What are your punishments, if any for bad grades?

[hereyago]

 

[southern_redhead]

I think it depends on the kid. Not all kids are "A" material. Some kids are but are just lazy. My neighbors daughter is a smart kid but she is forgetful. She's always forgetting to hand in the homework that she's done, so she takes a huge hit in her grades for not handing it in. This results in her having her cell phone taken away but it still doesn't change the behavior.

I'm not one of those parents that demand A's. My expectation is that she does her best, which she does. If her best was a C, then so be it. I'm not going to put that kind of pressure on my child.

If low grades were a result of bad behaviors, I'd work with her to change those behaviors. If it's a subject she struggled with, I'd expect her to put in her best effort but wouldn't punish her for a low grade.

I agree. What a "good" grade is depends on the child and the subject. Sometimes, you know a certain class is an easy A for a certain kid, and you remark that the A is good, but neither of you dwell on it. The same kid might have had to work twice as hard for his A (or B, or C, for that matter) in another class, and that's what you both really celebrate.

I don't care what the actual grade is, as long as I see consistent effort and good work ethic.

If she got a poor grade because she didn't try or give it the necessary effort, then I would be extremely unhappy. If a poor grade resulted from really trying and just not 'getting it'...I would offer extra help and tell her that I was proud of her for giving it her best effort.

Elementary and middle school (and to a lesser extent high school) are more about forming good work habits than getting excellent grades. When you apply for a job, nobody asks to see your third grade report card. Strong work ethic is more important than a subjective grade.

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I have two boys who are currently being tested for learning disabilities. My oldest has had an F and brought it up to a D in math. We actually celebrated the D - I knew how hard it was for him to get it and his teacher even commented on how hard he was trying. Now, DD, she is a capable student. I'm not going to say she's genius, but she is certainly capable of at least B's at her age. She's dealing with some bullying and I know that has caused her anxiety and trouble focusing at school. However, I had her moved away from the bully and talked to EVERY teacher she has during the day AND the principal. If the bully is even seen talking to her someone is supposed to step in, so that has helped her some. OTOH, last week she brought home some bad grades in her take home work and, in looking at them and talking to her it was clear they were due to her piddling around. She missed three on a spelling test, every one she ANSWERED was right but she left 3 blank.......hello?! SHE got a pretty good chewing and suprise, suprise those grades this week were FAR better. Slacking makes me mad, inability doesn't - however, I'm waiting for the day when she questions why a C got her in trouble but an F didn't her brother......

I try not to put any emphasis on grades with DD9. She is high anxiety, and if I push too hard she will literally break down. She was averaging 42 in Math. I worked with the teacher and we discovered she only does bad with timed quizzes. So we have all been working with her and are putting a 504 in place for test anxiety. She is now averaging a 97 So I think if you just watch what your child gets for grades and work with the teacher to see how they can get help if they need it, no punishing needed.

If they dont hand in homework or are lazy, then they dont deserve any electronics or distractions until they correct that.

That is great. My oldest and youngest are being tested for IEP/504 (there seems to be some grey area where not some teachers here think they are the same and others think they are different. I don't care what the CALL it so long as it WORKS. My oldest is severly depressed and anxious about school right now.)