Wasn't there a thread on Odd Neighbors? Have I got a story!

[kadaten]

I know you're trying to preserve your daughter's friendship with this girl, but I don't know that I'd want my kid hanging out at her house. She (the mom) sounds a little loopy to me....someone I might want to keep my kids away from. If she doesn't mind stealing from you right under your nose and then denies it rather than admit her mistake and apologize, who knows what else she might be capable of? I don't know....hard to say...but I might encourage my DD to look for other friends Sad situation all around....sorry

 

[Lollipop's Mom]

Well the good thing is they spend all their time here. My daughter apparently has better 'stuff', so they like to come here. Also I think Jane likes me better than her own mom. LOL. Now I can see why!

 

[dumboiu]

Maybe you could have the e-bay sellers track the packages through the post office (or whatever form of shipment they used). That would at least PROVE that the items were delivered to your neighbor on such-and-such day and that they haven't been lost.

Your neighbor sounds amazing. I am so sorry!

 

[kilee]

Such a sticky situation. I don't know. By letting it go-- I think you're possibly paving the way for bigger problems in the end. I'm not good at confrontation so I don't know how I'd handle it. I don't know that the Post Office would be much help considering you didn't pay for forwarding (I still can't believe they charge for this).

We have neighboors who have done many "over-the-top" things. I didn't want to say anything because DS plays w/ their DS. Anyhow, it has gotten really bad. They take such advantage of us, and have not an ounce of neighboorly condsideration. All because when we first moved in, I wanted to be a good neighboor and let them get away with everything. So just way the pros and cons of letting it slide. She sounds like a winner.

 

[vickyBaby]

Canada Post Corporation Act
Chapter C-10

48. Every person commits an offence who, except where expressly authorized by or under this Act or the Customs Act, knowingly opens, keeps, secretes, delays or detains, or permits to be opened, kept, secreted, delayed or detained, any mail bag or mail or any receptacle or device authorized by the Corporation for the posting of mail.

R.S., 1985, c. C-10, s. 48; R.S., 1985, c. 1 (2nd Supp.), s. 172.

Abandonment of mail
49. Every person commits an offence who unlawfully and knowingly abandons, misdirects, obstructs, delays or detains the progress of any mail or mail conveyance.

1980-81-82-83, c. 54, s. 43.

http://laws.justice.gc.ca/en/C-10/21021.html#rid-21194

Go to your local post office and speak to a supervisor. Bring copies of what you bought and how much you spent.
The post office would be the governing agency in this situation.

 

[HappyMommy2]

Just read your update and I am flabbergasted. Like you, I thought the lady would be embarrassed and make up a story (like say she was expecting gifts from Grandma for Jane and she thought those were the gifts, and she'd be happy to give them back now that she realized her mistake, or whatever)--I can't believe she told you what she did!

I'm glad the girls spend their time at your house and not your neighbor's. I don't think I'd let my child spend any time in the home of a woman like that Who knows what she might do next?

 

[disykat]

I think your neighbor (among other problems) is a kleptomaniac. When I was in college things would go missing from the dorm washing machines. I was sitting next to a gal from my dorm (in psychology class of all places) and she was wearing my shirt! I told her mine had gone missing and had the exact same flaw on the sleeve. She made up an elaborate story about how it had arrived in a care package from her family. Yeah, right. I couldn't believe she would just smoothly lie to my face. Later that year a friend of mine caught her pocketing candy in the bookstore.

I'd definately get a PO Box and watch your patio furniture etc. because I think she's very likely to do this again.

What a horrible dilema for you!

 

[Lollipop's Mom]

So I have decided to write her a letter and leave it on her windshield (figure she will get it there LOL).
I basically wrote ...I know you are embarrassed by what you have done, but lets put this behind us, I wasn't born yesterday, etc...etc...... and gave her the option of paying me for the clothes or giving them back. Its a good full page long...explaining what I went through to find that shirt, and how badly my daughter wanted jeans with sequins,etc.... playing a guilt trip. Offering the clothes to her daughter so she never knows, but here is the total $$$. Said I was willing to let it all go and be forgotten, that we all make mistakes (YOU STUPID KLEPTO!! - no I left that out!)
I will let you know how it goes!

 

[epcotfan]

Wow, I can't believe this story! Was a signature supplied or was there any delivery confirmation? I would see if you can get copies of tracking numbers for the items. I can't believe this woman's nerve! I hope this is resolved to your satisfaction.

I get annoyed with some of the postal delivery people that come to my building. Instead of leaving a slip saying my oversized item will be left at the PO they hand it off to the Super. On several occasions she has held time sensitive packages for a week without my knowledge. Trust me, get a PO Box.

 

[Divamomto3]

Oh I can't wait to hear the update after the crazy witch gets the letter!

I too would be leary of my daughter hanging out over there. The lady is a whack job. How stupid can she be? What's she smoking out in the car?

 

[BedKnobbery2]

Any update yet?

 

[tmq2766]

This is cracking me up....... I cannot wait to hear the update.

 

[luv2nascar]

OH boy
I wouldn't be very nice
and my daughter's friendship with the crazy ladies daughter would be over
sorry we don't hang out with losers like that
usually the leaf doesn't fall far from the tree

 

[Hillbeans]

This neighbor is a looney toon. Just for the fact she opened mail addressed to you and actually put her daughter in the clothes is unreal. Your daughter can make other friends (I know, it's tough esp. living near them) but how can you ever trust this woman again?? You're doing all the right things. I still can't believe that there are people who do stuff like this and then flaunt it right under your nose. You can tell her you may take it to a higher authority if you really think it may help.

 

[WeirdEyes]

Where is the update? I need an update!

 

[jeleebeene]

Oh my, I would be SO mad!!!! Once, many years ago, our inlaws opened a piece of our mail and I about flipped. I love them, but told them next time, family or not, I would report them as it is against the law to open someone else's mail. I was not going to put up with that - I didn't go into their home and open mail, so I expect the same courtesy.

Well, now that we live in TN, we don't have to worry about that anymore. I just don't understand how anyone can claim something as their own, when they HAVE to know that it isn't theirs.

Some people are just SAD!!!

 

[Big V]

Wow, what a story this is! She sounds like a Fruit Loop to me!

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I can't wait for the update.

Wow. I agree with the posts that say I'd be more concerned about my childs safety than with her friendship with this loons daughter. I'm sorry poor Jane has to live with this crazy lady but really, I'd take legal action because she will do it again.

 

[HollyJoy]

Well I would go ahead and spend the $40 and get the change of address. FIRST THING. Secondly, you might want to approach your neighbor and let her know that opening someone elses mail is a Federal Offense, and that you're not quite sure what type of penalty stealing the contents might be, but you're quite sure it's high. THE NERVE OF HER! As for the merchandise she has taken, she needs to return it AND pay for the damaged shirt!

 

[Celluloidgal]