What do you think about internet dating?

[totalia]

Umm, you just basically said what my relationship has consisted of for 4 years lol. We have been log distance the whole time. We are engaged. And its every day. For hours and hours. He has free long distance to my phone number after 8:00 pm his time. We talk for like 6 hours a night. Even when we don't say anything but watch tv.

 

[wendy1974]

I think if you use a dating service online and hook up with someone in your area or close by it's fine.

However, I think doing the long-distance dating is silly. The "I live in Maine, my boyfriend/girlfriend lives in Oregon. We see each other once a year, text message each other, phone every other day, and IM each other for hours daily," is so laughable I can't hardly stand it. Like Totalia said, I think it is a desperate move too.

I also think it's somewhat cowardly (but not in all cases). I think people who do these kinds of "internet dating" have issues with themselves and meeting people in the real world.

I don't really consider myself cowardly and although I admit to being far from perfect there are no "issues with myself". I honestly just don't have the avenues of meeting new people. I hang out with the same group of people and I do not want to date any of them. I also would rather not go out to a bar to meet someone. I was just looking for a different way to meet new people that I may or may not have something in common with and see what develops from there. I am not doing this to fill a void in my life to base my self worth on having a partner. Just wanted to meet some new people...no issues

 

[TigerBear]

Wendy, all kinds of people try internet dating - including those of us who are quite normal. I found internet dating to be a very easy way to meet well educated men in their 30's. My honey is a successful, attractive physician. I doubt many would consider him desperate. I actually think he is quite the catch and feel extremely lucky to be spending the rest of my life with him.

So how did your meeting go?

 

[wendy1974]

We did not get to meet because of the hurricane. He is a paramedic in Baton Rouge and they went into emergency activation for the entire week. I understand though and we will meet soon.

 

[WDWBetsy]

I met my DH online back in early 1997 playing an online game (a MUD for those familiar with role-playing), but we didn't meet in person until October 1997. Tons of chatting, emails, phone calls later, I drove 10 hours to meet him (he lived in Maryland - I was in Indiana). We hit it off and saw each other several more times before we were engaged in February 1998. He moved out here in April 1998 and we were married in November 1998.

Yeah, I kissed a few toads before I found my frog prince, and it was worth the wait!

I've always said that I could have met some wife-beater in a library, bar, work or elsewhere that you meet someone. It's important to be careful regardless of how you meet someone.

I met a computer wiz who makes me laugh, smile (and yes, occasionally cry), and we are hoping to start a family soon!

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

I know several people who have met their signifcant others this way. So far they are all doing very well in their relationships.

Good luck!

 

[MidNite]

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[pajamommy]

I met my BF on Match.com......I did meet a few duds before him, but he and I just hit it off right away. We have been dating for 10 months now and we are very happy! I say go for it! Good luck!

 

[Syrreal]

I have had 2 friends get married in the past 2 years from internet dating. The way I see it, it's a good way to meet people that you otherwise wouldn't

 

[azgal81]

Go for it! You never know who you will meet online. I know quite a few people with success stories. Just be careful when you meet the person for the fist time and you'll be all set!

 

[Dakota_Lynn]

I have had a few really good experiences with dating people I met on the Internet. I think it's a wonderful way to meet people!

 

[Stacerita]

I met my sweetie because of spam. I got some spam about a dating site and gave it a looksie on a whim. And in less than 24 hours I met my sweetie and we have been together since. (9 1/2 months). My best friend is getting married this July to someone she met on eharmony back in Sept. I know quite a few people who met through internet.

When I first started meetting people online I was a little worried about who I would meet. But I just used my head and the same standards I would if I met them the "traditional" way. True I have met some great guys. Some I still keep as friends. And then I have also met some guys that I can just shake my head at and say what was I thinking. The same can be said though for anyone you meet. No saying what a person is like just because someone sets you up or you meet them somewhere by chance.

I think internet dating is easier than meeting someone the traditional way. IMO.

 

[padams]

One of DH's cousins married last summer a woman he met through internet dating. They dated for 2 years before the wedding. She seems to be a really nice person. Both were divorced with kids.