WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 14

[EllaEnchanted]

Good Morning Everybody

I got back home last night and Ian and I had a lovely times at Invergarry and good to see our old friends who own the hotel, turn up to a beautiful hotel...

They were over the moon to find out that inspector told them that their hotel is 4 stars....wow...

Weather was mixed up and we saw lots of beautiful view with scene...

Loch lomond, loch ness lakes, Invergarry lake look like Scotland map!!!

will put photos in slide show... will show you later....

now I feel miserable as drove home with heavy raining last night... now raining is on and off...

I am going out to meet friend later so will catch up the news later...

I twisted my knee after walking up the mountains to see the view but path was lot of rocking!! very painful to walk huh...

Scottishwee35

Welcome back Deborah....what an awesome time you have had and YES I'll be looking for those pictures.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Wow Deb, that was wonderful. Take note Michelle!!!

Hey thanks Marilyn, it's straight from the heart.

 

[HollyTyler]

Oh Chelle, it's going to be ok. You have to realize that you don't have total control and it's ok. Just let it go. This is your lesson that you need to experience.

You should feel proud of the work that you have done. It does not matter what others perceive. It only matters what you know to be true in your heart. And everyone that loves you....family and friends....know that too.

Let go of the stress....what works out will and what doesn't wasn't meant to in the first place. Accept it and let it be.

Look at all the pluses in your life and be greatful for them. Stop looking at what you don't have and still want because you probably don't need it anyway.

I know, easier said than done. I get it. You work so hard, you strive to achieve something nice and it doesn't happen for you. You have earned it and yet there is no compensation. You get so frustrated and it brings you down. Wallow in it for a day....then pick yourself up and start all over again. You're better than that, don't let it beat you.

Patience is another virtue and a good lesson. There are delays but in time I think you'll see a good end result.

As an example....I'm pretty sure that John and I lost all opportunity to build our home on our property in Delaware. We wiped ourselves out financially when mom died and we had to cover so many expenses. The economy has trashed since then and no one is lending. IndyMac has been bought out and they are holding our loan for the land and further construction. We don't have a dime left in the budget each month because of the ongoing and increasing expenses for Ray every month. We have one year left before we have to decide to put it on the market to sell. We'll never see any return on it and we'll be lucky to break even.

Oh well. Life is real. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and whenever John is able to retire now, even that's in question lately, we'll just go to Delaware and get an apartment to live in. What's the big deal. We'll probably be too old to care for a house anyway and it'll be easier to live in an apartment. We don't give up our dreams, we just make some adjustments. Life is all about compromise....there's your plan, His plan and then somewhere in the middle is reality.

You're young, attractive, intelligent, witty, charming, loyal, giving, so funny and are loved by many. You can do anything. It's time to make some lemonade.

Hugs and much love....

I couldn't have said it better myself! DITTO!!!!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

LOOK WHAT JUST CAME IN THE MAIL TODAY!!!! Michelle, you gotta have faith!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Not sure if you can read that or not. It's not a form letter. It says he's going to help get this ball rolling. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!

 

[Tink rules]

Thanks everyone...

rough night... I'll be back later to chat...

 

[Tink rules]

LOOK WHAT JUST CAME IN THE MAIL TODAY!!!! Michelle, you gotta have faith!

Not sure if you can read that or not. It's not a form letter. It says he's going to help get this ball rolling. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!

I got it Deb!!!!

It's a good start!!!

Lets see who else you hear from...

 

[HollyTyler]

LOOK WHAT JUST CAME IN THE MAIL TODAY!!!! Michelle, you gotta have faith!

WOW, that was FAST!!!!

 

[granmaz]

Holly, you're taking over Facebook. Get yourself a farm on Farmville!!!

 

[nskjerven]

Oh Chelle, it's going to be ok. You have to realize that you don't have total control and it's ok. Just let it go. This is your lesson that you need to experience.

You should feel proud of the work that you have done. It does not matter what others perceive. It only matters what you know to be true in your heart. And everyone that loves you....family and friends....know that too.

Let go of the stress....what works out will and what doesn't wasn't meant to in the first place. Accept it and let it be.

Look at all the pluses in your life and be greatful for them. Stop looking at what you don't have and still want because you probably don't need it anyway.

I know, easier said than done. I get it. You work so hard, you strive to achieve something nice and it doesn't happen for you. You have earned it and yet there is no compensation. You get so frustrated and it brings you down. Wallow in it for a day....then pick yourself up and start all over again. You're better than that, don't let it beat you.

Patience is another virtue and a good lesson. There are delays but in time I think you'll see a good end result.

As an example....I'm pretty sure that John and I lost all opportunity to build our home on our property in Delaware. We wiped ourselves out financially when mom died and we had to cover so many expenses. The economy has trashed since then and no one is lending. IndyMac has been bought out and they are holding our loan for the land and further construction. We don't have a dime left in the budget each month because of the ongoing and increasing expenses for Ray every month. We have one year left before we have to decide to put it on the market to sell. We'll never see any return on it and we'll be lucky to break even.

Oh well. Life is real. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and whenever John is able to retire now, even that's in question lately, we'll just go to Delaware and get an apartment to live in. What's the big deal. We'll probably be too old to care for a house anyway and it'll be easier to live in an apartment. We don't give up our dreams, we just make some adjustments. Life is all about compromise....there's your plan, His plan and then somewhere in the middle is reality.

You're young, attractive, intelligent, witty, charming, loyal, giving, so funny and are loved by many. You can do anything. It's time to make some lemonade.

Hugs and much love....

Deb, good perspective and by sharing with us your story it does make it seem like we are all in the same boat and that makes us all feel better. Thank you for sharing your life with us

GO SPEED GO!!!

I need to get over to FB to get the play by play.

In the above thought, I'm going to share here too.

We had a bad meltdown last night and I decided to stay home from the track today because I was so upset. So sad, no updates.

Sometimes being the mommy and doing "everything" that makes the family run smoothly without being appreicated takes its toll.

That is the crux of the issues from last night and more this morning. No sense in rehashing the details. I just could not be the bigger person in this fight one more time so I called a time out for myself.

I'm home today alone. Crying and feeling sad. Whatever, you can't make people value what you do for them, they either do or don't. I should know that by now

 

[HollyTyler]

Holly, you're taking over Facebook. Get yourself a farm on Farmville!!!

Maybe. I joined some pirate thing, but can't remember what it was and haven't visited it since the first day.

 

[HollyTyler]

Deb, good perspective and by sharing with us your story it does make it seem like we are all in the same boat and that makes us all feel better. Thank you for sharing your life with us




In the above thought, I'm going to share here too.

We had a bad meltdown last night and I decided to stay home from the track today because I was so upset. So sad, no updates.

Sometimes being the mommy and doing "everything" that makes the family run smoothly without being appreicated takes its toll.

That is the crux of the issues from last night and more this morning. No sense in rehashing the details. I just could not be the bigger person in this fight one more time so I called a time out for myself.

I'm home today alone. Crying and feeling sad. Whatever, you can't make people value what you do for them, they either do or don't. I should know that by now

 

[nskjerven]

thanks Holly. You are a mom you may have found this out yet and I know it's harder with Tyler's dad to help you (or sometimes to fight everything you try to do to help Tyler) so hugs back to you

 

[HollyTyler]

NEWS FLASH! My yucky neighbors didn't even last A MONTH! The owner of the house is trying to kick them out because they haven't paid him. I couldn't hear all the details, but the owner came over just now, went inside and there was a HUGE fight with the guy that lives there (wife and kids are out, fortunately). They were yelling so loud, I was sure they'd start throwing punches! The owner told him to leave unless he pays. I suspect I'll be seeing lots of action soon! YAHOOOOO!!!! I just feel sad for the kids though.

 

[HollyTyler]

thanks Holly. You are a mom you may have found this out yet and I know it's harder with Tyler's dad to help you (or sometimes to fight everything you try to do to help Tyler) so hugs back to you

It's very similar Nan. He's just clueless and has no idea all I do. He just picks Tyler up, has playtime for 3 days, and I pick him up and bring him home. I really hope having this new baby around will open his eyes, but I suspect his wife will be doing everything.

Hang in there, I know it's hard.

 

[granmaz]

Deb, good perspective and by sharing with us your story it does make it seem like we are all in the same boat and that makes us all feel better. Thank you for sharing your life with us




In the above thought, I'm going to share here too.

We had a bad meltdown last night and I decided to stay home from the track today because I was so upset. So sad, no updates.

Sometimes being the mommy and doing "everything" that makes the family run smoothly without being appreicated takes its toll.

That is the crux of the issues from last night and more this morning. No sense in rehashing the details. I just could not be the bigger person in this fight one more time so I called a time out for myself.

I'm home today alone. Crying and feeling sad. Whatever, you can't make people value what you do for them, they either do or don't. I should know that by now

Nan, I'm sorry you are feeling like this. I so completely understand where you are coming from, so empathise.

I feel being a 'home' mom makes this a much bigger thing as the being 'home' and as you say doing 'everything' that makes the family run smoothly is (was in my case) your job and important to you. You still need to feel appreciated, but m ore often than not it is all just expected!! If you have a 'proper' job there many things that make one feel appreciated.

I hope your alone day clears some of the bad feelings. Do some things just for you.

 

[nskjerven]

Chances are he won't see it, because I really think that most men just don't they are not wired that way.

I'm sure I'll be better, if not today then by tomorrow.

I tell ya, I'd like to get on an airplane land at MCO and get on a ship today....

ALONE

I'm really happy that I decided to join Monica and crew for Tortola. It is helping me keep sane knowing that I can have something just for me in the near future

 

[nskjerven]

Nan, I'm sorry you are feeling like this. I so completely understand where you are coming from, so empathise.

I feel being a 'home' mom makes this a much bigger thing as the being 'home' and as you say doing 'everything' that makes the family run smoothly is (was in my case) your job and important to you. You still need to feel appreciated, but m ore often than not it is all just expected!! If you have a 'proper' job there many things that make one feel appreciated.

I hope your alone day clears some of the bad feelings. Do some things just for you.

I think you hit the nail on the head Marilyn. With working outside you do get positive reinforcements, even if it is just a paycheck. Staying home while it has been very good for me to get rid of that heavy weighted feeling I had talking care of all my clients, has not given me a sense of value from anyone else but me. Paul has even said it's ok, but he has not gone beyond that and said it is esential and of course the kids just don't get it. they are too little. they do however shake in fear whenever we talk about me going back to work. they dread the idea of having to go into daycare. they even didn't like the cruise kids clubs, because they have ALWAYS had the good fortune to be cared for at home. which means their needs are always the top priority.

like I said, I'm so glad I have tortola on the front. It is my little at the end of the tunnel.

btw, Paul has an interview on Monday for a real Full Time job First real interview he has been able to land in almost a year. The SONY gig has extended until 8/7/09, who knows if it will go beyond that. Please be thinking good thoughts for him on Monday.

 

[HollyTyler]

Nan, sending good luck wishes Paul's way for his interview on Monday!

 

[granmaz]

I think you hit the nail on the head Marilyn. With working outside you do get positive reinforcements, even if it is just a paycheck. Staying home while it has been very good for me to get rid of that heavy weighted feeling I had talking care of all my clients, has not given me a sense of value from anyone else but me. Paul has even said it's ok, but he has not gone beyond that and said it is esential and of course the kids just don't get it. they are too little. they do however shake in fear whenever we talk about me going back to work. they dread the idea of having to go into daycare. they even didn't like the cruise kids clubs, because they have ALWAYS had the good fortune to be cared for at home. which means their needs are always the top priority.

like I said, I'm so glad I have tortola on the front. It is my little at the end of the tunnel.

btw, Paul has an interview on Monday for a real Full Time job First real interview he has been able to land in almost a year. The SONY gig has extended until 8/7/09, who knows if it will go beyond that. Please be thinking good thoughts for him on Monday.

Oh, all the best to Paul for his interview. The worry about his job can't help things.