Thank you so much for your input! I am really torn about the commute. On the one hand, it's not too terrible since DH and I work together-- If we do this he will drive mornings, I'll drive evenings. The sharing makes it easier - plus the carpool lane. My FIL (boss) will be closing the store earlier before traffic hits (doesn't account for accidents though). Kids are the major factor. If we move, we can afford a house with a yard and a pool. If we stay, it's just the condo. Which, of course, is not hardly the worst thing in the world. But I see the kids that live in our building riding their bikes back and forth in the small parking lot, and I want more than that. Plus we don't know what will happen when it's time for school. I'm trying not to base it too much off of a situation at least 7 years in the future.... so much could change by then-- and who knows? Kids may not even be in the starts for us. But even still if it does happen: by then, I could be working from home (thank goodness for the family business where I can do keep the books and do payroll from home a few days a week) or even our side business may be enough by then for me to work on that full time (again from home). I just don't know... Gaaahhhhh making adult decisions is hardddd! I completely understand about the break to recenter, refocus, and spend time with the kids Please don't hesitate to drop in and let us know how you're doing! That's great that you're down - and also a great lesson You're awesome for volunteering!!!