What is wrong with Disers lately?

[Planogirl]

I just read the flag at half mast thread. The lack of compassion from a few posters is mind boggling. It's hard to even know what to say about them.

 

[JessicaR]

The fuss over grammar really gets to me. Why do some people feel the need to correct others?

As for the fights, it takes a minimum of two to fight and I refuse to get sucked in. At least in most cases.

The grammar sticklers are what I don't get at all. I guess grammar sticklers are the only ones that do get it. Must be a compulsive need for them to correct grammar mistakes. I bet the ruler was taken to their knuckles as a kid when they screwed up.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

The grammar sticklers are what I don't get at all. I guess grammar sticklers are the only ones that do get it. Must be a compulsive need for them to correct grammar mistakes. I bet the ruler was taken to their knuckles as a kid when they screwed up.

It doesn't bother me that some people correct or comment on other's grammar.

But, there are a few who are just plain mean when they do it. They equate grammar to intellect, and the two are not mutually exculusive.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

It doesn't bother me that some people correct or comment on other's grammar.

But, there are a few who are just plain mean when they do it. They equate grammar to intellect, and the two are not mutually exculusive.

At SU, 600 level, Professor (teaching grammar) said, "did you understand the person? Yes? Then the grammar was correct." I really liked that guy.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

At SU, 600 level, Professor (teaching grammar) said, "did you understand the person? Yes? Then the grammar was correct." I really liked that guy.

Exactly...

 

[JessicaR]

It doesn't bother me that some people correct or comment on other's grammar.

But, there are a few who are just plain mean when they do it. They equate grammar to intellect, and the two are not mutually exculusive.

I agree but I think there isn't any really nice way to correct someone. It comes off judgmental usually. That is when the nastiness starts.

I can only understand asking for clarification of grammar when the post isn't understood. That seems to be only a small fraction of the time.

 

[Planogirl]

My college professors weren't much for grammar unless they were English teachers. One said that you could use all of the correct grammar that you wanted to but your answers could still be wrong.

Grammar is fine and good grammar is a joy to behold but it's really not all that important in casual conversation. At least not to me!

 

[JessicaR]

At SU, 600 level, Professor (teaching grammar) said, "did you understand the person? Yes? Then the grammar was correct." I really liked that guy.

Exactly!

 

[Jennasis]

At SU, 600 level, Professor (teaching grammar) said, "did you understand the person? Yes? Then the grammar was correct." I really liked that guy.

True! And since I'm the one people are referring to, let me add that I did NOT understand the person's post (and was not the only one) which is what started the whole mess. But let's not get dragged back into that whole mess!



In regards to the OP, I agree there's been lots of nastiness on the DIS but it's not new at all. What I have been finding lots of is spam, sock puppets and brand new trouble makers. Seemed to be happening every day for a while, though at the moment it's quieted...for now.

 

[Ember]

I think sometimes people react without really thinking. In the case of losing a loved one, that's something many people fear greatly. When there's a mental illness involved, as in the case of suicide or even an addiction, it's often misunderstood as a "choice."

My mother faced down depression and anxiety for most of her adult life, and it could be very, very hard sometimes to understand that she wasn't controlling her reactions, they were controlling her. When you don't have that first hand experience, I think it's especially hard understand. And then people post in ignorance. The idea that someone you love would "choose" to leave you is so hard to fathom that I think people react strongly and without consideration. Either that or they're just mean, nasty people. But I would hope there are more of the former who just didn't think before posting.

 

[Sgt Mickey]

I just read the flag at half mast thread. The lack of compassion from a few posters is mind boggling. It's hard to even know what to say about them.

I couldn't even get through it

 

[Shagley]

What I have noticed is that most of the snippy posts come from a handful of posters. Many of the threads that get the most heated have the same posters that either create, or continue the drama. But of course, some people think that if someone online asks for "opinions" then they are free to be as mean spirited with their answer as they can because the OP "asked for it".

On the other hand, sometimes people are just overly sensitive and misunderstand something that was not mean spirited at all. I replied to a thread years ago where someone was asking a question about returning something to a retail store. I responded that I didn't quite understand the question, and I tried to summarize what I thought the OP was saying just to clarify. Apparently I worded something poorly, but somehow I made that OP absolutely FURIOUS . I re-read my reply about 20 times, and never did figure out why the OP thought I was being rude, and luckily all the other posters came to my defense because they read my post in the way I meant it. The OP wouldn't listen to any of it and got so nasty to me that the thread ended up getting deleted (even the Mod that deleted it said that it was obvious that the OP misread my post because there just wasn't anything in my post that was critical at all). I have never been attacked in any thread the way that OP came at me, and honestly there was no reason for it.

 

[Jennasis]

I just poked my head over in the "half mast" thread and holy heck I had no idea it had turned into THAT. I'm not surprised it did....just very sad, especially for the OP of that thread.

There have been many times I had an entire thread all typed out and then just never hit that submit button, knowing full well how things tend to go south and quickly. Sometimes it's best not to open myself up to the scrutiny...and sometimes I'm brave and say to heck with it.

Can't speak for everyone else OP, but I'll try harder to be snark-free, more upbeat and less judgmental. I'm sure I'll still fail from time to time (only human ya know) but I WILL try.

 

[violetrose]

I am fairly new to the DIS boards and the community board but I read 2 threads this evening. One was the poster who lost her husband to liver cancer. A very sad thread but I was so touched by how many DISers rallied around her and have continued to rally for her. By contrast,the other was the Whitney Houston thread, I'm amazed at how many insensitive things people have said there. Yes she was a celebrity and seemed to have a rough personal life but the woman is dead. It's in God's hands to judge now.

 

["Got Disney"]

it has always been like that.....some on here are really mean and like to troll,insult and make fun of grammar and spelling.....when ya think of how many are on this board it can't be helped.....

for the most part everyone is enjoyable to chat with....

they will also try to get you into a tizzy so you get points so be careful...let the Mods take care of them.

 

[kaytieeldr]

You should have put an apostrophe in "someones".

Just when I was going to say I haven't seen any grammar issues in this thread...

 

[snarlingcoyote]

When a thread goes on past about, oh, 5 pages, it's usually (althought not always) disintegrated into a few people snarking at each other back and forth over some idealogical point tangentially related to the OP's topic.

My rule of thumb is that threads are like food, if you leave most of them out long enough, they tend to go bad. There are exceptions. Occasionally a topic will pop up and, like cheese or wine, only get better with age, but it's a rare thing.

 

[Gisele]

Well on a different thread, someone enjoyed criticizing a certain somebody for grammar usage and possibly spelling as well. How I love being made fun of on a site where that is not necessary. So what perfect timing for this thread to be here.

p.s. I like another words.... gracias.....

~~ I love you Phil, and you will forever be with me! Forever my very best and most special friend! I love you to no end. ~~​

 

[abdmom]

When a thread goes on past about, oh, 5 pages, it's usually (althought not always) disintegrated into a few people snarking at each other back and forth over some idealogical point tangentially related to the OP's topic.

My rule of thumb is that threads are like food, if you leave most of them out long enough, they tend to go bad. There are exceptions. Occasionally a topic will pop up and, like cheese or wine, only get better with age, but it's a rare thing.

Case in point: the post after yours. Edited: The post is gone now. It got deleted pretty quickly.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

The main problem here is that people do take things sometimes way to personally. As for the woman who's sister committed suicide my response was to someone in the post not the OP.

Suicidality is no different than any other disorder and it can be treated. The problem is that people are too busy to notice or hear that a family member or friend is in trouble. The signs are always there but they are often ignored.

Was I harsh, yes! Am I sorry someones feelings were hurt, Yes! but i'm not sorry for speaking my mind. That OP is grieving but this is not the place to seek out unbiased comfort. She should be with her family.

My annoyance was more with the person who tried to compare a military death to the death of Whitney Houston and why the flag should or shouldn't fly. It was inappropriate and in a way how the Op titled the post seemed to suggest a sort of disgruntled attitude that the New Jersey flag was flying low for Whitney but not her sister. I feel sorry for both families death is death. I really feel for the Houston family because their daughter, mother, friend effected my life with her music. I didn't know WH but I knew and loved her music which was a gift.