- Sep 29, 2014
Thank you so much for your input! I am really torn about the commute. On the one hand, it's not too terrible since DH and I work together-- If we do this he will drive mornings, I'll drive evenings. The sharing makes it easier - plus the carpool lane. My FIL (boss) will be closing the store earlier before traffic hits (doesn't account for accidents though). Kids are the major factor. If we move, we can afford a house with a yard and a pool. If we stay, it's just the condo. Which, of course, is not hardly the worst thing in the world. But I see the kids that live in our building riding their bikes back and forth in the small parking lot, and I want more than that. Plus we don't know what will happen when it's time for school. I'm trying not to base it too much off of a situation at least 7 years in the future.... so much could change by then-- and who knows? Kids may not even be in the starts for us. But even still if it does happen: by then, I could be working from home (thank goodness for the family business where I can do keep the books and do payroll from home a few days a week) or even our side business may be enough by then for me to work on that full time (again from home). I just don't know... Gaaahhhhh making adult decisions is hardddd!I had to do close to an hour's commute a few years ago for 6 months - I struggled with it - The drive itself was mostly ok as it was straight highway driving for the most part - but it was the distance that got to me over time or if there was an accident and there was no choice but to just sit and crawl through it - also having the kids made it more difficult for me - it meant they were at my parents for breakfast and then a late pick up close to dinner time and then I was so much further away from them if anything happened in the day (I know you don't have that concern yet - but you may want to think about it if kids are in your future plans/hopes). I found that when I stopped after getting my transfer back to the coast that was when I actually noticed what a toll it had taken on me and my body - although I was able to mostly push through it at the time because that is what we do when we have to. Sooooo whilst a one day trial will give you a taste - a full work week doing it may give you a better idea.... Lots of people do it I know - lots of people drive from here on the coast about 90minutes to work in Brisbane every day.
I completely understand about the break to recenter, refocus, and spend time with the kids Please don't hesitate to drop in and let us know how you're doing!I really haven't made good progress this month or in a year really - Whilst I have gone up and down with weight - I really haven't lost anything. I am really upset with myself by this. I am feeling very down about it all and what I see for myself in the future - This is probably why I haven't been posting much this month - I just feel awful and like I have not been living up to the reason I joined you all in the first place. I have been contemplating sitting next month out. I am frustrated with myself - I SHOULD be able to do this ---- I NEED to be able to do this - but here I am a year later - back to no activity and eating crap way too often. Sooo .... I think I will take a break from posting and goal setting on here next month and just see if I can get myself back to a point where I feel I can honestly contribute to the QOTDs - I may drop by a little to check on you all. I am going to enjoy some time with kids over this break. March sometimes sneaks up on me emotionally as well as it has an anniversary that is now just a sad reminder of what could/should have been
That's great that you're down - and also a great lessonI am down 4 lbs this month so I'm checking in at 80% for the month. That's not too bad all things considered. I have learned not to be too hard on myself and I am stronger than I give myself credit.
I can host for April if we don't have one.
You're awesome for volunteering!!!