double post.

 

[Liberty Belle]

It doesn't, just like it doesn't have anything to do with weather or not your family or education or compassion or any other of those wonderful qualities. One of the sweetest people I know is always taking care of people, her mother is very ill, her sons are all in wonderful colleges and they are always together as a family. She is ALWAYS dressed beautifully and her hair and makeup done. In fact the joke is at least she could be nasty so we could all hate her, but we can't, she is just as beautiful on the inside as the outside. I just don't understand why some people think that just because you are a mom or a nice person, then you can't look nice. The two are not mutually exclusive. In fact I find the attitude here sometimes to be snobish against people who do seem to care about what they look like.

I've not noticed that. This thread, though, shows snobbery against people who don't really care what they look like. Or, care somewhat, but it's not at the top of their list of priorities.

 

[mhsjax]

I've not noticed that. This thread, though, shows snobbery against people who don't really care what they look like. Or, care somewhat, but it's not at the top of their list of priorities.

I don't see that myself, I see just the opposite. Everyone is complaining about the $5000.00 and they should be shopping at Target, Don't get me wrong, I love Target, but the $5000.00 is given to them, Shoot yeah, I would spend someone else's money at those shops. When would you have the chance otherwise.

I should also let you know that as I am typing this, about how it is ok to look your best all the time, I am sitting here at 2:00 pm still in my bleach stained gown, with my hair sutck up in places that it shouldn't be and no shower. But I did brush my teeth. lol

 

[Liberty Belle]

I don't see that myself, I see just the opposite. Everyone is complaining about the $5000.00 and they should be shopping at Target, Don't get me wrong, I love Target, but the $5000.00 is given to them, Shoot yeah, I would spend someone else's money at those shops. When would you have the chance otherwise.

I should also let you know that as I am typing this, about how it is ok to look your best all the time, I am sitting here at 2:00 pm still in my bleach stained gown, with my hair sutck up in places that it shouldn't be and no shower. But I did brush my teeth. lol

lol And I am wearing jean capris, brown flip flops, and a blue and white UK tshirt, and my hair is in a pony tail. No makeup, unless there's some eyeliner left over from yesterday. Stacey and Clinton would scream about all of it. Oh, and my shoulder seams on my tshirt are not at my shoulders.

 

[AustinTink]

Well, let's see. I'm a mom and I'm sitting here in my dress right now. So far today in a dress, I've fixed breakfast and lunch, cleaned the kitchen twice, done laundry, been to a basketball game and attended a workshop at school. Like a previous poster said they make aprons for a reason!

I find dresses infinitely more comfortable than jeans, capris or shorts. Even Sweats! Oh an yes I did do my makeup today. Powder, blush, eyeliner and lipstick. Seriously it takes 5 minutes. What's the big deal?

 

[Freyja]

It doesn't, just like it doesn't have anything to do with weather or not your family or education or compassion or any other of those wonderful qualities. One of the sweetest people I know is always taking care of people, her mother is very ill, her sons are all in wonderful colleges and they are always together as a family. She is ALWAYS dressed beautifully and her hair and makeup done. In fact the joke is at least she could be nasty so we could all hate her, but we can't, she is just as beautiful on the inside as the outside. I just don't understand why some people think that just because you are a mom or a nice person, then you can't look nice. The two are not mutually exclusive. In fact I find the attitude here sometimes to be snobish against people who do seem to care about what they look like.

I couldn´t have said it any better. Funny how caring about your looks automatically equals being shallow in some peoples minds.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I couldn´t have said it any better. Funny how caring about your looks automatically equals being shallow in some peoples minds.

Since I'm the one who mentioned compassion, etc, I'm guessing you're talking about me? I never said caring about your looks was shallow. I just see appearance as not at the top of my list. To me, there are many things more important.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I think extremes of any kind give most people pause. I don't know about attaching adjectives, but pause, yes.

 

[Freyja]

Since I'm the one who mentioned compassion, etc, I'm guessing you're talking about me? I never said caring about your looks was shallow. I just see appearance as not at the top of my list. To me, there are many things more important.

Correct me if I´m wrong, but your "tone" suggests to me that when you say "To me, there are many things more important" you imply that to me this is a top priority, above family, education, compassion etc.

My family will always be my top priority and how compassion and looks can ever be connected is far from my comprehension.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Correct me if I´m wrong, but your "tone" suggests to me that when you say "To me, there are many things more important" you imply that to me this is a top priority, above family, education, compassion etc.

My family will always be my top priority and how compassion and looks can ever be connected is far from my comprehension.

Honestly I have no idea what tops your list. Well, actually now, after reading your second paragraph, I do. I was just saying that appearance doesn't top my list. I don't see how that implies that it tops yours.

I do know some people who place appearance at the top of their lists. My niece is an example. I love her. She's a good person. Most of her free time and money is spent on her appearance. Because she spends so much time and money on her appearance, she doesn't have as much time or money to do other things (further her education, volunteer, clean, etc). It's the way she is. Again, she is a good person. She just has different priorities.

I wasn't making a correlation between appearance and compassion. I was merely listing things that are important to me. If someone is spending a lot of time on appearance, I'd think it was important to them. If they spent more time on appearance than cleaning their home, I'd say their physical appearance seems to be more important than a clean home to them. If someone spends more time volunteering at soup kitchens than keeping up with the latest fashions, doing their hair, and wearing perfectly applied makeup, then I'd think compassion/volunteering was more important to them than their appearance.

And I am in no way suggesting that it's one of the other. Of course people can be compassionate and dedicated to their appearance. There are only so many hours in a day, so much energy in a person, and so much money to be spent, though. If so much is spent on appearance, it has to draw from somewhere else.

Also, everyone has different opinions on where the line should be drawn. I don't do mom jeans. I think they're ugly and unflattering. Some other women don't care. They may wear mom jeans and a plaid camp shirt from 1990, but still keep up with hygiene and think they're presentable. So if somone here says you shouldn't go to the grocery store looking like crap, some may envision a woman with unbrushed hair, stretch pants, a stained t shirt and no bra. Others might envision a woman who just stuck her hair in a pony tail, has on jeans and a tshirt and crocs.

Anyway, here I am rambling and rambling and still, I feel, not getting my thoughts out correctly.

 

[monkey68]

Liberty Belle, I can understand what you're saying, but the fact is, you still have to get dressed in the morning. It takes just as much effort to put on a nice flattering pair of jeans as it is to put on a pair of unflattering tapered leg jeans. Even less effort to slip on a pair of comfy ballet flats than to tie up a pair of sneakers. So you can still be a caring, compassionate person and still look nice, it doesn't take any more effort. As long as you buy the right things for your body, you can just pull anything out of the closet and be all set to go.

 

[Octoberbride03]

Gotta love these shows don't ya

I watched last night but missed the jersey dress line. And I don't mind them throwing out broken in jeans cause 9 out of 10 times they don't fit whoever's on the show(btw they donate most of the clothing to charity, the garbage cans are for drama).

Anybody seen Tim Gunn's show?

OMG I love him to death but his idea of an "errand" dress is what I wear to church I definitely Do not live in his world

 

[HelenePA]

Oh an yes I did do my makeup today. Powder, blush, eyeliner and lipstick. Seriously it takes 5 minutes. What's the big deal?

I dont even own any makeup I was never a dressy dressy girl. I am a tomboy a heart. I dont even know if I own a dress.. nix that yes I do.. it still has tags on it.. I have no where to wear it.. and dh would DIE if he came home to see me in heals wearing a dress with sequins on it.. I'm off the the park with the kids in 90* heat. I'll be wearing a tank top and shorts.. There are usually a few mom's made up over there.. they all look very nice I'm just not one of them. I never was.. never will be. I'm just being honest I dont want to look like them. I like the way I am.

 

[Jeafl]

I have this series DVR'd, so I don't think I have ever missed a show. I do realize I am pathetic! lol

In defense of Stacy and Clinton, I don't think they expect you to wear a dress to clean or do errands. In every episode they make sure the person buys at least one pair of good fitting jeans and some kind of shoe that isn't a rubber flipflop or ratty sneaker. You can be very casually dressed and neat at the same time. I think that is the point they are trying to get across.

Where's Philadisney when you need her? She was actually on this show and could probably give us the scoop on this!

 

[clgwli]

I haven't seen this episode yet. I will once the family is in bed.

But I am a mom and I love wearing dresses all day. I have a few jersey dresses that I positively love and can do just about anything in. Very very comfortable and I always get compliments on them (just found some super cute styles & colors)

I love this show and they do take people to cheaper places as well as the fancy ones. I would hate if they went to Target because their clothes, while very cute, fit a very limited number of people and the styles are limited as well. The cuts are very bad for someone like me except for some skirts I have found there. In general they are way too boxy and to hard to alter.

You can shop at fancy places and not spend so much. And Macy's or NY&Co which I have seen them go into are not "high end" IMO either.

I think they do a lot of good. I happen to agree that it is better to buy less of quality and not more just to have more. I spend more on shirts and jeans than I used to (still under $70 for jeans and $40 for shirts) but they definitely fit better and last longer than the stuff I used to buy at lower end places.

They have allowed comfort clothing for cleaning and yard work. But they limit it to a few outfits that they are never allowed out in.

SO I love the show and wish my outfits were worse just so I could get on it

 

[DisneyBlonde]

Most of the people they bring on that show are such bad dressers that anything is an improvement. That said...I would almost never wear most of what Clinton and Stacey recommend. The person usually looks only marginally better than before the makeover, imo.