ADisneyQueen
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I'm the OP and I was talking about PE classes, not organized teams.
Respectfully, though - academic/review type games arent't the normal classroom activity. Physical activity - frequently involving team games - IS the norm for physical education classes.
For those of you who indicate that some kids aren't good at reading, or at public speaking, or at math, or science - true. But in those cases, the teachers work with the students to improve skills. How frequently - and be completely truthful - does that happen in a gym class?
To the best of my recollection, never; so I'll concede to rarely. Instead, the SAME period-by-period 'team'-selecting procedure has been in existence for YEARS. It's been that long since I've been out of school. There's extra help available for reading or math - but for gym? Nope. You just get to spend your entire school life being picked last.
Respectfully, unless there are just six students in the class (or participating, which doesn't sound like the case here), it's not comparable to being one of the last two or three people picked by classmates in PE - plus, the judging of the honors essays seems as if it was done by the teacher... not classmates?luvmy3 said:Honors forms came home with every 6th student, they had to write an essay and my dd's teacher picked the top 5 essays and hung them up outside of her door. Kids are picked based on their ability for pretty much everything, and its not really a secret to the kids to see who excells at what and who does not
It doesn't sound, from luvsJack's reports, that the girl was upset about not getting picked first; it sounds as if she was upset about not getting picked AT ALL. Now, this could have been literal, or she could have just been the 'left over, stuck on a team by the PE teacher' student - but the girl's issue was definitely NOT over simply not getting picked first.Is it sad when a little girl feels awful because she didn't get picked first, sure. Should you tell her to suck it up, yes, maybe not that way but she definitely needs to hear that sometimes we don't get picked first
Okay, somebody needs to clarify this thread for me; not only am I a known nonathletic klutz, it's starting to look more and more as if I'm not as intelligent as I always thought I was.
Are we talking about TEAMS and the like - organized competive or performing groups, where aspirants' abilities are generally expected to meet or exceed certain standards and whose long-term (school year, season, etc.) participation is determined by tryouts and judged by - ideally - qualified adults?
Or are we talking about physical education CLASSES - during which, up to three times a week, the so-called teachers absolve themselves of their duties by choosing several (generally the most talented) students to then choose their own teams, often leaving the SAME few students standing in embarrassed silence while the team 'captains' argue over who gets stuck with the poor players, klutzes, etc?
Yes, there's a HUGE difference.
What you all are not understanding is that doing things this way is all fine and good when you have well rounded kids that are going to get picked for other things; but there are kids that don't get picked for anything. Why can't this one little bit of embarrassment be removed? Its not like its going to change PE class.
Right, I've got that now.nuttylawprofessor said:The thread is about being picked for a TEAM during CLASS. You know, one group plays another in an athletic game of some sort.
Right, I've got that now.
But your typical competitive team, be it sports or academic, goes through a once-a-year tryout period with all judging by (again, ideally qualified) adults.
The PE class teams, on the other hand, offer the potential for repeated, year-long, embarrassment to the students always chosen last.
As an academic teacher - not a college professor - if your classroom procedure was similar, in that students picked 'teams' almost every class, and you realized the same students were always getting chosen last, due, apparently, to their lack of ability in the field... what action would you take? Would your attitude be, "Oh well, everybody can't be good at everything, they'll find their respective niches, and in the meantime, being picked last or not at all will toughen them up?" Or would you think, "That student needs help, and as the teacher it's my responsibility to help her/him learn"?
If the latter, why is it not reasonable, then, if the PE teacher won't devise a more equitable method of determining teams, that the teacher instead help - i.e. teach - the struggling students to improve their abilities?
The good kids have always been picked first and they will continue to do so in life. It may seem unfair to the nonathletic kids but life isn't fair. When grades are given out the smarter kids will have the advantage. When it comes time to date the better looking kids will have an advantage. It all even out in the end.
I don't like the 'everything has to be equal' mentality that seems to be prevalent all of a sudden. It is like awarding all the teams a trophy or not keeping score. There are winners and losers in life, that is how it is. There are people who are better at other things then others, that is how it is.
I have no problem with the better kids getting picked first whether it is more athletic kids for the sports teams or smarter kids for the academic teams. In the real world everything isn't equal. You succeed or fail on your merits and it is never too early to start learning that lesson.
See I wouldn't say that. I stunk up the gym something fierce so I deserved to be picked last.
When I got to high school I joined the track team and found out I was good-so good I set records.
So the statement bolded above isn't completely accurate.
Here is the thing it doesn;t matter how you do it someone is going to be last!
My son says his PE teacher lets the kids who are picked last be the team leaders now and do the picking. Pretty smart if you ask me!
Here is the thing it doesn;t matter how you do it someone is going to be last!
So the teacher goes through the whole picking process then allows those who are picked to pick AGAIN? I guess I don't understand.
But the math teacher is going to help the 'always picked last' student (although, generally, academic classes aren't run like PE classes; but if they were...) As for taunting and arguing? No, it's way more subtle than that - those loudly-whispered discussions: "Ugh, he stinks, he trips over his own feet, you gotta take him"; "No way, we were stuck with him last time, it's your turn!"; "Hey, why don't we ignore him and just start playing, maybe he'll just go sit over on the bench by himself and if the teacher says anything, we can say we forgot".nuttylawprofessor said:I don't have a problem with the teacher helping the struggling student in any class: academic or otherwise. I also wouldn't accept any taunting, arguing, or bullying from "captains" in the selection process. There's no need for it. Want to taunt and argue? Enjoy your calisthenic workout and run laps instead of playing floor hockey.
Once? Twice? A half dozen times? Okay. Two or three times a week, for eight months? Over a period of years? Eh, not so fine.nuttylawprofessor said:What I am saying is that if the mere fact of being selected last is that damaging to a child's psyche, there are way deeper issues that need to be addressed. Our kids need some adversity to help them grow.
But does it really have to be the SAME somebody(s) every time?Here is the thing it doesn;t matter how you do it someone is going to be last!
Respectfully, no, "anyone" can't.mefordis said:is available to anyone and anyone can get good at it