First up; OP, a big

for not causing a huge scene when in the situation you were in and having an open mind in this topic. As said before; refreshing.
Even though we always ask for a note about needing an aisle chair at least 48 hours before our flight and make sure the gate agent knows we need to preboard, about 1/3 of the time they forget and start boarding other passengers before us. When that happens, boarding has to stop while we board with the aisle chair.
Wow Sue, thankfully never ran into that one. I actually have a totally different 'score', so to say. Where ever I fly, but esp. in the US, everybody is SO on top of things when it comes to preboarding, aislechair and that stuff. Some other accomodations are another thing with certain idiotic airlines, but that's a different subject.

I always seem to have everybody on the look out for me, starting at the check in. I do fly solo a lot, but also fly nonsolo regularly and same experience for those flights. As a result of that, I only recheck everything is in the system and known at time of check in and am done with it. Only thing I can think of that gives me the 100% rate is that I always use airport assistance for at least the boarding part. But than again, your family probably also does. Don't see a way to use the aislechair to board without assistance.
On one recent trip, they forgot to get an aisle chair and, as a result, said they would need to board us last, after every other passenger had boarded. We chose to carry DD on because boarding just before the doors shut would not have allowed enough time to get her settled and she would not have liked the whole plane watch her get wheeled on in the aisle chair.
Hmm, I'm different when it comes to such a situation. Sometimes it isn't possible to preboard. Whether it is because a connecting flight is in "later" and boarding of flight 2 already started, because the extra security check took a bit longer, something else needs to be taked over, so many things can happen. Forgetting is the same thing for me, it's not like the GA's conciously made the decission "let's forget the aislechair and cause a problem". It's human to error sometimes and when no ill intentions are the motivating factor; oh well. I've had it happen that I didn't preboard because of some things not going as planned/hoped. I personally have no problem with that. Only ground I stand is that no carry on will be gatechecked in case of 'lack of overhead space', refusing to hand them over my medical stuff. Never been a problem, space was made on the one time it was needed. If the flight gets delayed in it's take of because it takes me time to get settled in? I'm thick skinned; NOT my responsibility. I book my flights in such a way I leave hours for a connecting flight, am at the airport very early, have my needs known, so nothing more I can do. I mean, they've held up flights on "my behalf" because they started loading my powerchair unbelievably late. Not my responsibility, just like anybody else that just makes a tight connection after a delay that might case a delay on that second flight.
Don't want to be seen? I know there are enough folks out there with that sentiment, but honestly? I'm hard, I kinda have the sentiment that folks need to get over that. Preboarding can not always be accomodated, so be it. Aislechairs are a bit more uncomfortable and will draw some attention, but so will being in a wheelchair to begin with. So will preboarding. If folks look; not my problem. Can't blame them, I would've given it a second glare if I weren't using a wheelchair myself. Not something you see on every flight. Heck, I want to go to the bathroom if needed, so that'll be the show in and of itself. Some folks apparently feel so strongly about "hide it, do not want others to see" that they'ld rather crawl to the bathroom than use the aislechair/onboard chair. Now call me stupid and insensitive, but to me that is calling a lot more attention to yourself than using an aislechair.
Expirateshopgirl; I get where you are coming from. Might have to do with my background, but I'm not always 'getting' it either. I can understand having to do a whipe down in case of certain not too bad peanut allergies and preboarding can speed up boarding for all in such a situation. I can understand some kids with autism problems on certain issues needing a 100% being sure a parent is with them and on an airline as SW that does no seat assignment thus needing preboarding with a parent. But I have seen things in my day that did make me go

"must be me, but I have no clue what would require a preboard for that". I realise very much I don't always know or see all and just go back to that combined with "not my business" and 'must be me', but sometimes it does intruege me. Never really given it much thinking until this topic, but now that I have I do find it rather noticable that when preboarding would be done on the flights I'm on, they devide those having preboarding. I always get on first and solo and/or with the person I'm travelling with. Not until I'm settled, they start preboarding the rest. Whether needs are acutely noticable (read; physical need that you can see from the way somebody moves) or not; always had the same thing happen. Hmm.
That and of course many a times frequent flyers being peed off that they don't get to preboard until I'm done. Always amusing.
