WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 14

[iankh]

I think you hit the nail on the head Marilyn. With working outside you do get positive reinforcements, even if it is just a paycheck. Staying home while it has been very good for me to get rid of that heavy weighted feeling I had talking care of all my clients, has not given me a sense of value from anyone else but me. Paul has even said it's ok, but he has not gone beyond that and said it is esential and of course the kids just don't get it. they are too little. they do however shake in fear whenever we talk about me going back to work. they dread the idea of having to go into daycare. they even didn't like the cruise kids clubs, because they have ALWAYS had the good fortune to be cared for at home. which means their needs are always the top priority.

like I said, I'm so glad I have tortola on the front. It is my little at the end of the tunnel.

btw, Paul has an interview on Monday for a real Full Time job First real interview he has been able to land in almost a year. The SONY gig has extended until 8/7/09, who knows if it will go beyond that. Please be thinking good thoughts for him on Monday.

Nan, you're in my thoughts.

Good news for Paul, I'm sending him some good vibes.

 

[nskjerven]

Nan, sending good luck wishes Paul's way for his interview on Monday!

Oh, all the best to Paul for his interview. The worry about his job can't help things.

thanks for the good thoughts.

The funny thing about worrying about it for him is that I just feel like I should chuck the staying at home thing and get a full time job myself. There are always jobs in my field, so it would be much easier for me than it is for him, but it just makes me mad that I'd be the one giving up what I have wanted to do for so long I think working for 12 years has been long enough. I'm not saying I'll never want to go back, but now, I just want to have a more balanced pace for myself.

 

[nskjerven]

thanks Ian. Been thinking about you okay you and the fruity drinks just kidding love ya mean it

Oh yeah, book people...I just saw The Time Travellers Wife is coming to the theater mid August. Who is going? Me for sure

 

[granmaz]

This is a currednt advert on tv over here. Do you think this might be John and me in a few years?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgXJlo8OeBk

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Deb, good perspective and by sharing with us your story it does make it seem like we are all in the same boat and that makes us all feel better. Thank you for sharing your life with us


Happy to. Thanks for being there to listen.


In the above thought, I'm going to share here too.

We had a bad meltdown last night and I decided to stay home from the track today because I was so upset. So sad, no updates.

Sometimes being the mommy and doing "everything" that makes the family run smoothly without being appreicated takes its toll.

That is the crux of the issues from last night and more this morning. No sense in rehashing the details. I just could not be the bigger person in this fight one more time so I called a time out for myself.

I'm home today alone. Crying and feeling sad. Whatever, you can't make people value what you do for them, they either do or don't. I should know that by now

Nan, I have to tell you something that Sandi told me a long time ago. When we were younger and all lived together, Sandi would hear me complain about telling John 15 times that I needed him to do something for me. Sandi told me that he just doesn't remember because it's not happening to him. She said that if I wanted it done I had to make it affect him....then he'll realize it and take care of it. Ya know, I tried it and it worked.

Time has changed all that anyway. Now John just says, what do you need me to do? Then he just does it.

Because you have things running smoothly with the family life, it doesn't affect Paul or the kids. If per chance you make Paul be responsible for a certain task because you're just not going to be available at that time....an urgent appointment with a girfriend or spa date....then he will have to handle it directly. He'll surely learn to appreciate what you do so that he doesn't have to. Try it. What have you got to lose?

I'm really glad that you're coming to Tortola with us. You definitely deserve some Nan time with pampering!!! Many hugs with love....now bring on the Rum!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

NEWS FLASH! My yucky neighbors didn't even last A MONTH! The owner of the house is trying to kick them out because they haven't paid him. I couldn't hear all the details, but the owner came over just now, went inside and there was a HUGE fight with the guy that lives there (wife and kids are out, fortunately). They were yelling so loud, I was sure they'd start throwing punches! The owner told him to leave unless he pays. I suspect I'll be seeing lots of action soon! YAHOOOOO!!!! I just feel sad for the kids though.

DING DONG THE WITCH IS DEAD....

Glad to hear the news. Sooooooo happy for you.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

btw, Paul has an interview on Monday for a real Full Time job First real interview he has been able to land in almost a year. The SONY gig has extended until 8/7/09, who knows if it will go beyond that. Please be thinking good thoughts for him on Monday.

I'm starting those good thoughts right now and will keep them going for Paul during his interview on Monday.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

This is a currednt advert on tv over here. Do you think this might be John and me in a few years?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgXJlo8OeBk

....Oh my goodness, how funny is that...I definitely see a resemblance to you and John.

 

[iankh]

I've had a really crappy day.

I subbed 2 WW meetings this morning which was fine. I decided to hit Costco after the meetings to get my errands done and have the rest of the day clear.

I had planned to do some serious work on Mouse Manager this afternoon and get my new release ready for testing this weekend.

I got home from Costco, turned off the burglar alarm and hit the bathroom on the main floor of our unit.

The alarm suddenly went off. I probably hadn't punched in the PIN number correctly.

I try to open the bathroom door ... nothing. It won't open. I keep turning the doorknob, but the little thingie that clicks the door closed, isn't moving. The bathroom door wasn't locked. It was just closed.

The alarm is blaring, the phone goes, it's the alarm company. Of course I can't get to the phone.

My cell phone goes off because it's the back up number. My phone is outside the bathroom.

The alarm finally stopped after about 10 minutes and then about 5 minutes after that, the doorbell goes off, because the police are at my house.

I guess they checked all the doors and saw the place was locked and left.

During all this, I'm trying to get out of the bathroom. If I was outside the bathroom, it would have been easy enough to slip the lock with a credit card, but I'm stuck inside.

Oh, and Sukie is out for the day and would not be back until about 8 PM.

I frantically rummage through the medicine cabinets, and all I have are two pairs of scissors for trimming mustaches and beards, a pair of tweezers, and nail clippers that have a built-in nail file.

I have my wallet and try various cards, but again, because I'm inside the bathroom they don't do any good.

I finally, possibly over an hour later freed myself, using a combination of the scissors and nail file.

I also managed to really cut up about 3 fingers on one hand from having to apply pressure to the open scissors. So there was blood over the door, over the implements and over several credit cards! I guess I was too focused at the time to realize that I was cutting myself.

I did lapse into a rather male moment at one point and punched the door, then cradling my hand wondered what that was all about and where it came from.

So, I'm going to give up on the rest of the day and just play.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

I've had a really crappy day.

I subbed 2 WW meetings this morning which was fine. I decided to hit Costco after the meetings to get my errands done and have the rest of the day clear.

I had planned to do some serious work on Mouse Manager this afternoon and get my new release ready for testing this weekend.

I got home from Costco, turned off the burglar alarm and hit the bathroom on the main floor of our unit.

The alarm suddenly went off. I probably hadn't punched in the PIN number correctly.

I try to open the bathroom door ... nothing. It won't open. I keep turning the doorknob, but the little thingie that clicks the door closed, isn't moving. The bathroom door wasn't locked. It was just closed.

The alarm is blaring, the phone goes, it's the alarm company. Of course I can't get to the phone.

My cell phone goes off because it's the back up number. My phone is outside the bathroom.

The alarm finally stopped after about 10 minutes and then about 5 minutes after that, the doorbell goes off, because the police are at my house.

I guess they checked all the doors and saw the place was locked and left.

During all this, I'm trying to get out of the bathroom. If I was outside the bathroom, it would have been easy enough to slip the lock with a credit card, but I'm stuck inside.

Oh, and Sukie is out for the day and would not be back until about 8 PM.

I frantically rummage through the medicine cabinets, and all I have are two pairs of scissors for trimming mustaches and beards, a pair of tweezers, and nail clippers that have a built-in nail file.

I have my wallet and try various cards, but again, because I'm inside the bathroom they don't do any good.

I finally, possibly over an hour later freed myself, using a combination of the scissors and nail file.

I also managed to really cut up about 3 fingers on one hand from having to apply pressure to the open scissors. So there was blood over the door, over the implements and over several credit cards! I guess I was too focused at the time to realize that I was cutting myself.

I did lapse into a rather male moment at one point and punched the door, then cradling my hand wondered what that was all about and where it came from.

So, I'm going to give up on the rest of the day and just play.

OMG what are they putting in the water these days? Ian, that is the MOST horrible day I could ever think of. I'm so, so sorry this happened to you. Don't hate me, I laughed so hard just now reading one calamity after another. It's hard to believe, it's right out of a movie. I can see the scene in my head and I'm very fearful for you....I mean it. But as I keep reading, I'm still laughing.

I'm just happy that you finally made it out of there, bleeding, but out.

Hugs sweetie, you need them too!

 

[ibouncetoo]

Oh my goodness are the planets in some sort of wierd alignment? We need a lot of this

and quite a bit of this

for our little DIS family here!

And here's a cheer of support for Paul on Monday too!

Oh yeah, book people...I just saw The Time Travellers Wife is coming to the theater mid August. Who is going? Me for sure

I saw the trailer a week or so ago and am sooo excited about this movie. I jumped (and probably made some kind of noise) when the trailer started and got one of those looks from Peg ( ). It looks like they've done a good job with it from what I can tell by the trailer.

off to buy some groceries..........
(not a good week diet-wise when there are no supplies in the house)

.

 

[gydell]

I've had a really crappy day.

I subbed 2 WW meetings this morning which was fine. I decided to hit Costco after the meetings to get my errands done and have the rest of the day clear.

I had planned to do some serious work on Mouse Manager this afternoon and get my new release ready for testing this weekend.

I got home from Costco, turned off the burglar alarm and hit the bathroom on the main floor of our unit.

The alarm suddenly went off. I probably hadn't punched in the PIN number correctly.

I try to open the bathroom door ... nothing. It won't open. I keep turning the doorknob, but the little thingie that clicks the door closed, isn't moving. The bathroom door wasn't locked. It was just closed.

The alarm is blaring, the phone goes, it's the alarm company. Of course I can't get to the phone.

My cell phone goes off because it's the back up number. My phone is outside the bathroom.

The alarm finally stopped after about 10 minutes and then about 5 minutes after that, the doorbell goes off, because the police are at my house.

I guess they checked all the doors and saw the place was locked and left.

During all this, I'm trying to get out of the bathroom. If I was outside the bathroom, it would have been easy enough to slip the lock with a credit card, but I'm stuck inside.

Oh, and Sukie is out for the day and would not be back until about 8 PM.

I frantically rummage through the medicine cabinets, and all I have are two pairs of scissors for trimming mustaches and beards, a pair of tweezers, and nail clippers that have a built-in nail file.

I have my wallet and try various cards, but again, because I'm inside the bathroom they don't do any good.

I finally, possibly over an hour later freed myself, using a combination of the scissors and nail file.

I also managed to really cut up about 3 fingers on one hand from having to apply pressure to the open scissors. So there was blood over the door, over the implements and over several credit cards! I guess I was too focused at the time to realize that I was cutting myself.

I did lapse into a rather male moment at one point and punched the door, then cradling my hand wondered what that was all about and where it came from.

So, I'm going to give up on the rest of the day and just play.

Sorry about your day! What a mess, but it sounds like a cartoon could be made from it. Let us know when you can laugh about it.

 

[iankh]

Sorry about your day! What a mess, but it sounds like a cartoon could be made from it. Let us know when you can laugh about it.

I was laughing about it after I was freed. I called the alarm company, just to close the loop on things since they called. I could hear the rep starting to giggle as I explained to her what happened we laughed about it.

I also had to explain it to my neighbors, since the police were here, crawling all around the house and their houses.

Meanwhile, Ian's locked in the bathroom.

The door wasn't even locked, it was just shut with the little catch. That will teach me to close the bathroom door!

 

[katypop]

Thanks Deb...

It's just that I think that I am beginning to fall apart...

It's not that the money won't happen, but I'm running out of time on SO many things this summer that the stress has gotten to me...

I am feeling quite embarrassed by it all and I wish that things were very different...

It is essentially out of my hands... my future is in the hands of people I don't know and I am feeling very weak right now...

I've started the all too familiar feelings that people will see me as a failure and a fraud and I've worked too hard for that to happen.

Even if I get the call tomorrow - some things will work out well... others not.

It's going to take alot to recover...

congrats on reaching that goal Deb

Michelle, life is too short to worry about appearances. You are a great person and you know that. Savor what is in your daily life and the rest of it will come. And we are here for you to vent when you are feeling blue

Oh Chelle, it's going to be ok. You have to realize that you don't have total control and it's ok. Just let it go. This is your lesson that you need to experience.

You should feel proud of the work that you have done. It does not matter what others perceive. It only matters what you know to be true in your heart. And everyone that loves you....family and friends....know that too.

Let go of the stress....what works out will and what doesn't wasn't meant to in the first place. Accept it and let it be.

Look at all the pluses in your life and be greatful for them. Stop looking at what you don't have and still want because you probably don't need it anyway.

I know, easier said than done. I get it. You work so hard, you strive to achieve something nice and it doesn't happen for you. You have earned it and yet there is no compensation. You get so frustrated and it brings you down. Wallow in it for a day....then pick yourself up and start all over again. You're better than that, don't let it beat you.

Patience is another virtue and a good lesson. There are delays but in time I think you'll see a good end result.

As an example....I'm pretty sure that John and I lost all opportunity to build our home on our property in Delaware. We wiped ourselves out financially when mom died and we had to cover so many expenses. The economy has trashed since then and no one is lending. IndyMac has been bought out and they are holding our loan for the land and further construction. We don't have a dime left in the budget each month because of the ongoing and increasing expenses for Ray every month. We have one year left before we have to decide to put it on the market to sell. We'll never see any return on it and we'll be lucky to break even.

Oh well. Life is real. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and whenever John is able to retire now, even that's in question lately, we'll just go to Delaware and get an apartment to live in. What's the big deal. We'll probably be too old to care for a house anyway and it'll be easier to live in an apartment. We don't give up our dreams, we just make some adjustments. Life is all about compromise....there's your plan, His plan and then somewhere in the middle is reality.

You're young, attractive, intelligent, witty, charming, loyal, giving, so funny and are loved by many. You can do anything. It's time to make some lemonade.

Hugs and much love....

Thanks everyone...

rough night... I'll be back later to chat...

Michelle
Everyone here is so special, they have already so eloquently put into words how special you are.I hope you're starting to feel a bit better

 

[katypop]

Oh my goodness are the planets in some sort of wierd alignment? We need a lot of this

and quite a bit of this

for our little DIS family here!

And here's a cheer of support for Paul on Monday too!

Nan, Deb, Ian and anyone else who needs them
I almost posted yesterday about how I've just been kinda down lately, one of the reasons I'm behind on here again...but didn't What is going on this month?

Ian, I am truly sorry for your horrible day......................... but thanks for lightening ours

 

[katypop]

Oh yeah, book people...I just saw The Time Travellers Wife is coming to the theater mid August. Who is going? Me for sure

I saw the trailer a week or so ago and am sooo excited about this movie. I jumped (and probably made some kind of noise) when the trailer started and got one of those looks from Peg ( ). It looks like they've done a good job with it from what I can tell by the trailer.

Keeping with the theme of being behind......

I am just now FINALLY reading this book!! I am about halfway through. I am really enjoying it, although it is rather confusing at the same time I doubt I'll get a chance to see the movie before our cruise, so you'll all have to give me your review of it

 

[katypop]

Sorry about your day! What a mess, but it sounds like a cartoon could be made from it. Let us know when you can laugh about it.

Hi Gydell!!! How is your summer going?

 

[katypop]

Chances are he won't see it, because I really think that most men just don't they are not wired that way.

I'm sure I'll be better, if not today then by tomorrow.

I tell ya, I'd like to get on an airplane land at MCO and get on a ship today....

ALONE

I'm really happy that I decided to join Monica and crew for Tortola. It is helping me keep sane knowing that I can have something just for me in the near future

I'm glad you'll be joining us too

 

[nskjerven]

Nan, I have to tell you something that Sandi told me a long time ago. When we were younger and all lived together, Sandi would hear me complain about telling John 15 times that I needed him to do something for me. Sandi told me that he just doesn't remember because it's not happening to him. She said that if I wanted it done I had to make it affect him....then he'll realize it and take care of it. Ya know, I tried it and it worked.

Time has changed all that anyway. Now John just says, what do you need me to do? Then he just does it.

Because you have things running smoothly with the family life, it doesn't affect Paul or the kids. If per chance you make Paul be responsible for a certain task because you're just not going to be available at that time....an urgent appointment with a girfriend or spa date....then he will have to handle it directly. He'll surely learn to appreciate what you do so that he doesn't have to. Try it. What have you got to lose?

I'm really glad that you're coming to Tortola with us. You definitely deserve some Nan time with pampering!!! Many hugs with love....now bring on the Rum!

that is the issue, no one sees what I do because it all just flows and rather nicely with a Disney cruise thrown in for good measure every now and then too

I'm going on roommate strike. I kicked the children out of my bathroom which we share and they never help clean, and use my bath towel with their grimmy hands which totally grosses me out so from now on they can share a bathroom with their father. Who of course don't keep his bathroom clean, but I'm not using it so I don't care. Gave up the fight with him a long time ago

Also, I'm not doing their laundry anymore either.

They will figure it out.

I'm done and they are going to be upset for the "new" way things will be around here but oh well since I "never made any difference anyways" it shouldn't bother them

When they see it and show me they are sorry I hope we can reconcile and I'll go back to doing it again, but for now I think we have turned into roommates each person takes care of themselves.

And on that note, I was SOOOO happy after I cleaned my bathroom an hour ago, because I know the next time I use it it will STILL be clean

OMG what are they putting in the water these days? Ian, that is the MOST horrible day I could ever think of. I'm so, so sorry this happened to you. Don't hate me, I laughed so hard just now reading one calamity after another. It's hard to believe, it's right out of a movie. I can see the scene in my head and I'm very fearful for you....I mean it. But as I keep reading, I'm still laughing.

I'm just happy that you finally made it out of there, bleeding, but out.

Hugs sweetie, you need them too!

I'm glad you laughed Deb, because I was too.

Ian, that sucks. Moveover, what if you were dead in there by the person that had broken in your house??? Shouldn't the police have tried to make sure you were ok? Didn't the alarm company also call Sukie?

Ice your hand so it doesn't hurt you later

Nan, Deb, Ian and anyone else who needs them
I almost posted yesterday about how I've just been kinda down lately, one of the reasons I'm behind on here again...but didn't What is going on this month?

Ian, I am truly sorry for your horrible day......................... but thanks for lightening ours

Kathe Did you son get off on a good note when he left? I'm sure it was fun to see him but nice to have him gone too (well the mess anyways right

Keeping with the theme of being behind......

I am just now FINALLY reading this book!! I am about halfway through. I am really enjoying it, although it is rather confusing at the same time I doubt I'll get a chance to see the movie before our cruise, so you'll all have to give me your review of it

It took me a minute to get into the back and forth of the story, but once you just suspend belief it's a great love story.

 

[gydell]

Hi Gydell!!! How is your summer going?

Going good! Just got back from a few days in the mountains. It's hard to imagine that school starts for the kids here in 2 weeks. How's your summer going? I did book a 4 night cruise for Nov 29, so I'm excited about seeing the decorations!!!