What do you call your MIL/FIL?

[Binkrin]

I've gone 18-years of knowing mine without ever having to call them anything. DW and I joke about it, but it's working for me so far, and I don't intend to change.

I have only known mine for 2 years, but that's the direction I am headed!

 

[NAB]

I have been married 12 years and really don't call them anything either. I guess when they call or we call them it is there first name but when we visit I don't really call them anything. They sign the cards Mom and Dad. With the kids it is grandma and grandpa that made it easy.

 

[singingpixie]

Lol, we've been dating two years and this christmas it was really confusing- I think they both want me to call them Mom and Dad already, and I probably will once we're married, but it's too soon now. And to further complicate things, DBF and his Dad have the same name, so I can't even call "Steve" and be clear.... I had to address his christmas presents "Stevie" so that there wasn't confusion in the opening... totally not a sexy way to address a 23 year old man ;-).

 

[INDISMOM]

By their first names.

My mom actually made a point of telling DH (DF at the time) to call her and my dad by their first names. She said she went so many years without knowing what to call her in-laws that she would not have her sons-in-law not know what to call her.

 

[FlyingBelle]

Lol, we've been dating two years and this christmas it was really confusing- I think they both want me to call them Mom and Dad already, and I probably will once we're married, but it's too soon now. And to further complicate things, DBF and his Dad have the same name, so I can't even call "Steve" and be clear.... I had to address his christmas presents "Stevie" so that there wasn't confusion in the opening... totally not a sexy way to address a 23 year old man ;-).

Same issue here, my DH is now referred to as "Frankie" in certain company, i.e. our disney trips! Seems Disney has a hard time having 2 people on a reservation with the same name, even if one is a jr.

 

[pixiemomma]

I call mine by their first names. I love them (MIL and her husband, who is actually my husband's stepfather) but they aren't my parents.

 

[AC7179]

My husband already had a dd when we married, so I call her Grandma Shelley.

 

[offwegotoneverland]

I call mine by my first names.


Funny story about my parents...when they got married my mom asked what to call my paternal grandparents now that my parents were married... grandma says you can call me Mom if you'd like (she used a different name for her Mom) and then my grandfather says you can call me Sir...and she did!

Till the day he died she called him Sir, in public, on letters, cards you name it. We called him Grandsir!!!

I was maybe 8 before I found out that was weird as my other grandfather had a "unique" name too.

He also signed all his letters to her Sir as well...they were really close and got along well but you should have seen the looks they could get in a restaurant!

 

[Eeyore2142]

What I call my MIL would be sensored by the boards. To her face, I don't call her anything.

DH calls my parents by their first names. My mom had a meltdown about it, but oh well

 

[SC Minnie]

I don't call them anything. It has been 14 years and I have managed to get away with it. My FIL is deceased but when my MIL calls she will say 'Hi, this is Mom' when I answer the phone. I like her but I don't feel comfortable calling her Mom. DH calls my parents by their first names.

 

[llij]

I call my MIL by her first name. When my Dh and I got married she said that I could call her "mom", but I wasn't comfortable with that. She is a very sweet lady and I find myself calling her "grammie" sometimes now since that is what my kids call her.

 

[powellrj]

Its been almost 30 years and I still don't call them anything. They still call me by the wrong name, so I haven't been in any hurry to change what I call them.

When DS got a serious GF, one of the first things I did was to tell her to call me by my first name. I didn't want her to go the next 30 years wondering what to call me. Its funny, I have only know her 2 years and I feel closer to her than my ILs who I have known for 30.

 

[LBAK]

I try really hard not to call them anything! When I have to I call them Mil and Fil. They think it's cute and I don't have to be real personal calling them mom or dad.

 

[HOGFAN]

first names

 

[lesroi]

You know, no one has ever cleared that up for me! After 10 years I still manage to skirt round calling them anything!!

Ditto! LOL

 

[DMickey28]

We have been married for almost two years. I love my MIL, she Loves me, thinks I am the daughter she never had. She has all boys. I call her by her name to her face. That feels comfortable. Through DH in phone conversations I call her Mom... Like I'll say HI Mom when DH is on the phone with her or something. I would like to call her Mom but it just doesn't fit. When I talk about her in conversation I call her MIL, but that doesn't sound right either. I used Mom once when I was speaking about her in conversation but I felt like I was CHEATing on my mom.

 

[ChristmasElf]

I call mine.................................................................................






as little as possible.

 

[froglady]

MIL was deceased when I married. StepMIL was called by her first name by DH & his sisters, so it was easy for me to do so.

I asked FIL how he would like me to address him, and he replied "You may call me Dr ________." I found out later that all of his son-in-laws had gotten the same response.

 

[MI mom of 3]

When we were first married I was asked to call them Mom and Dad. I didn't know them well and was young and didn't want to make waves so I said sure.

We have been married for almost 20 years and the more I know them the less respect I have for them so it is really hard to call them Mom and Dad now. I still do to their faces just to avoid the hurt feelings and problems it would cause DH but in any other situation I refer to them, and think about them, by their first names.

 

[binny]

first names. I have/had a mom and dad.


I have no desire to call them by anything else and I dont think they would be comfortable either. DH calls my mom either by her first name or sometimes mom.