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He assures her they have enough for retirement, having saved quite a bit plus pensions from previous jobs. Both he and his wife were laid off from fabulous jobs a couple years ago, which is when they incurred much of the debt. Both are working now and doing okay, but not like before.
I'm going to be the voice of dissent. Not knowing the full situation, of course. But based on the above, it sounds like the debt arose from a period of unemployment. And it sounds like the brother is pretty well set for retirement (he should know better than us!). They are both now working, and perfectly poised to save for retirement again, but have debt from their period of unemployment. In that situation, depending on what my numbers were, I would absolutely consider drawing down some funds from retirement to pay down debt. I imagine that the taxes (which will be paid someday, somehow) plus penalties are probably less than a few years of CC interest. If it was a choice between drawing down IRA, paying debt and maxing retirement savings v. paying debt and doing minimum retirement savings, I'd consider the first. Consider it. None of us know the numbers.
And yes, the OPs mom needs to get over it. But so does the brother. I'm not sure why, knowing that his mom is a bit on the dramatic side, he would share this with her.
As with many families the last few years, it was a struggle to make ends meet at that time WITHOUT touching their IRAs or other assets.
) in terms of independence and really, while a close family, we're not fused at the hip, nor really is my mom dramatic. When summarizing a situation, it's not always easy to explain everything and again, lots of other details here I could share but aren't really necessary.
Really though, I appreciate the ideas. Like SO MANY threads here, its not easily discussed with friends IRL or extended family, KWIM? 



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