Vent About My Dad

[Wishing on a star]

If none of this sounds good to you, then take the next step into adulthood. Get your own place. You'll feel better about yourself, your life, and hopefully pudding issues will not have a big priority in you're life.

How completely sad is it for an adult in their 20's for 'pudding' to be an issue at all...

 

[boomhauer]

How completely sad is it for an adult in their 20's for 'pudding' to be an issue at all...

I disagree. If pudding was a big issue in my life, I'd be ecstatic!!!

 

[disneyfav4ever]

No offense taken. I am sure I borrowed way more then you did, which is why it took me ten years to pay the loan off. I just took a standard 10 year college loan with an extremely low fixed interest rate, so there was really no incentive for me to pay the loan off early. That loan allowed me to go to an expensive private college which I enjoyed very much.

I understand your frustration with your parents. I am just trying to show you that it is possible for you to move out.

I have a high interest, so I really want to get the rest paid off ASAP. I actually took out two loans, but one is already paid off.

 

[mickeyfan2]

No offense, but I do not want to still be paying off my student loans while I'm in my 30's. I'm almost done paying them off now, so hopefully that will be one less thing I have to worry about soon.

DH and I both had student loans, moved out of our parents homes when we finished college and we did it took us less than four years to pay off our loans. Once can reduce debt and be an adult at the same time. We also paid off the first new car we bought just out of college in a little over a year and the second new car we bought two years after getting out of college in only one year. During that time there were NO WDW vacations. We wanted to be debt free so we could get a home. We then saved for our home and started construction eight years after college. We now take one to two WDW vacations per year. We are reaping the rewards of our hard work.

I think the reason we could do all of this is DH and I both took jobs in our college field of study and not the easy job.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Okay, in a way, ya got me there!!!

 

[Mkrop]

No offense, but I do not want to still be paying off my student loans while I'm in my 30's. I'm almost done paying them off now, so hopefully that will be one less thing I have to worry about soon.

You really just dont get it do you

 

[mickeyfan2]

Well it's clear that you place a higher value on paying off your debt more quickly than on your emotional and mental well being.

Make no mistake about it. You are paying off your financial debt but it is at at a very high cost. The price you are paying for your financial freedom is your dignity, self-esteem and self-respect. And your pudding.

This is great advise.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

It has been previously suggested that you move in with your grandmother. You could pay her the rent you pay your parents, she has some help and some companionship, and all your problems with your parents are solved. It was a great suggestion at the time, and is still an excellent solution to your problems without you incurring ANY additional expenses. At the time you said that your father wouldn't let you live with your grandmother. Since both you and granny are grown women, and you are preparing to marry a man your parents don't want you to marry anyway, what the heck is the difference???

I believe I answered this in the other thread, but if you missed it, my dad owns the building my grandmother's in, and she rents from him.

Wishing On A Star - I guess that means she should have no rights either since she's family? Or does that guideline just pretain to me?

 

[mickeyfan2]

I have a high interest, so I really want to get the rest paid off ASAP. I actually took out two loans, but one is already paid off.

With that reasoning you should cancel your WDW trip ASAP and pay off the high interest loan and then your own apartment is so much more affordable.

 

[Wishing on a star]

The issue is not whether one can be an adult and pay of student loans at the same time.... Not the issue at all...

The issue is that the OP is using this as one flimsy excuse to mask her real problem.


She has been almost rendered immobile when it comes to taking any action in her own life. I do not suppose to know why... perhaps it is indeed that she is the victim of controlling abusive parents. Perhaps this is due to other issues such as some kind of mental/psychological disability. (my son has a neurological disability which may impact his ability to become independant) If I had to offer a guess or an opinion, I would say that I suspect a combination of both of the above.

Whatever the case. The OP needs to realize that her excuses are useless and transparant. She needs to realize that she is not in a normal or healthy situation. And, she needs to seek some professional help if this is what is needed to help her to move forward.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I believe I answered this in the other thread, but if you missed it, my dad owns the building my grandmother's in, and she rents from him.

Since Grandma rents and you rent then you two could both rent together and get landlord pig out of the picture.

 

[ckret01]

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[Wishing on a star]

I believe I answered this in the other thread, but if you missed it, my dad owns the building my grandmother's in, and she rents from him.

Wishing On A Star - I guess that means she should have no rights either since she's family? Or does that guideline just pretain to me?

Yes, it pertains to her as well. I highly suspect that your parents are overly involved with her life too.

The real kicker, though, is that she is NOT actually in their home, under their same roof.

I stand by my comments.

The fact that you seem to think that you have any rights other than what your parents choose to allow shows a serious break with reality.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

With that reasoning you should cancel your WDW trip ASAP and pay off the high interest loan and then your own apartment is so much more affordable.
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Or you could quit the job as checkout girl at the Grocery store and actually go get a career.

Exactly what College degree did these High Interest Loans pay for again?

 

[Wishing on a star]

Just subscribing

Welcome to the show!!!

We are still in the "previously on...." prologue... you haven't missed a thing!!!!

 

[Ride Junkie]

I am the mother in the house and if something appeared in my fridge OR I made something and one person ate the entire thing I would see that as very rude and inconsiderate regardless of whether it is my house or not. Clearly someone prepared that and expected to eat it-the pudding fairy didn't deliver it.

That's what I was thinking. So the dad walks in, sees a bowl of freshly made pudding, and thinks, "Gee, this must be for me!" and eats the whole bowl? I would think that most normal people would ask, "Hey, who made the pudding? Can I have some?"

When I still lived at home, any food I bought had to be hidden in my room. Otherwise, it vanished within minutes -- my brother was like a vacuum! So I understand where the OP is coming from. It's just rude not to ask.

 

[FayeW]

I believe I answered this in the other thread, but if you missed it, my dad owns the building my grandmother's in, and she rents from him.

So?

What's he going to do...throw granny out if she takes in a room mate?

If I remember correctly, your grandmother has some health issues. He would have to be pretty heartless to deny an aging woman having her grand daughter move in to help her out with the house keeping, shopping etc.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Or you could quit the job as checkout girl at the Grocery store and actually go get a career.

Exactly what College degree did these High Interest Loans pay for again?

Just an FYI... It is very common with a disability or other issues to be able to successfully gain a college degree, even a good GPA, but not be able to handle the demands and to function and produce in the real job world.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I disagree. If pudding was a big issue in my life, I'd be ecstatic!!!

You're assuming though that this is the, or one of, the biggest issues in my life at the moment. It's not. It's just something that I was annoyed by that I wanted to vent about. I do have other things in my life that are worse, I just don't like to post major problems on an internet forum.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Welcome to the show!!!

We are still in the "previously on...." prologue... you haven't missed a thing!!!!

I'm glad that my life is so comical to you.