Wendy & Chuck's PJ and TR Merged 2/4/08 Escape SBP/JIKO: Updated 9/19-Pleasure Island

[caryndisneydiva]

did you see that kirstie kelley has designed a birdcage veil for the disney bridal gown collection? i like ours better, though her's are very chic!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

did you see that kirstie kelley has designed a birdcage veil for the disney bridal gown collection? i like ours better, though her's are very chic!

oooo... yeah, I just checked it out. I don't know how I missed that or how I missed your post I don't like it at all, but that's b/c I don't like the tulle. I prefer the netting look of ours. If I had to go with tulle, I prolly wouldn't have a veil!

So in other news... I'M PANICKED. I'm officially under two months away and I still feel like nothing is done.

First, my frustrations:

My MOH still has not sent the invitation for my January 5th Shower Why? why? why? She's like "no worries, i've got it taken care of" but yet I have ppl asking me why they haven't gotten them yet! eek!

We still do not know exactly who is coming to the wedding. That's right folks, I do not have a count or a number or anything. After DF had all those ppl drop out on him, I felt wretched about it so I offered for him to invite yet some more ppl (even though I have on couple that I desperately want there, who are willing to come and just need an invitation!) So, the person (and family) he invited promised to respond by the weekend. It's now Thrusday and DF HAS NOT followed up. I try to stress the urgency in these matters, but he has no concept at all. I'm about ready to go crazy on my bride-groom!!! This is especially upsetting b/c I have a phone planning session with my planner Kathleen tonight and one of the questions she emailed me was guest count!! Grrrrrrrrrr!

Also, I have not started my fittings yet. My seamstress said she could get them done in aprox. 2 weeks. So I'm not super worried. But I kinda am. I still want to lose 5 more lbs. and tone up a bit more. So I can either see her this weekend or wait until the weekend between xmas and new years. I'm torn on what to do. If I wait, I'll also either have to bring my dress on the plane w/me or ship it ahead to Carolyn Allens. Otherwise, if I did the fitting this weekend, I could send it w/DF's parents at the begining of January as they will be taking the motorhome down to Fort Wilderness. Agggh! What to do, what to do.

Things that are good:

I followed up with Rosie about floral and I'm just awaiting a response. I talked to her in October on the phone, but some things have changed since then so I wanted to follow up.

I do have my phone planning session with Kathleen tonight. I think I'll feel better after that.

The school semester is almost over. I finished a huge presentation last night. I have a final next monday and next tuesday and then I'm done for the semester and feel like I'll really be able to concentrate on getting stuff done.

Okay, those are my stories for now. Nothing too exciting. Just me as time runs out!

 

[Kristen14]

Dont worry, you're not the only one freaking out! I did the same thing when I passed the 2 month mark. I dont have a final head count either... even though our RSVP date was last weekend!

If you're having an escape, does your EM really need an exact number of guests? Because arent you on your own for dinner? If thats the case then assume that your newly invited guests are coming... you can always cancel later.

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Dont worry, you're not the only one freaking out! I did the same thing when I passed the 2 month mark. I dont have a final head count either... even though our RSVP date was last weekend!

If you're having an escape, does your EM really need an exact number of guests? Because arent you on your own for dinner? If thats the case then assume that your newly invited guests are coming... you can always cancel later.

See, I don't know for sure... My planner actually booked my dining for me and gave me my menu options even though I'm an escape bride. She said I could/should coordinate through her.

My RSVP was November 30th and we just blew right past that, now didn't we! Grrrrrrr.

Oh well, I think I'll be more settled once I talk to my planner.

*edit... Thanks for the support too Kristen

 

[Bostonbride6292008]

I kinda feel like I'm in the same boat as you. My MOH hasnt done anything and I mean anything. She hasnt got her dress called me and asked about my bridal shower, bachelorette party nothing and my other BM hasnt heard from her either! I was told dont worry everything will work itself out by family members. So I would take a deep breath and just try and take it all in stride. Everything will work out for you!

 

[lurkyloo]

Our RSVP date was last weekend too (but that's cuz you and I have the same wedding date ) and we also did not get all the replies. Apparently my FSIL told FMIL that she didn't send hers back because "reply cards are just a formality" Why would I put a real, live stamp on the envelope if it was just a formality?!

So I will start calling our no-reply guests next week. I'm not too proud... maybe you can just start calling your DF's guests even though it was s'posed to be his job. I mean, just to get it done...

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Our RSVP date was last weekend too (but that's cuz you and I have the same wedding date ) and we also did not get all the replies. Apparently my FSIL told FMIL that she didn't send hers back because "reply cards are just a formality" Why would I put a real, live stamp on the envelope if it was just a formality?!

So I will start calling our no-reply guests next week. I'm not too proud... maybe you can just start calling your DF's guests even though it was s'posed to be his job. I mean, just to get it done...

I'm not too proud either. I would totally call, other than it's such a unique situation. DF had 3 people back out. That left us with 4 open spots. I felt so bad for him that I encourages him to invite a friend of his along with his wife and kids!! So we didn't actually send out an invite b/c it was so close to the RSVP date. DF just spoke to his friend on the phone. The friend offered to let him know by this past weekend (fast!) but then he didn't. And DF hasn't called. I've been in school all week after work. So.... hopefully he'll call tonight and figure out what's going on! And I'll finally be home to make sure he does.

I actually had to call my own sister yesterday to find out why the heck she hadn't sent her RSVP back. Like dude, you're my sister, you know you're coming, you know mom is paying to make sure you're there, why not just fill the card out when you got the invitation and send it back. There shouldn't even be hesitation in that situation. Her excuse, she's been busy and forgot!
Another couple have booked their flights and I know are coming. She said she'll send it... So really the only ppl who sent back rsvps are our parents, my MOH (who is also FSIL) and the best man. So, I guess when it comes down to it, that's all we really need, lolol. I know ppl are coming, but why can't they just throw the thing back in the mail!!! Like Carrie said, it already has a stamp on it!!

 

[DisneySweetie]

I feel you on the RSVP thing. I didn't have any problems approaching DF's family (they're going to be my family too soon right?). But when it came to his friends that I didn't know, I needed him to do it. Sometimes I would actually queue it up and press TALK on his cell phone and pass it to him. Haahaha! If it was already ringing, he had to talk to them or leave a message right. Other times I would text his friends from his phone pretending to be him. Don't worry, DF knew I was doing it. It's not that DF didn't want to do it, he just didn't feel the need to pester his friends. Sometimes our DFs just don't understand the importance of knowing the guest count earlier than later. Good luck.

 

[caryndisneydiva]

people who don't rsvp just suck. period.

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

I left work at 4:30 yesterday to make it home by 5pm. While I was on the way home I called back my seamstress Virgina. She had left me a message yesterday morning because she hadn't heard from me yet this week. I had been planning on calling her all along yesterday afternoon. We must have been on the same wave length. I asked her about holding off on starting alterations so I could lose a few more pounds and she said that it was fine and that we had plenty of time! I'm still driving to her place tomorrow morning because FMIL wants to the get the red top of evil altered because it doesn't fit quite right. Now, she's not going to wear this top to the wedding anymore banana: ) but she is keeping it so she wants it to fit properly. Whatever. Since we're driving all the way out to Virgina's (it's not that far, but it seems like it b/c I don't venture to that side of town very much anymore!) I'm going to try my dress on with the shoes I bought and some Spanx (if I can find some after work today. Some said that Macy's DOESN'T carry them?? Is that right?) and see how my weight loss up to now affects the fit of the dress. But my official alteration start date will be the end of the month between xmas and new years. I've basically committed myself to either shipping my dress to CA's or taking it carry on. So, I'll be calling CA's tomorrow to see what's what!

I scheduled my phone planning session with Kathleen for 5pm so that it would be as soon as I got home. I didn't want to do it while I was driving since I wanted to be able look at my notes, make new notes and have my computer up with my wedding folder full of information, if needed.

Kathleen called while I was on the other line with a friend of mine and I panicked (I do this sometimes) and hit the wrong option on my iPhone. When you get a call coming in while you're already on the other line, you have the choice to ignore, hold the current line and answer, or end the call and answer the incoming call. So what do I do?? Hit ignore!!! Sometimes I'm an idiot. Srsly! I called her right back and she answered. I told her who I was and she said that she was just leaving me a message. After introductions we got down to business...

First we talked all about the ceremony. I found out one reason that they need a head count even though it's an escape wedding. They want to make sure they have an appropriate set-up. Especially tables and chairs for the cake and champagne reception right at SBP. So even though I still don't have a final number, I've established my own deadline to get it sorted out. I'm giving us until next thrusday. Next Friday I'll be giving our final number to Kathleen and that's it.

We also talked about music, which I know is huge for a lot of you ladies. Really, I just want this wedding to happen. I'm really not that invested in the details. At first I was going to pick out all these different Disney songs, but then DF pointed out that with the traditional wedding music it'll be more of a this is it kinda moment and that it will also act as a trigger
for the guests that this is it, this is that particular moment associated with that music. However, the one thing we are checking on is to see if the disney music department has sheet music for spectromagic! DF and I would love that for the recessional. I said that a mix of disney music for the cake and champagne reception is fine. DF and I are NOT having a first dance. Idk, it's just not that important to us. I asked DF if he wanted to have a dance with his mom, and he asked if I was dancing with my step-father. I said no, so he said no he doesn't want to have a dance with his mom! Well, talking with Kathleen last night we decided that they could still dance informally if they wanted, but we won't "plan" on it. I think it would make DF's mom really happy if she got a dance with her 'boy'. Whatever.

I also asked about the guys carrying Tommy Guns and she said that as long as they look like toy guns, there shouldn't be problem, but this was certainly the first time anyone has every asked for something like this. Then she questioned DF's motives for wanting 'traditional' music for the ceremony, but wanting carry a toy gun. It was quite funny b/c I started to used my standard line that this is the only thing that DF has asked for, but looking back it's NOT the only thing he's asked for. If fact, he's asked for quite a few things (not that it bothers me) and I can't explain his strange decisions or my willingness to go along any more, other than to say that I love him and I'm a sucker and I'd probably let him have or do whatever he wants b/c it's not THAT important to me. Really, all I care about is that I'm in Disney, entering into a marriage with the man I've loved for my whole adult life, and that my pictures look good (i'm a scrapbooker, what can I say )

Finally, we talked about food. Now this was important to me. As I said before, we're having a reception dinner at Jiko. We reserved half the wine room through Kathleen. More reasons why they need a head count... they actually include the cost and the bill on consumption bar in the beo that we pay ahead of time. I had a couple of questions about the menu and the table set up that Kathleen is supposed to be getting back to me on.

All in all, I'd say it was productive. There is still a lot to do, especially on my end. But I just keep making lists and plugging away at it. Next week is my last week of the semester and I have two finals. After that I will be free, FREE to focus more on the wedding. I hope to crank as much out as I can before school starts back up in January. I think we'll be able to manage.

idk, I guess I'm still stressed. I just noticed that my whole tone sounds like I'm trying to convince myself that everything is okay. I can't pinpoint what I'm worried about, just that I am!

 

[Keira1387]

We had problems with RSVPing for the engagement party, and I am not looking forward to when it comes time for them to RSVp to the wedding. I know it will be a mess. But, the thing about Disney is that they will make sure everything turns out great. Your wedding will turn out beautiful!

 

[Kristen14]

Thanks for posting about your phone meeting. I have mine on Wednesday and I'm looking to prepare as many questions/topics as I can think of!!

I'm doing a mix of Disney songs for my ceremony. It's really the ONLY part of the entire weekend that will be Disney themed. I'm walking down the aisle to the wedding processional from the Sound of Music... I grew up on that movie and I almost cried when I saw it as a song suggestion!!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Thanks for posting about your phone meeting. I have mine on Wednesday and I'm looking to prepare as many questions/topics as I can think of!!

Yeah, I would recommend having questions ready. You planner will probably also have questions for you. If I was more prepared, rather than just having a check list of questions, it might have been helpful to have had more a worksheet... like something printed out with each of your questions with room after each to write the outcome rather than having to scribble your notes seperate from the questions. I feel pretty confident though that Kathleen made note of everything we talked about... but just in case; you never know, right?

 

[Kristen14]

Good idea about the worksheet! Was there anything she asked you that you didnt expect to talk about??

 

[caryndisneydiva]

did you guys request a 2nd phone session? or was it your planners ideas?

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

did you guys request a 2nd phone session? or was it your planners ideas?

This was my first phone session. I finally faxed my planning worksheets in the end of last week?? And we set up the call for yesterday. I know I get a second session as part of the escape package, but I bet that we'll be able to hammer out the rest of the details via email.

Oh, and Caryn... if you're a canidate, get the Lasik. It was soooooooo worth it. I wasn't a canidate at first because of dry eyes, but with eye drop therapy we were able to correct the condition and go forward with the surgery. It's the most amazing thing ever being able to see the clock in the middle of the night, see in the shower, see all the time without fighting with contacts or my glasses steaming up in the winter. My biggest fear was that I wasn't going to be able to get my contacts in for my wedding day and that I would have to wear my glasses (which I liked.. a nice pair of D&Gs) and I really didn't want that to happen. I'm sooooo happy that I did it. Even if I am paying it off (0% interest) for the next year.

 

[caryndisneydiva]

i'm so nervous about lasik! what if the dr slips and whammo, i'm blind? my friends dad had complications and is blind in one eye now...i need it, one of my old business partners thought i took my glasses off when i went home, like they were an accessory!!! i WISH! was it expensive?

 

[Kristen14]

you can send me your nice pair of D&G's if you dont need them anymore lol... j/k!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

i'm so nervous about lasik! what if the dr slips and whammo, i'm blind? my friends dad had complications and is blind in one eye now...i need it, one of my old business partners thought i took my glasses off when i went home, like they were an accessory!!! i WISH! was it expensive?

It was expensive and I actually went with someone more expensive than with one of the dicount places that advertise on the radio all the time. I was able to get 0% finacing for a year though. I was completely freaked out about doing it too, but it was almost a spur of the moment type thing. I had always thought about it, but one day I woke up, fought with my contacts, said enough is enough and committed. The great thing is that the machine they use is very accurate and the one they used on me uses a map of your eye and tracks. It will pause or stop and shut down completely if your eye moves at all or too much. But I was still scared, so I understand. They gave me a teddy bear to hold onto while they did it, I thought that was nice. Poor teddy, I was stangling him!

you can send me your nice pair of D&G's if you dont need them anymore lol... j/k!

Actually, I've been meaning to go on an ebay blitz and sell some stuff. My frames are among those goodies. Why not get a couple buck out of them. They sure did cost enough when I bought them (without insurance!)

 

[caryndisneydiva]

It was expensive and I actually went with someone more expensive than with one of the dicount places that advertise on the radio all the time. I was able to get 0% finacing for a year though. I was completely freaked out about doing it too, but it was almost a spur of the moment type thing. I had always thought about it, but one day I woke up, fought with my contacts, said enough is enough and committed. The great thing is that the machine they use is very accurate and the one they used on me uses a map of your eye and tracks. It will pause or stop and shut down completely if your eye moves at all or too much. But I was still scared, so I understand. They gave me a teddy bear to hold onto while they did it, I thought that was nice. Poor teddy, I was stangling him!

good to know...i'm seriously considering it...i wouldn't go with a radio guy either, i think i'd pay the best most expensive person in houston to do it...did it hurt?

Actually, I've been meaning to go on an ebay blitz and sell some stuff. My frames are among those goodies. Why not get a couple buck out of them. They sure did cost enough when I bought them (without insurance!)

i have 2 prs of chanel frames, a pair of prada frames that are so old they're almost vintage and versace sunglasses. they are ridiculously expensive...especially when you're blind and your lenses cost more than the frames!!!