Wedding Dilemma--Am I Wrong??--Big update on pg. 3

[grlpwrd]

Ack..I knew there was some Hedonism II vibe going on.

Thanks for the update.

 

[Ziva]

How right you are! Well I just talked with DH tonight and mentioned the perspective I've gotten from all of your posts here. Now the story has taken on an even more bizarre twist!

I told DH that there MUST be more to the story than what I was hearing and he finally admitted to me that there was. Apparently this "friend" booked the wedding at a couples only resort. Here's the problem. There's another (female) friend of his from college that he wanted to invite, but she doesn't have a date. So since his friend couldn't stay at the resort as a single, DH's "friend" decided that DH could be her date!!!! DH and this girl are expected to share a room It's supposed to be ok because the girl is gay. I don't care what she is, the point is that as his WIFE I am excluded from the wedding so he can act as some other woman's DATE!!! Not to mention that who wants to be roommates with someone (male or female) for an entire week that they don't even know???

I am shocked and beyond upset now. DH said he didn't want me to tell me because he knows how unacceptable it is and didn't want me to hate his friend. A little late for that now!

Anyway, thought you would all appreciate hearing this "little" update. And for what it's worth, neither one of us will be attending the wedding.

That's crazy! What a nut. Glad you found out the real story though and I would've been upset too.

 

[pfishgirl]

Thanks for the update !!!


Now, too bad you still can't go to the Caribbean.. make the friend pay for all of your DH's expenses and then you both pay for yours and then accidentally "forget" he should show up at the wedding while the two of you are on the beach !!

 

[Stacerita]

Ugh, that so called friend of your husband is just wrong. To book the guests like that and then just think it would be ok for your husband to share a room with someone else would be ok. What a jerk. The whole thing sounded fishy from the start and it got worst. Can't believe your husband is friends with someone like that. If I remember correctly you said they were friends from when they were young. I guess your husband grew up and learned what was acceptable, the friend didn't.

You have every right to not like him and you were not wrong in the least bit. Your update proves how right you were.

You are a lucky woman to have such a stand up guy.


PS - Thank your husband for me.

 

[DawnCt1]

How right you are! Well I just talked with DH tonight and mentioned the perspective I've gotten from all of your posts here. Now the story has taken on an even more bizarre twist!

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Wow! What a dirt bag this guy is!!! I wouldn't even send him a CARD let alone a wedding gift. Good riddance to that guy!

 

[llij]

Oh my! This certainly did take an interesting twist! As another poster said, thank your DH for us. He sounds like a wonderful man!

 

[Tinkertude]

So, I don't know much about Godfathers, but can you fire one? You did say in an early post he was your childs God father, right? Ya gotta love the DIS!!!!

 

[Wishing on a star]

OMG!!!!

 

[S. C.]

So, I don't know much about Godfathers, but can you fire one? You did say in an early post he was your childs God father, right? Ya gotta love the DIS!!!!

My thoughts exactly!

 

[barkley]

got to wonder about the bride who is going along with this plan-or would even permit your husband to "stand up" for her groom if she did'nt find out about it until their arrival (yeah, i would have wanted my husband's best man to be the guy who left his wife and child at home for a week alone in a room with a woman he did'nt know, NOT). but i have to think she knows because she has to be aware of the "sleeping arrangements" for her guests.

i would'nt worry about missing this wedding-i suspect he will have several more you could attend.

p.s. if nothing else, your daughter will learn how NOT TO BEHAVE from this godparent.

 

[poohandwendy]

This has to be the most bizarre wedding thread I have ever read, LOL!

I cannot even imagine thinking this arrangement up...what an absurd idea. I would send my best wishes and write their names in pencil in your address book because it doesn't sound like they (or at least one of them doesn't) respect the idea of marriage very much.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

thanks for the update!

I figured there was more to the story--glad you heard it!

 

[tevagirl]

If the bride-to-be is aware of this scheme then they deserve one another. If she isn't then I pity her. What a dirt bag.

 

[scrump]

How strange, sounds like a plan to cause trouble, which would definitely highlight previous jealousy issues you might've had with him. You've just got to wonder how people think this is OK?

Thanks for the update!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Gee, what a guy you want to stay friends with....NOT! Heck forget about the pencil, I would get out the eraser.

 

[S. C.]

Gee, what a guy you want to stay friends with....NOT! Heck forget about the pencil, I would get out the eraser.

 

[Caradana]

Major league dirtbag, though honestly, if I were you, I might not be thrilled with your husband, either. Telling you a half-truth so you won't hate his scumbag buddy was a definite lapse in judgment.

 

[Disney Doll]

I also wanted to thank everyone for the compliments to my husband for turning down the invitation. I know I'm pretty lucky to have such a great guy who puts family first, but it's always nice to be reminded once in a while!

And he's cute too!!!!!!!

In all seriousness, I can see why your DH's friend is on his second wife. I wonder what his third wedding will be like? Maybe you'll get invited to that one!

If DH has made his decision, I'd stick with it, Maybe it'll be a good example for this joker as to how a marriage is supposed to be.

 

[Beth76]

Major league dirtbag, though honestly, if I were you, I might not be thrilled with your husband, either. Telling you a half-truth so you won't hate his scumbag buddy was a definite lapse in judgment.

Eh, not really. He was just trying to protect his buddy. It's not like he was trying to go along with the plan and gave up. From the get-go he wasn't going to do it. I really don't think it's a big deal for the husband.

I have to say though, that this story kind of makes me laugh. I mean this guy is just a moron. Though I'm sorry your feelings were hurt, OP.

 

[Disney Doll]

Major league dirtbag, though honestly, if I were you, I might not be thrilled with your husband, either. Telling you a half-truth so you won't hate his scumbag buddy was a definite lapse in judgment.

Nah...sometimes it's easier not to tell the whole story. I understand the DH not wanting the OP to know that. He wasn't going to bite for it, so it made no difference to him.