What do you call your MIL/FIL?

[jenredwolf]

ooops!

 

[JPN4265]

I don't think I can say that on the DisBoards.

 

[BuzzBoyMom]

First names....I only have one lady who treats me like a daughter and one man who treats me like a daughter....they are my mom an dad. I'll just leave it at that.

 

[CyranoJones]

Mom and Dad. They've been my Mom and Dad longer than the time I had with my parents combined.

 

[BuckNaked]

I probably shouldn't say on a family board...

 

[feenie]

I avoid calling them anything too.
When I was first introduced my MIL introduced herself as MRS...
So for a long time when I HAD to address her as something, I would use that.
but after we got married that seemed a little dumb, and they really are not super formal people, and no one else I know Including my BIL's variety of former girlfriends called her MRS. (his now wife calls them mom and dad) So now when I HAVE to address them I use their first names.
I guess it comes down to the relationship that you have with them, and I don't really have much of of one with my in laws. The only thing we have in common is that we love my DH. (and apparently I don't do it right )

 

[elizke]

I had no idea the awkwardness of what to call the IL's was so widespread! That's good to know! That's so funny there are so many who manage to avoid calling them anything for years!

I use first names when I must, but it's hard when at family get-togethers you are the only one using these names. I agree I could never have called them Mom and Dad.

Both of my in-laws also have nicknames that they call each other and many peers call them. Never felt comfortable with using those either. But I always feel odd being so alone in using their first names so I avoid it.

E.

 

[Laurajean1014]

We call them by their first names.

Denae

I tried this and they got insulted. (How could anyone be insulted about calling them by their first names?)

So, I stopped calling them.

Then, when my son arrived, I started to call them Grandma and Grandpa!

Ahhhhh Haahhhh! They couldn't figure out a way to get mad over that one! Yay!

 

[Rex Rules]

Well, there is what they are referred to (their first names) and then another name for them when they aren't around. Yes, I am awful, but they haven't exactly been "warm" to me over the years.

 

[Stitchfans]

FIL has passed away. God Rest His Soul.

MIL I can't say since this is a family board.

 

[mickeysgal]

I'm also one of those that avoided the direct name thing. I would just start talking without using MIL's first name. To me, mom was out, using her first name was too casual, and using Mrs. xxx was too formal. So I used nothing.

Now on the other hand, my girlfriend used to address her in-laws as "the outlaws". LOL

 

[lowie]

I spent the day with my (future) in-laws on Saturday. I realized that I don't call them anything. FH calls my parents by their first names because they have told him to.

I don't know how I feel about calling them Mom and Dad after we are married. Thoughts? Feelings?

well i'd tell you what i call my in-laws, but it'll just look like this ****** & ****** when it gets posted.

 

[Kitty 34]

My DH lost his Dad years before we met so I never knew him. His mother I always called by her 1st name.

 

[sajetto]

I call my future FIL by his first name.


I'm not speaking to my future MIL right now and don't know when I will, but at the moment its "lying, stealing, &*^&*!"

 

[ozarkmom]

Their first names.

 

[Jcricket Fan]

I call my MIL mom, sometimes her first name but usually mom. She is terminally ill and I feel a great deal of warmth & love for her so mom works for me.
My FIL not as easy to love but usually dad because he and my DH have the same name so when we are all together it gets confusing! He is also caring for my MIL and I see him in a new light because of it.

I am surprised at how many have said that "they are not my parents" so I wouldn't call them mom & dad. I have both parents living who are my mom & dad and no one would ever confuse the fact that they are my parents and for me calling my inlaws mom & dad is a term of affection not a replacement for my true parents.

DH has always called my parents mom & dad and they are very happy with this.


Colleen

 

[Piglet4Ever]

I call my in laws mom and dad, I have to say it took me a little while to be comfortable doing so, but just because I wasn't used to calling anyone else mom and dad. My in-laws are the best I really lucked out. I never felt it was an insult to my own parents cause they call there in-laws(my grandparents) mom and dad too. So it all works out!!

 

[TheDisneyTraveler06]

First names.

 

[lovmy2girls]

This is a family friendly board and those kind of words are not allowed!

 

[Amapola]

The Spanish language has a great in-between form: Doña and Don, followed by the first name (Doña María, Don José). It's more formal than first names but less than Señora Lastname. That's what I call my MIL (FIL's deceased) and what my DH calls my parents.